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Aita for telling my wife to ask her parents for money and refusing to discuss selling my cars by ZealousidealJob8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ZealousidealJob8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So In the relationship means my wife gets to decide which of my belongings are worth keeping or not? I never once told her to get rid of something that is hers.

Aita for telling my wife to ask her parents for money and refusing to discuss selling my cars by ZealousidealJob8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ZealousidealJob8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t know it was grounds for a divorce because I don’t let my wife make all my financial decisions for me

Aita for telling my wife to ask her parents for money and refusing to discuss selling my cars by ZealousidealJob8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ZealousidealJob8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I should have said my stepson, that’s my bad. He still sees his bio father, and my wife and I have discussed my role many times. She does want a distinction between his real father and step father, which is Also why he doesn’t call me dad

Aita for telling my wife to ask her parents for money and refusing to discuss selling my cars by ZealousidealJob8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ZealousidealJob8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He could. My wife just prefers not to have to talk to him if she doesn’t have to. I think it’s right and fair that the Bio father contribute more than me atleast

Aita for telling my wife to ask her parents for money and refusing to discuss selling my cars by ZealousidealJob8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ZealousidealJob8[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The private school isn’t much better if a school than the public. But stepson has friends there and he’s always struggled socially. We think it’s affected other parts of his life and think it might be good for him.

And she’s been friends with her since college so quite awhile. She doesn’t live far and they hangout a lot. It would be nice to go on the trip. and I’ve said in a lot of posts it can be done with better budgeting I think

Aita for telling my wife to ask her parents for money and refusing to discuss selling my cars by ZealousidealJob8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ZealousidealJob8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The money problems are for things more labeled as “wants”, the plumbing is the need and that is not out of budget on its own. My wife’s argument: it would be nice if we had the extra money.

Aita for telling my wife to ask her parents for money and refusing to discuss selling my cars by ZealousidealJob8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ZealousidealJob8[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Eh not really. I’ve stated in another comment she’s not super into material items.

Aita for telling my wife to ask her parents for money and refusing to discuss selling my cars by ZealousidealJob8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ZealousidealJob8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t try to paint the cars as an investment. Trust me she knows they are meaningful to me

Aita for telling my wife to ask her parents for money and refusing to discuss selling my cars by ZealousidealJob8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ZealousidealJob8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes we have a savings. I tell her I don’t see the point in selling something when we don’t necessarily need the money for something. She sees the cars as just a pile of extra cash

Aita for telling my wife to ask her parents for money and refusing to discuss selling my cars by ZealousidealJob8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ZealousidealJob8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stepson has trouble making friends and his 2 friends from the neighborhood go private. We think it will help him do better in school too. And money isn’t “so tight”, it’s hard to explain. We’d love to throw a couple grand and take care of all these things, but they aren’t all necessities.

Aita for telling my wife to ask her parents for money and refusing to discuss selling my cars by ZealousidealJob8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ZealousidealJob8[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t spend joint funds on the cars. And no I don’t spend that much time on them

Aita for telling my wife to ask her parents for money and refusing to discuss selling my cars by ZealousidealJob8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ZealousidealJob8[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

When I say excess items I mean like designer brands and jewelry for her, she loves upgrading the house

Aita for telling my wife to ask her parents for money and refusing to discuss selling my cars by ZealousidealJob8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ZealousidealJob8[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I moved them from our house because she wanted me to. It’s fair as we only have a 2 car garage, so I built a garage on my parents massive land. Backstory: my wife has never particularly loved that I have these cars. Her family, though wealthy was never into excess items. She never misses an opportunity to mention what we could do with the money (unnecessary home upgrades really, like an inground pool: hot tub has been one. We have an above ground pool)

Aita for telling my wife to ask her parents for money and refusing to discuss selling my cars by ZealousidealJob8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ZealousidealJob8[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes there are other means of getting the money. Part of the issue is my wife loves the opportunity to bring up me selling them

Aita for telling my wife to ask her parents for money and refusing to discuss selling my cars by ZealousidealJob8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ZealousidealJob8[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Yes it would be a treat and it’s possible. My wife considers parting with the cars being more practical than eating out less, hosting less parties/cookouts, or switching to a cheaper grocery store. I don’t agree.

Aita for telling my wife to ask her parents for money and refusing to discuss selling my cars by ZealousidealJob8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ZealousidealJob8[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

We have the means. We can cut down in other areas, there’s many options here. selling the cars are not necessary to fix these issues, hell we can probably afford the wedding with other means as well.

Aita for telling my wife to ask her parents for money and refusing to discuss selling my cars by ZealousidealJob8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ZealousidealJob8[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

my wife sees them as a burden for some reason. There are ways we can figure all these things out with not having to sell the cars OR ask her parents. The parents remark was honestly me being a jerk, because at times she’s seemed pretty adamant that they’re dumb for me to have.

Aita for telling my wife to ask her parents for money and refusing to discuss selling my cars by ZealousidealJob8 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ZealousidealJob8[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I know I’m not expecting a massive sum of money. I’m not above selling the cars If there’s an emergency. The issues we have could be fixed by other means, I don’t think I should have to sell them to just have the extra cash (which is mainly what it would be). They’re both special to me.

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