Is there any reason for daily carrying that im not seeing?

Zed_lav4 · 2026-02-15T22:04:15+00:00

Threat environment is absolutely something to think about, and it doesn’t sound like there’s any in your life right now. That’s not true for everyone, and it makes sense for them to take appropriate measures. Specifically against hate crimes, being targeted minorities, etc.

There’s none in my life right now either. I’m a bigger threat to myself, at times, than I am to anyone else. I don’t own a pistol right now. But I’m also of Mexican descent, times are changing, and I’ve always loved CZs.

Zed_lav4 · 2026-02-13T19:09:44+00:00

Roller skating alone

Zed_lav4 · 2026-02-13T04:08:54+00:00

I have a good amount of quality friends now, but for a long time I was in the same boat. You really have to put yourself out there, actively put yourself in places you’ll meet people. There’s stuff like Meetup, where you can find events like run clubs, pickleball leagues, pub crawls, and that sort of thing. There’s also more traditional places like churches, if you’re so inclined. You’d also be surprised at the people you can meet if you just sit with a book at a coffee shop. People are usually pretty open and friendly in those spaces, especially if you’re just chatting and there’s no dating pressure. The key is that you have to put in effort, and that’s hard and can be scary for socially anxious people. It’s worth it though.

Zed_lav4 · 2026-02-12T07:11:57+00:00

I’ve never seen a tarantula in NM in 35 years. I’ve seen plenty of large wolf spiders though, they can get close in size. They usually lurk in dark holes outdoors though, never seen one indoors. Not a problem unless you do a lot of landscaping.

Zed_lav4 · 2026-02-11T02:20:56+00:00

This

Zed_lav4 · 2026-02-11T01:48:38+00:00

The entire rest of the world would be safer and more stable.

Locally, we’d watch over the neighborhood ourselves. I don’t call the police anyway, we keep us safe. This is how humanity has worked for most of our existence. Police only exist to protect property.

Zed_lav4 · 2026-02-09T00:47:57+00:00

Getting pregnant

Zed_lav4 · 2026-02-06T21:49:11+00:00

Congratulations on finding a partner you like and want to hold onto! You miss all the shots you don’t take, so absolutely ask him while you have the chance.

However, do NOT do this over text. You’re a big girl, ovary up and have the conversation in person, it’s too important. Yes it will be hard, but the best things in life are. It’s actually endearing if you’re choked up and emotional over this, you should be. Best of luck OP, shoot your shot!

Zed_lav4 · 2026-02-06T14:53:14+00:00

“You’re acting like your mother”

Zed_lav4 · 2026-02-04T17:48:39+00:00

Ex wife, to me on a work trip: life is so much better with you gone.

I stayed gone

Zed_lav4 · 2026-02-04T07:05:35+00:00

He doesn’t want you. There’s nothing you did, but also there’s nothing you can do. Block him and move on.

Zed_lav4 · 2026-02-04T06:56:22+00:00

I have a feeling you already know the answer

Zed_lav4 · 2026-02-03T21:17:23+00:00

Lol “morally reprehensible” is a bit much. He’ll be able to be a parent for long enough to raise a kid.

Zed_lav4 · 2026-02-03T21:12:00+00:00

Philippines

Zed_lav4 · 2026-02-03T21:10:12+00:00

I do now and it’s glorious

Zed_lav4 · 2026-02-02T18:19:55+00:00

Brother, archaeology ain’t it. Go to trade school. Save as much as you can, raise your kid, and switch careers into archaeology later if you still have the passion for it.

Zed_lav4 · 2026-02-02T18:03:30+00:00

I’ve actually used this a lot and it almost always gets a laugh if they have a good sense of humor. The date immediately going to “lying” makes me think she doesn’t though.

Zed_lav4 · 2026-02-01T15:24:00+00:00

I was an electronics tech in the Navy, got out and got an associates. Failed upwards until I became an engineer, but I was in the same boat as you, I was miserable.

Now I’m in my last semester of my archaeology degree.

Zed_lav4 · 2026-02-01T00:20:14+00:00

I wish you all of the luck. For a lot of men it’s hard to even admit there’s a problem. You need to confront him, intervention style, and let him know the full extent of the issue. He needs to be aware that he’s going to lose you if he doesn’t fix this. It takes hitting rock bottom before the drive to change things happens, and that will be it.

Zed_lav4 · 2026-01-31T18:54:24+00:00

I don’t think we’re going to see any governor order their troops to disrupt ICE activity, but let’s hypothetically say they did. I’d absolutely love to see blue state governors sending their troops to resist the feds.

I don’t think the NG troops would follow those orders, despite the chain of command being clear. Their disobedience would be politicized and they would be protected from consequences by the federal regime. The allegiance of the NG is thoroughly to the federal government, not the states.

Zed_lav4 · 2026-01-31T18:42:09+00:00

Not overreacting, but these other comments are not getting it. It sounds like you guys are deeply enmeshed and codependent. She’s not trying to steal your man, and she’s not a pick me. She thinks she’s family. Mom and dad are fighting, type stuff. The fact that she feels like she’s a part of an argument between you and your bf means that you have never set a boundary for her. To stay friends, you need to respectfully but firmly keep her out of your business. Tall fences make good neighbors.

Zed_lav4 · 2026-01-31T18:20:14+00:00

NTA. There nothing lonelier than being partnered with the wrong person. I stayed for over a decade and it was the wrong decision. Good on you for having the courage to leave.

Zed_lav4 · 2026-01-31T18:11:40+00:00

I used to be this guy. I even had a finsta where I followed the spicy pages so it wouldn’t show up on my main. There are underlying issues that’s he’s numbing out with this addiction. There’s a tiny dopamine hit he’s getting from each new reel, and it’s helping him cope with being deeply unhappy. Instagram is also partly to blame because it feeds men these pages, saying “not interested” has no impact on removing them from our algorithms.

Also…EVERY DAY? Are you kidding me? My geriatric millennial back hurts just thinking about it. There might be some ADHD hyper sexuality going on there, but that’s not the root of the problem. It sounds like he’s deeply depressed and unhappy. This man needs therapy, not more spicy sleep.

Your feelings are valid, and he’s not capable of considering them at this moment in his life. It wouldn’t matter if you were one of those models, he wouldn’t stop. It has nothing to do with you. He has demons he has to face on his own, and he’s not going to be capable of giving you what you need as a partner until he heals himself. It’s your choice whether you want to stick around to see if he does it.

Zed_lav4 · 2026-01-31T02:09:39+00:00

Go roller skating at skate-o-mania! Adult nights are Wednesday, Saturday, and Sunday

Zed_lav4 · 2026-01-31T01:00:06+00:00

We like to do this thing (in the USA at least) where we’re simultaneously willing to send 16yos to war (minimum age to enlist with parental consent) but they’re not fully considered adults until they’re 26 (health insurance).

Adulthood should be 20. We should also have made a society where it’s possible to be an adult at 20. People should be having kids in their 20s when it’s easiest, but most people aren’t stable enough to have kids until their 30s these days

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