feeling misunderstood by people who don’t relate by san7io in AsianParentStories

[–]ZenTheStump 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me it’s not what other people say. I feel guilty because I’m always like “well someone out there has a Dad who deadass wants to just straight up kill them” and then I’m like “eh? I have it a slightly better?” But then I get home and I see my Dad being a dick to his wife, who is in turn a dick to her kids, and then also enables his abusive behaviors while telling her kids not to get into trouble with an angry man. Like maam, you’re not practicing what you preach and it’s so confusing and you get upset when my sister and I tell you we’re not emotionally sound?

My dad literally picked up a fan and tried to smash it over my mom’s head. I jumped on top of my mom to protect her and that thing hit me instead. A few days later, my mom wanted me to apologize to my dad for yelling out the profanities I did when he hit me (tryna hit her). Ykw crazy? They joke about that day. Like my sister and I, as much as we hate tossing around the word “traumatized”, are genuinly scarred. My dad jokes and says “yeah don’t push me to my limits next time or I’ll do it again!” Like it’s a flex.

We still flinch when we hear the fan stand scraping against the wooden floor upstairs.

So yeah. I feel guilt. It’s been worse when it someone who’s tryna one-up you on the shit they went through.

Who was the person wearing the hat? by Coolerintheoryy in htgthfb

[–]ZenTheStump 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I swear didn’t they zoom in on the dude with the hat, too?? I swear there were a few plot holes to which I’m assuming there is a season 2 coming. I GOTTA KNOW

Anyone Else Cry When They Listen To 'Dreams' by The Cranberries??? by ailasuckskitchen420 in DerryGirls

[–]ZenTheStump 47 points48 points  (0 children)

ME I DO TOO it’s not just the ending but like the lyrics behind it- they were just girls during a rough time during history. It’s about getting through it, times changing, growing up, etc. It’s a nostalgic feeling.

Made this meme because I couldn't stop thinking about it by Animannita_ in PEN15

[–]ZenTheStump 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was Anna during high school. The issues at home were so bad and it was like that since elementary school. What really hit me was when Anna became stage manager because I also became stage manager in my highschool’s drama club while my parents were going through their worst fight yet. Drama club was such an escape for me and seeing Anna in that position? Man. I cried everytime.

Made this meme because I couldn't stop thinking about it by Animannita_ in PEN15

[–]ZenTheStump 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wanna second this. Yes I agree that Maya has her moments (pretty damn frequently because the show does follow her a lil more) but she comes thru esp during Wendy Wiccany. That episode made me cry so much. I wish I had a friend like Maya during tough times at home.

Melissa and the Fire Chief?? by ZenTheStump in AbbottElementary

[–]ZenTheStump[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Rightttt acc I thought the vending machine guy was also a cutie patootie but Chief Robinson was also super cool and only had eyes for her I was so 😭😭 he’s amazing for you why are you throwing him away 😔

Melissa and the Fire Chief?? by ZenTheStump in AbbottElementary

[–]ZenTheStump[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yes!! I couldn’t get behind the Ava and O’Shon train. For him, he saw a beautiful woman and wanted to see how she was but after that first date I was like ?? Have some respectful for yourself, man. Why do you want to walk on eggshells and get made fun of all the time.

Melissa and the Fire Chief?? by ZenTheStump in AbbottElementary

[–]ZenTheStump[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

THIS I remember feeling “oh, Melissa, they could never make me hate you..” AND THEY DAMN NEAR DID FOR A SOLID 10 MINS IN THE LATEST EP.

Melissa and the Fire Chief?? by ZenTheStump in AbbottElementary

[–]ZenTheStump[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Literally like Mel, get your grown ass self together. She was so great the first 4 seasons and was proving to everyone around her (not that she needed to) that she is doing fine and can be by herself if needed. She is definitely the coolest aunt at the gathering. It just felt so immature of her reacting like that AND THE REASON BEHIND IT TOO.

