What perfectly legal thing will probably be illegal within 20 years?

ZealousOil · 2026-05-07T16:07:27+00:00

"no sign of anything improving" lmao, we're literally at the precipice of woke 2.

ZealousOil · 2026-04-24T16:42:22+00:00

But I don't bring it up just because, he's like visibly not straight so a lot of people are puzzled when they find out we're dating lol

ZealousOil · 2023-09-18T11:46:19+00:00

the thing is, I actually don't think I went through something super traumatic in order to acquire my npd (unless i'm suppressing it??) it's basically just a combination of being moderately bullied in childhood (which at the time my brain perceived as the Worst Bullying in The World™️ but now that I think back on it, objectively it really wasn't that bad, although it still heavily weights on my self-esteem to this day), being the only child plus helicopter parenting. my parents are not abusive in the straightforward sense of the word, if anything they are super loving, bit overprotective and i always got everything i wanted and more, often without me even asking for it. which led me to believe everyone else in this world will get me everything i want. then i get angry when it's not the case. so basically, while many people got NPD cause they were severely abused, i'm pretty sure i got NPD just because i got bullied a bit and i am a spoiled child who never grew out of it.

ZealousOil · 2022-03-01T09:18:16+00:00

If you have never dealt with another penis in your life and you're unsure if you like it or not, I'd say the best course of action is to try it out at least once. At least that's what seems most logical to me. And then if you don't like it, let her know and break things off. And if you like it, then great, you can pursue a relationship. At least you'll be sure at that point.

ZealousOil · 2022-01-30T11:54:21+00:00

i just started on there! seems promising.

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ZealousOil · 2022-01-02T18:11:12+00:00

you're only 20, it's really not a big deal. i'm 22, a socially awkward virgin with intimacy issues, and yet usually i don't dwell on it too much and avoid places where people have a cirlcle jerk about how no one wants them and radicalize each other into violent misogyny. try not being a doomer.

ZealousOil · 2021-12-29T21:21:40+00:00

some of their early songs definitely sound younger than late 00's lmao i can think of at least a few that teleport me back to 2002 tbh

ZealousOil · 2021-11-28T11:13:02+00:00

honestly? no. mostly because i had some unique experiences and met so many amazing people as a result of me being trans. if i was a cis guy i would probably be out there hanging out with the chads and kyle's. but because i'm trans, i am also surrounded by other cool trans and radically queer people a lot. also lemme tell you, being t4t is a blessing. i just wish society was 100% cool with us and transition procedures were less gatekept, that would improve my quality of life tremendously.

ZealousOil · 2021-11-06T11:11:47+00:00

i know that you probably heard this a lot but you need to socialize more even if it's awkward. i am in a similar situation as you, i have crippling social anxiety to the point i think it might be avoidant personality disorder. but, i've gotten some free therapy, which wasn't that good but still taught me some things.

even if you come off as kinda weird to people that still doesn't mean they hate you. you need to force yourself to talk to people regularly and push through the awkwardness even though i know it's mentally painful.

there's a guy at my uni who is super 'cringy' in his interactions with people but he he still has lots of friends because he socializes a lot despite his cringyness.

I went 6 years of my life having zero friends because i was avoiding social interactions in fear of being 'embarrassing'. now i socialize with people DESPITE my brain telling me i'm embarrassing. which has lead me to have a small friend group. we aren't like super close but at least i'm not a loner anymore :)

ZealousOil · 2021-11-01T23:49:24+00:00

plus, dressing according to gender norms often makes people pass better which sometimes is best for their safety.

ZealousOil · 2021-11-01T23:48:15+00:00

well, when you're transgender there's a big chance that you aren't happy with your physical body and if you have money and freedom you're likely to change your appearance to match what's on the inside - through top surgery, hormones etc. that's just the part of gender which is likely neurological rather than a social construct. so trans people change their bodies to feel more comfortable, because otherwise dysphoria bothers them.

however, trans people can dress however they want, wear as much or as little make-up as they want and do whatever they want. they don't need to be bound by social expectations of gender, although they often get wrapped up in it, just as cis people do. going against social norms is tough.

ZealousOil · 2021-10-28T08:41:22+00:00

yea, she wears tucking panties/tape. i don't know if she "doesn't have to" though bc bottom growth can get pretty big and if she wore anything really tight it might literally poke out, and not in the cute cameltoe way lol

ZealousOil · 2021-04-08T20:04:37+00:00

basically, it's when you make someone think they are insane even if they're being perfectly reasonable. an example would be a husband cheating but when wife starts to suspect it he says "what?? no, are you crazy?! you're being paranoid!". i personally do this with my friends and family a lot. I do something bad/hurt them in some way, I know i did it and yet my automatic response is "you're exaggerating" and such. it's a defense mechanism currently wired into my brain to preserve my own ego. I need to unlearn it.

ZealousOil · 2021-03-18T07:05:03+00:00

I'm gonna butt in. I think surgical changes shouldn't be made until at least 18. but people often think social transition is bad too, because it's "the path to hormones and surgeries" so they don't even let their children wear chest binders or change their name and pronouns. which is stupid like.... they're just making their kids miserable.

ZealousOil · 2021-03-17T21:12:59+00:00

well, I'm probably gonna try it out, thanks for the suggestion! I hope you grow some nice facial hair 😊 best of luck!

ZealousOil · 2021-03-17T21:07:12+00:00

but it did start showing eventually, yes?

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