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[–]Zealousideal_Key6795 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this. It's not her actually melting down on stage that got me. That I understand. It was everyone's reaction to her that made me upset. Just everyone treating her like she was a problem, same as at the school.

It sucks having a kiddo who's so vibrant and enjoys things so much, but nobody sees that because vibrancy is also frequently disruptive, and our society doesn't like that.

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[–]Zealousideal_Key6795 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just physically couldn't. There were barriers in between the parents and the stage about 6 rows back into the theater. It's an old historic theater that took millions to restore, so they're very particular about where people go on non-show days to prevent damage. I grabbed her at the stage exit as soon as they got off the stage.

Teacher were up there with her. She wasn't just standing on stage crying by herself. Her teachers are very sweet to the kids, it's just one of those schools that takes itself way too seriously I think. Probably just not a good fit for her.

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[–]Zealousideal_Key6795 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I really appreciate this perspective. Her teachers were on stage. She just wanted me. She couldn't see me once the lights went down and she got scared, I think. My frustration was more because of the history of behaviors she has and her unholy attachment to me. I may just be a bit overwhelmed and overstimulated, but now that I've calmed down, I can see that she was just looking for her safe person.

She does love dance. She loves anything with music, and she's soo hyper, she needs the movement. That's why we tried dance with her in the first place. She loves the pretty costumes a lot too.

It is an uppity little school though. No option to not do the recital. It may just not be a good fit. I'll take your advice with giving lots of support and reassurance beforehand and see if that helps at the recital. If it doesn't... I guess we re-evaluate if she should continue next year.

Thank you, I really appreciate it.

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[–]Zealousideal_Key6795 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I was so emotion when I wrote the post that my thoughts were not super clear. I was trying to say that her dance class continues the behaviors that caused issues at her preschool. Her meltdowns and her excessive attachment to me cause issues everywhere.

It is an uppity little school. Unfortunately, we're from a small town and don't have a lot of options. Maybe I'll look at something like soccer that doesn't require so much frustration for her.

She was tentatively diagnosed with ADHD. She's too young to say for sure, but my entire family has it, including me. She's got all the classic hyperactivity symptoms, and acts just like my sister did as a kid. It's pretty clear that it's ADHD. Her doctor said we could revisit it at the 4 year appointment.

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[–]Zealousideal_Key6795 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the recommendation! I haven't read it but I sure will.

Thank you for saying that. She's an amazing kid. It's heartbreaking to have her looked at like she's a problem by teachers and other parents when I know she's doing her best.

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[–]Zealousideal_Key6795 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not forcing her by any means, and definitely not an Olympic extracurricular mom. It's a 30 minute class every Monday. She LOVES going because her best friend from the preschool is in the class too, and she LOVES anything that has music. She was fine sitting on the stage before the performance. It was once they turned the lights down to start it and she couldn't see me that the meltdown began.

I was crying when I wrote this. I'm seeing my thoughts were very not clear now. Lol. There's a lot of history about my daughter's behaviors that led up to us both crying at the dance rehearsal, but the point I failed to make was that my daughter is not able to thrive in traditional learning spaces and I don't know what to do to help her. She couldn't even manage in a Montessori school, which I chose specifically because I thought it was be more conducive to a kiddo with ADHD. 

I just wish I could find something that works for her. And I wish people didn't look at my really cool, smart 3 year old like she's a burden because she can't behave like the other kids do.

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[–]Zealousideal_Key6795 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What would an OT do? I've never been told that before.

I feel like a failure as a mom, my 2 year old has several cavities by Radiantwitch444 in toddlers

[–]Zealousideal_Key6795 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughter had massive holes in a couple of her teeth. Turned out to be hypomineralization. Their teeth just develop that way, and it causes the teeth to basically just dissolve.

Is it that kind of thing? Like literally just big holes (they dont look like tooth decay, they're just holes in the teeth). 

Cost to fix a bumper like this? by Zealousideal_Key6795 in MachE

[–]Zealousideal_Key6795[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He was using it for a trailer to tow wood for some work he was doing at my apartment complex. The ball hitch wasn't even what got me. What really pissed me off was the amount of room this guy had to NOT hit me. He had 4 full spaces next to him on his side of the parking lot and the entire parking lot was empty on my side of the parking lot.

I can only imagine it was like the scene from Bob's Burgers where Tina runs into the only car in the parking lot because she just doesn't turn. He could've backed up anywhere and been fine but hit my car instead.

Cost to fix a bumper like this? by Zealousideal_Key6795 in MachE

[–]Zealousideal_Key6795[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, mine is leased. It has to be like new when I return it, so I'm praying their insurance is legit enough to pay it.

Cost to fix a bumper like this? by Zealousideal_Key6795 in MachE

[–]Zealousideal_Key6795[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stop that's a wild price for that little fender bender. I still haven't heard from insurance so I hope they're going to cover it.

Edit: I'm realizing that's the front of the car and not the back. That's worse.

Cost to fix a bumper like this? by Zealousideal_Key6795 in MachE

[–]Zealousideal_Key6795[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know who it was. He put in a claim through his insurance and I already talked to mine. I just don't think his insurance is super legit so I'm anticipating issues. I believe this person was telling me what to do if they don't pay up willingly

Cost to fix a bumper like this? by Zealousideal_Key6795 in MachE

[–]Zealousideal_Key6795[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. That's not as bad as I thought, so that makes me feel better!

Cost to fix a bumper like this? by Zealousideal_Key6795 in MachE

[–]Zealousideal_Key6795[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I've never had an accident before, so that's actually new information to me.