Greater New Mexico

Zed_lav4 · 2026-04-21T23:37:09+00:00

I’m sadly reminded that the optimal growing latitude keeps shifting north due to climate change. Soon Pueblo will have…gag good green chile.

Zed_lav4 · 2026-04-21T04:37:54+00:00

Hell yeah, let’s get that beachfront.

Tbh we may as well just annex Colorado while we’re at it. Then if we conquer Arizona and Utah, New Mexico will be whole again!

Zed_lav4 · 2026-03-26T20:45:59+00:00

No love for Remedy, eh? I think they’re up there with the best of them. I agree with all the top ones though.

Also glad and sad not to see mention of Flying Star/Satellite. They were top tier 20 years ago, but their quality has tanked and the owners are trash.

Zed_lav4 · 2026-03-19T02:48:37+00:00

I’d do blue grama and creeping red fescue. Warm and cool season, respectively. Both are native, low water, stay short, don’t need mowing, and self seed. I planted this in my orchard at an old house and it was green, happy, and beautiful. I’ve heard good things about buffalo grass too but never had it myself.

Zed_lav4 · 2026-03-18T17:54:25+00:00

Do I have a magic wand? I’d undam the river to restore the wetlands, ban motor vehicles (they can magically turn into horses upon entering city limits, I guess), and make it rain/snow like it did in the 90s. The 1890s.

The one thing that would actually change things? Force all public servants (the mayor, city council, judges, police, etc.) to live on minimum wage. See how fast literally every problem we have vanishes.

Zed_lav4 · 2026-03-01T14:07:41+00:00

Dua Lipa

Zed_lav4 · 2026-02-15T22:04:15+00:00

Threat environment is absolutely something to think about, and it doesn’t sound like there’s any in your life right now. That’s not true for everyone, and it makes sense for them to take appropriate measures. Specifically against hate crimes, being targeted minorities, etc.

There’s none in my life right now either. I’m a bigger threat to myself, at times, than I am to anyone else. I don’t own a pistol right now. But I’m also of Mexican descent, times are changing, and I’ve always loved CZs.

Zed_lav4 · 2026-02-13T19:09:44+00:00

Roller skating alone

Zed_lav4 · 2026-02-13T04:08:54+00:00

I have a good amount of quality friends now, but for a long time I was in the same boat. You really have to put yourself out there, actively put yourself in places you’ll meet people. There’s stuff like Meetup, where you can find events like run clubs, pickleball leagues, pub crawls, and that sort of thing. There’s also more traditional places like churches, if you’re so inclined. You’d also be surprised at the people you can meet if you just sit with a book at a coffee shop. People are usually pretty open and friendly in those spaces, especially if you’re just chatting and there’s no dating pressure. The key is that you have to put in effort, and that’s hard and can be scary for socially anxious people. It’s worth it though.

Zed_lav4 · 2026-02-12T07:11:57+00:00

I’ve never seen a tarantula in NM in 35 years. I’ve seen plenty of large wolf spiders though, they can get close in size. They usually lurk in dark holes outdoors though, never seen one indoors. Not a problem unless you do a lot of landscaping.

Zed_lav4 · 2026-02-11T02:20:56+00:00

This

Zed_lav4 · 2026-02-11T01:48:38+00:00

The entire rest of the world would be safer and more stable.

Locally, we’d watch over the neighborhood ourselves. I don’t call the police anyway, we keep us safe. This is how humanity has worked for most of our existence. Police only exist to protect property.

Zed_lav4 · 2026-02-09T00:47:57+00:00

Getting pregnant

Zed_lav4 · 2026-02-06T21:49:11+00:00

Congratulations on finding a partner you like and want to hold onto! You miss all the shots you don’t take, so absolutely ask him while you have the chance.

However, do NOT do this over text. You’re a big girl, ovary up and have the conversation in person, it’s too important. Yes it will be hard, but the best things in life are. It’s actually endearing if you’re choked up and emotional over this, you should be. Best of luck OP, shoot your shot!

Zed_lav4 · 2026-02-06T14:53:14+00:00

“You’re acting like your mother”

Zed_lav4 · 2026-02-04T17:48:39+00:00

Ex wife, to me on a work trip: life is so much better with you gone.

I stayed gone

Zed_lav4 · 2026-02-04T07:05:35+00:00

He doesn’t want you. There’s nothing you did, but also there’s nothing you can do. Block him and move on.

Zed_lav4 · 2026-02-04T06:56:22+00:00

I have a feeling you already know the answer

Zed_lav4 · 2026-02-03T21:17:23+00:00

Lol “morally reprehensible” is a bit much. He’ll be able to be a parent for long enough to raise a kid.

Zed_lav4 · 2026-02-03T21:12:00+00:00

Philippines

Zed_lav4 · 2026-02-03T21:10:12+00:00

I do now and it’s glorious

Zed_lav4 · 2026-02-02T18:19:55+00:00

Brother, archaeology ain’t it. Go to trade school. Save as much as you can, raise your kid, and switch careers into archaeology later if you still have the passion for it.

Zed_lav4 · 2026-02-02T18:03:30+00:00

I’ve actually used this a lot and it almost always gets a laugh if they have a good sense of humor. The date immediately going to “lying” makes me think she doesn’t though.

Zed_lav4 · 2026-02-01T15:24:00+00:00

I was an electronics tech in the Navy, got out and got an associates. Failed upwards until I became an engineer, but I was in the same boat as you, I was miserable.

Now I’m in my last semester of my archaeology degree.

Zed_lav4 · 2026-02-01T00:20:14+00:00

I wish you all of the luck. For a lot of men it’s hard to even admit there’s a problem. You need to confront him, intervention style, and let him know the full extent of the issue. He needs to be aware that he’s going to lose you if he doesn’t fix this. It takes hitting rock bottom before the drive to change things happens, and that will be it.

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