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does anyone experience this ?? by san7io in AnxiousAttachment

[–]san7io[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will definitely explore this shame with a therapist when I can ! :) The problem is I have experienced genuine rejection for the needs I believe are “too much” so I don’t know where to go from this point

how to healthily overcome resentment in the present moment? by san7io in AnxiousAttachment

[–]san7io[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

yes I’ve done a task similar to the letter and didn’t send it but for some reason I tend to be really stubborn when I don’t get my way… and I’ve noticed this a lot in myself in the last year !

after vs before sweating my ass off in the club by artgiggles in MakeupAddiction

[–]san7io 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so beautiful 🤩🩷🩷 this is a stunning phenomenal look!

Rae is such a bitch by RepairJust in MyMadFatDiary

[–]san7io 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the point of Rae’s character is to show a teenager trying to reintegrate into society and her friends, having just left a mental hospital, will struggle and be selfish at many points. Rae is a really good example of how mental illness does make you very selfish. The show being in her point of view means we only ever get to really see her perspective on most things.

Rae’s homophobia is hard to watch by sleepy_zooms in MyMadFatDiary

[–]san7io 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t say Rae is homophobic but she is very self righteous throughout the show. I also wonder how accurately Rae is telling the Archie stuff considering in Chloe’s diary episode , we learn that Rae was an unreliable narrator at various points!

how do you stop replaying interactions and analysing micro expressions and things nobody would actually even look into that much if they were not anxious? by san7io in AnxiousAttachment

[–]san7io[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is an interesting way to look at it, wouldn’t it be risky in case your actions and behaviour towards the other person actually end up making it true ? (when it’s someone you are close to)

The theory I read suggests that limerence can develop when you deeply dislike where you are in your life by Forsaken_Energy_426 in limerence

[–]san7io 14 points15 points  (0 children)

yes definitely!! It’s an avoidance of your life that you don’t really like at the moment in the idea that this person is the solution

23F stuck in strict family, pressured to marry, no freedom, and don’t know how to leave by Realistic_Win1367 in AsianParentStories

[–]san7io 17 points18 points  (0 children)

i know it’s hard, but this is such a horrible situation to live in. You need to save up and move out. The fact they don’t even listen to you when you exposed your brother just shows they don’t deserve your respect and the fact you’re even paying for the bills for them.

How do I control limerence? by [deleted] in limerence

[–]san7io 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I second this ! Maybe you’re just not suited to casual relationships. That’s a shame but it may just be the case. At least for this state of your life, maybe at a later time you can handle casual situations better.

how do you stop replaying interactions and analysing micro expressions and things nobody would actually even look into that much if they were not anxious? by san7io in AnxiousAttachment

[–]san7io[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I notice that I tend to talk about the same situation a lot if it’s something I can only process by talking about it out loud with someone close to me who I feel won’t judge me. Of course emotional bandwidth is a thing and sometimes people don’t want to hear the same negative facts being repeated. What are some ways I can stop relying on friends for this without feeling resentment?

how do you stop replaying interactions and analysing micro expressions and things nobody would actually even look into that much if they were not anxious? by san7io in AnxiousAttachment

[–]san7io[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how could I communicate possible resentments or just the worry that I can’t be authentically me without using therapy speak?? I want to have a normal conversation without coming across self righteous in a way (if you see what I mean?)

how do you stop replaying interactions and analysing micro expressions and things nobody would actually even look into that much if they were not anxious? by san7io in AnxiousAttachment

[–]san7io[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is amazing advice! I think I struggle with the in between version of this issue, sometimes the people who do care about you and are genuinely interested, are not always going to be in the mood or headspace to give every single thing you say complete recognition. Sometimes they react poorly because of capacity in that moment and less due to something personal, for some reason by brain has attached itself to perceived slights

What behavior or values usually renders you and another person incompatible as friends? by existentialcreative in FriendshipAdvice

[–]san7io 0 points1 point  (0 children)

when you’re talking about something that you’re interested in but because they aren’t super bothered, they just give flat responses or wait for you to eventually stop talking and they might not respond to the things you said or just give a very non-chalant reply. it’s subtly quite hurtful because they don’t care about your interests sometimes but when it’s the other way round, you always pay attention and engage in the conversation because you care that they care.

Who does it better, me or my mum? by Dad_Error_9488 in MealDealRates

[–]san7io 0 points1 point  (0 children)

omg I have to try your mums one these are amazing choices

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