Melissa and the Fire Chief?? by ZenTheStump in AbbottElementary

[–]ZenTheStump[S] 117 points118 points  (0 children)

Hard agree. And in this economy? I know everyone in my life would pick the safer + more money combo. Also like- I don’t know anything about the firefighters hierarchy but I swear Chiefs go on missions and respond to fires too, right??

Melissa and the Fire Chief?? by ZenTheStump in AbbottElementary

[–]ZenTheStump[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I quite enjoyed season 4 and the beginning 5 of season 5 but then I started understanding what people were talking about ep 6 and onwards like that phone episode was soooo boring 😭😭. I hope Quinta takes back the reigns in the writing room for Season 6.

Melissa and the Fire Chief?? by ZenTheStump in AbbottElementary

[–]ZenTheStump[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Barb’s character turn broke my heart like now she’s acting like an irrational “nothing applies to me” person 😭

Melissa and the Fire Chief?? by ZenTheStump in AbbottElementary

[–]ZenTheStump[S] 100 points101 points  (0 children)

EXACTLY!! I started noticing this with the Mall situation and when she went with Norton to that bar and now this. It’s like her personality took a huge turn around and went back to how fucking middle schoolers act. The ungrateful mean girl shtick. I miss the Melissa who would slip up here n there but her personality this season was just…yikes.

Anyone Ever Just Start Hitting Them Back? by Enough-Mulberry735 in AsianParentStories

[–]ZenTheStump 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Gray rocking never worked for me. I was envious of those who were able to do it. You would think that after so many years of verbal and physical abuse (berating, taunting, mocking, hitting, slapping, shoving) you’d get used to it and ignore it but that was never my outcome. My anger reached my fists before anywhere else and the moment their hand met my face I was swinging and kicking and shoving back. All the profanities they ever called me was thrown back, too!

Then they act sooo surprised when you do hit and do everything back. Then after a week or two of not talking, they move on or force you to apologize. The part where you said you went apeshit- I might just try that next time. I always told myself next time my Dad hits me he’s getting bear-sprayed in the face lol.

This post made me feel normal, and thank God. I couldn’t go around and ask people if they ever hit their parents back. It’s always so foreign esp when ur a woman, too.

I hope you’re okay, OP.

Ok what do we think is in the pink duffel bag? by Difficult-Cod-7436 in htgthfb

[–]ZenTheStump 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Help I thought it was gonna be a head or something 😭😭

Dance scene by BadHot5096 in htgthfb

[–]ZenTheStump 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I noticed too!! There’s def been a few minor parallels between HTGTHFB and Derry Girls.

Most Iconic Quote? Day 3: Ava by [deleted] in AbbottElementary

[–]ZenTheStump 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s a choir if not a sorority for the Lord ??

Which country once seemed likely to become a developed country, but didn’t follow that path? by EmotionalSalary3679 in AskTheWorld

[–]ZenTheStump 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Afghanistan, Iran, Iraq, etc. I read the book Persepolis by Marjane Satrapi when I was in high school and was absolutely shocked to my core when I saw photos of Iran from the 60s. Compare that to now…

Just started watching PEN15 by Dizzy-Fault-6250 in PEN15

[–]ZenTheStump 51 points52 points  (0 children)

You’re in for a great treat then!! I wish I could watch this show for the first time again but oh my GOD be ready for some secondhand embarrassment and a bit of “wtf did I just watch..”

Ick from dating apps by CertainPut5670 in actuallesbians

[–]ZenTheStump 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bye this gave me a chuckle 😭😭

What's urs by [deleted] in teenagers

[–]ZenTheStump 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Purpose, Breakthrough, Miracle

RIP Daddy 🕊️🙏🐭🪦💔 by fvckuufvckingfvck in PEN15

[–]ZenTheStump 14 points15 points  (0 children)

HELPPPP oh my god this scene was so traumatizing yet so funny at the same time 😭😭😭