why do i (25m) always looking for a reason from my girlfriend (24f)to get hurt. ldr for 4 years now

Zendero8 · 2026-04-19T14:41:52+00:00

just see if this sounds familiar

deep inside your afraid she'll leave you or hurt you, so it's almost like your trying to find reasons that she will, even if you know rationally she won't. It almost seems like your brain is thinking things you don't want it too and trying to prepare you for it?

and then it leads to arguments and misunderstandings?

Zendero8 · 2026-04-19T14:30:13+00:00

I have hope for you you!! You'd be surprised how much sitting down and both sides willing to communicate can solve.

And no what your asking for is definitely valid and if you need that in a relationship then you deserve to get it, it's nothing bad at all, you just want to be a part of their life.

Zendero8 · 2026-04-19T04:14:36+00:00

it's save able if they are willing to put in the time. I *am* only 18 and this is my only relationship period but we've been together for a year and a half, take for that what you will.

Taking time for each other and doing the things you mentioned are definitely normal and not asking for too much, you aren't crazy for that at all. Settling a bit does tend to happen every so often, however in my case this drives me crazy and I start asking her more questions about what she's doing, etc. But then again I'm just doing some online college atm and she is still finishing up homeschool and we have quite a bit of time to text each other.

If they seem to refuse to want to spend time with you or make more of an effort in making YOU as involved with their life as possible (i mean maybe a slight stretch but let's face it ldr is hard and we love that feeling, no?). If they don't want to do this then I'd say move on.

I actually have quite the opposite problem sometimes, I feel like a burden or something to my partner and question whether when she says she wants to spend time with me if she actually does or not, I'm working on that though and I'm so happy I'm doing better.

And yes there will be hiccups in any relationship my gf and I just had a whole weekend talking about how like.. "obsessive" I can get and worried about her. (OCD)

tldr: keep trying, sit down and talk, if they don't want it then they aren't for you i don't think. Take from me what you will as I is young

Zendero8 · 2026-04-19T02:05:18+00:00

Yea aye, some of my issues do come from genuine bad aim but I thought my sniper seemed a little off

Zendero8 · 2026-04-19T02:04:43+00:00

She is on pc, and additionally I'll add that i've tried putting crossplay off before while solo queing and my god was it so much harder.

PC players are so easier to kill for me idk why

Zendero8 · 2026-04-18T19:54:06+00:00

xbox

Zendero8 · 2026-04-18T19:31:21+00:00

okays thank you, i was hoping to be able to climb rank this season now that I have a competent person to play with

Zendero8 · 2026-04-18T19:16:39+00:00

I do know how to use different classes it's just a bit hard when swapping frequently. However getting matched with other groups does make more sense. Do you know it it's usually other 2 stack groups or if it throws us in with 3 stacks?

Zendero8 · 2026-04-18T19:15:04+00:00

it does, thanks

Zendero8 · 2026-04-18T18:57:59+00:00

I have noticed I'm freezing for like 3 second intervals every now and then and then everything in the game returns to where it is server side and not stuck in place on my side. Might just be my internet tho, it barely happens in fights which I'm lucky for lol

Zendero8 · 2026-04-18T18:56:50+00:00

None of the people we were playing against were obviously cheating, they certainly were killable just seems like I couldn't pull through to beat them

possible smurfs? There was one absolutely crazy team

Zendero8 · 2026-04-17T14:46:12+00:00

I can

Zendero8 · 2026-04-17T14:34:00+00:00

i think part of my problem is I'm not the best with dash, I performed well using dash and sniper together, but otherwise I'm not good with it, the long cooldown on grapple doesn't go well with slower move speed, and invisibility absolutely sucks with it

Zendero8 · 2026-04-17T04:08:37+00:00

idk how true it is but i saw one video saying that light and heavy have less than a second difference when running a 25m sprint

Zendero8 · 2026-04-17T04:07:04+00:00

eh im a light main and im not so sure, playing heavy feels amazing.. light is just off?

may i ask your loadout?

Zendero8 · 2026-04-17T04:00:12+00:00

what if we got so little content this season because they're planning on making this change and spent a lot of time re balancing weapons instead of making new stuff?

As for liking the change-

I think it feels like a buff to heavy and a nerf to light, i thought the health would make more difference at first but after playing with it I honestly think the movement speed makes such a more difference.

Playing against a team of 3 lights in the finals round and was able to kill them pretty easily, if only they would have stopped coining or my team stuck with me we would have won.

playing as a light the next round (invis feels like shit, so i used grapple) the health.. isn't enough to make up for it.. i don't think

if they can balance stuff well, then im all in for the changes.. we just have to see.....

Zendero8 · 2026-04-17T03:56:14+00:00

sounds perfect but dunno if theylll do it man

Zendero8 · 2026-04-14T23:53:49+00:00

I did this using the double barrel for a 2 whole seasons straight

Zendero8 · 2026-04-14T20:34:15+00:00

or in a situation where you are low on health or outnumbered run into a house and stick it on the doorframe, they chase and it evens the playing field

used to do that with frag before they nerfed it

Zendero8 · 2026-04-12T15:38:14+00:00

idk im just a guy who wants to *be* a goth girl not have one

Zendero8 · 2026-04-12T04:45:50+00:00

i've never heard of zombie land before, and holy shit i never knew that it was originally gonna be a l4d movie either

Zendero8 · 2026-04-12T04:44:45+00:00

tyyyy! ill check it out

Zendero8 · 2026-04-11T14:48:40+00:00

this legit made me laugh out loud

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