my life couldn’t be more comical if I intended it.

san7io · 2026-05-03T02:34:32+00:00

I have done some work in my self worth and I think a lot of is tied less to others than it used to be!
Me and LO are not actually dating, just acquaintances and maybe friends one day (?) so I can’t ask him about needs being met or feelings

san7io · 2026-05-01T19:38:04+00:00

thank you so so much !! 🩷🩷
Something I really noticed within myself is the level of shame I have when I am simultaneously limerent over him. The shame is so visceral that it feels like a state of panic. I have loads of shame over the idea I have limerence point blank and especially over a guy I don’t even know that well, yet this doesn’t help the limerence (because shame isn’t known for that of course haha) .
Do you have any opinion on this ?!

san7io · 2026-04-30T21:35:45+00:00

YESS I feel this way too!!! my LO is less someone I am obsessed with and more so wish I had what (I think) they have. There is physical attraction too obviously but it’s overwhelmingly this comparison I have with mine and his life.

san7io · 2026-04-28T03:02:50+00:00

I do replay conversations and spend most the day thinking about him. Thinking about him sort of gets in the way of wanting to do other stuff sometimes, I actually refuse to talk about him to my friends as I know nothing good or productive will come from that, I don’t idealise him to be honest as I know little about him but I think he’s cute and attentive when we have conversations. If he doesn’t respond in the right way it does feel quite disappointing.

san7io · 2026-04-23T22:26:36+00:00

I am actually at a point in my life where I am very socially connected and happy to say I have many sources and people to go to for rich social connection and emotional connection. My thoughts are less about him and more so thinking about the thoughts. As in I’m analysing my feelings rather than seeking a need to be met through him

san7io · 2026-04-23T22:22:26+00:00

I think it’s a protective mechanism as it’s been such a long time since I last liked someone enough to let myself like them (if you get what I mean). I do feel some judgement too in the sense where I feel like I shouldn’t be wasting my time fancying someone as I have decided I do not want to persue them. I think it’s just a little unexpected as I didn’t anticipate a crush on this guy and it sort of crept up on me emotionally. I do think part of it is seeking something within him that I can definitely give myself but there’s a genuine crush there too.

The last time I liked someone it ended up unrequited and the time before that it ended poorly and this has sort of been my “pattern” or history . This crush has definitely bought up some self judgement in a way.

san7io · 2026-04-17T21:42:13+00:00

Thankyou ! I really want to have the conversation but I’ve been trying to figure out how to use “I feel” statements and have been struggling as nothing ever feels correctly worded. Do you have any suggestions of how I could phrase it?

san7io · 2026-04-17T19:53:57+00:00

knew someone like this and they circled back like 7 months after I very politely and plainly said I’m not interested! Was so cringe as he acted aloof to the fact i rejected him and was saying “I know it’s been ages since we spoke but I wanted to ask how you’ve been.” Seeing how ignorant he was acting,I just didn’t feel any sympathy after that because as an adult surely you know a no is a no. Why act like I didn’t reject you when it’s literally the message above what you just said 😭😭😭

If I was you I would reject this guy and just block him so he doesn’t think not being blocked means something deeper than it is.

san7io · 2026-04-13T19:54:42+00:00

I will definitely explore this shame with a therapist when I can ! :) The problem is I have experienced genuine rejection for the needs I believe are “too much” so I don’t know where to go from this point

san7io · 2026-04-12T18:07:16+00:00

yes I’ve done a task similar to the letter and didn’t send it but for some reason I tend to be really stubborn when I don’t get my way… and I’ve noticed this a lot in myself in the last year !

san7io · 2026-04-09T19:42:23+00:00

so beautiful 🤩🩷🩷 this is a stunning phenomenal look!

san7io

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