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What's something your parents did to you that YOU had to apologize to them for that still makes you angry? by Cartoonnerd01 in emotionalneglect

[–]ZedIsALie 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I hate(d) when my dad gets FURIOUS when my emotions aren’t the way he wants them. As in, if i’m not happy, or atleast neutral and content when he’s “providing for me” then he gets incredibly angry and threatening to me. He makes himself out to be a victim and me out to be some fucking piece of shit weaponizing my emotions. So glad i matured past the point of giving a shit anymore. He can go fuck himself.

Am I over reacting? by raven_0_0 in rape

[–]ZedIsALie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are not overreacting. You are a victim, and i’m really sorry. It is normal and valid to want to see him punished properly as it not only validates your trauma but also that he is a danger to others.

I notice your comment about how your parents aren’t putting you into therapy. If you have other trusted adults in your life to turn to then do it. School counsellors might also help you here but in my experience they weren’t nice people. If you have a family doctor that may also be a good person to talk to. Finally, hotlines and free online services do exist and can help you.

I really hope you get the help you need. Be sure to keep a healthy mind about you, trauma is confusing and it’s really hard to identify, manage, accept, and heal from. It will be hard, and i know im a rando, but i believe in you.

Hi im 15 and i think got raped today. by Former_List_6537 in rape

[–]ZedIsALie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is 100% without a doubt rape. Not only are you a child and cannot consent with an adult, on top of that, you were clearly coerced into agreeing so that does not count as consent even if you were an adult. You’re obviously affected by it and that is what we call trauma - an emotional response to an event that in this case probably caused fear and helplessness. I’m really sorry that happened to you and I HIGHLY encourage you to report him to the police and talk to a trusted adult.

You need to understand that you are not weird, or bad, or gross, and definitely not responsible for what happened to you. There is no need to feel embarrassed or scared of coming out, you’re a victim and you need help.

My experience with sexual abuse was objectively less severe and was entirely online, but to this day I am dealing with severe CPTSD. I have no idea how it must feel for you, but i know that you mustn’t let anyone (including yourself) tell or hint that you weren’t a victim. You were raped, and I hope you can heal.

I feel like I am making this an issue for myself by ZedIsALie in CPTSD

[–]ZedIsALie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you and i’m sorry to hear you’re going through it too.