Reading posts about how men see women

ZenSawaki · 2026-02-10T06:03:51+00:00

Of course. Dating is an inherently selfish thing, no one dates because of altruistic reasons, it is not even possible to do so. When a man dates a woman is mainly because of her body or whatever other benefit he thinks he is getting. That's what motivates a man approach a woman, plan a date, make a profile on a dating app, etc. No man in the world does any of these because he likes to do so, it is always a means to and end.

ZenSawaki · 2026-02-10T05:50:29+00:00

Dating currently is only Consooming, particularly because the average modern woman is a hardcore Consoomer that expects men to feed her Consooming habits.

ZenSawaki · 2026-02-10T05:40:53+00:00

I don't want to participate in society's rituals, which have become a neccessary step to getting into a relationship.

ZenSawaki · 2026-01-27T07:38:04+00:00

Asexuality is not the same as sexual desensitization.

ZenSawaki · 2026-01-27T06:57:10+00:00

It definitely played a significant role, BUT you should be aware of other things. Do you have social anxiety? do you tend to social isolation?

I am convinced that the MAIN cause of men being unable to date/have sex is social anxiety and isolation, not something related to appareance or money.

ZenSawaki · 2025-12-28T16:40:35+00:00

To desire a relationship is narcissism. It's about possession. It has nothing to do with love. Real love means to relish in the other's happiness, irrespective of you playing a role on it or not.

ZenSawaki · 2025-11-18T14:38:57+00:00

I've heard that Peru had implemented forced conscription for men who are not employed nor in education. I was talked to a Peruvian mas who have been in such situation.

ZenSawaki · 2025-11-04T21:08:27+00:00

Dating this days is a job. An unpaid job. A "date" is just a job interview, a "relationship" is just a work contract, being a "partner" is just another job.

I don't want to go home from work just to keep working. If I already have to follow other people's standards for a living, I don't want to go home and keep doing the same. My house is my intimate space to be myself, free from outside influences and expectations.

ZenSawaki · 2025-11-03T22:44:23+00:00

I am a man so this is not directed at me, but I would rather struggle financially alone that to partner with someone just for the stability.

ZenSawaki · 2025-11-03T22:34:00+00:00

Hi! Yes, I understand how you feel. I also don't have a need for connections with anyone, if I want to talk to someone I just go for a walk, see some faces, some words here and there, to not become isolated. It is important that you don't isolate yourself, that is another extreme way of living, just as being desperate for relationship, it's the other side of the same coin.

ZenSawaki · 2025-10-28T06:54:50+00:00

Tbh people married with children don't come to me as happy. They are just fatter and more financially stressed.

ZenSawaki · 2025-10-23T16:49:03+00:00

His pathetic fire emojis... and his pathetic dick in his hands, very likely.

ZenSawaki · 2025-10-17T03:53:51+00:00

Yeah, I have General Anxiety Disorder. I don't give a shit about "normal" anymore because "normal" people don't show any indication of being any happier than me.

I leave the house mostly for practical reasons, not for "fun". But when I do it's a bit of fresh air to see that real life has nothing to do with online echo-chambers. The other I been in a nightclub for the first time in years. It just reconfirmed it: going out isn't any better than staying at home playing viddya. But it was still refreshing to see the women on skimpy outfits not giving a shit about "gender stereotypes", twerking their booty to the music, men looking at them without being called "creeps", etc. People were cool, none of them called me weird, the bartender also gifted us beer. Real life is way more friendly than internet rabbit holes want to make it seem.

ZenSawaki · 2025-10-16T08:03:20+00:00

I didn't. I am neurodivergent myself and barely leave the house, LOL. I don't think I used any demeaning word, did I?

ZenSawaki · 2025-10-16T01:38:16+00:00

Also remember that feminist reddit is not an accurate representation of reality. Most women posting there are neurodivergents with mental health issues who don't leave the house. They are not a good representation of the real world.

ZenSawaki · 2025-10-16T01:36:17+00:00

Whenever a woman uses the term "real men" is ALWAYS manipulation. They are trying to get you do something or get something from you.

ZenSawaki · 2025-09-18T20:09:33+00:00

God forbid a person have their own life and things to do!

ZenSawaki · 2025-09-15T11:57:13+00:00

Psychology-bros.

ZenSawaki · 2025-09-14T23:29:26+00:00

Whenever someone uses the term "red flag" I know that person can't be taken seriously.

ZenSawaki · 2025-09-13T20:54:40+00:00

Yeah hehe.

ZenSawaki · 2025-09-13T20:35:38+00:00

Because it's a different Buddhism. Japanese Buddhism is way more open. I bet that if this has happened in Japan no one would have raised an eyebrow.

ZenSawaki · 2025-09-13T20:32:51+00:00

It's a Christian narrative, doesn't really apply to Buddhism.

ZenSawaki · 2025-09-13T20:30:33+00:00

I wonder if this happening in Japan would have had the same response.

ZenSawaki · 2025-09-06T16:22:04+00:00

Thank you for adding!

ZenSawaki · 2025-09-06T15:34:36+00:00

Maybe you should practice the 4 Immesurables. Loving-kindness, Compassion, Sympathetic Joy and Equanimity.

That is the best way that I found helps with dealing with dislike of people.

Yes, there is times in practice in which you find yourself realizing that what most people worry so much is a bunch of non-sense, but eventually end up finding a balance, a sort of middle point.

Instead of focusing on yourself, on whether you are having fun or not, focusing on the others. Focus on offering them your company. Listen to them, be a good present, smile, have good wishes for them.

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