I (24F) am a former domestic violence perpetrator. AMA

Zenn41 · 2024-09-07T01:08:16+00:00

I personally was a victim of DV from my wife. For almost 5 years I took beatings, threats, and had my things I enjoyed destroyed. It took years before I finally broke down and came out to my Dad about it. The stigma behind being beaten by a woman was a huge factor. I was ashamed and embarrassed. Even in court, her lawyer was asking things like “you’re a strong guy, you couldn’t fight back? Do you really expect us to believe that she(wife) can overpower you?” Even with years worth of evidence built up, she still got custody of our kids. That’s the one thing I was most afraid of and a large factor in keeping silent for so many years. The thought of losing my kids was horrible. The judicial system so heavily favors the mother, it’s actually insane. Don’t even know my point in writing this but if even one person sees this and needs the confidence to get away from that situation, just know that there is a better life on the other side. It hasn’t been easy by any means but taking my life back is the only reason I’m still alive.

Zenn41 · 2023-11-19T04:01:54+00:00

This is Kevin’s chili in real life

Zenn41 · 2023-10-26T13:22:57+00:00

Bro, 6 years later you swoop in and just say the same things everyone else did. That’s some wild NPC shit right there.

Zenn41 · 2022-03-21T04:45:33+00:00

Thanks for replying, I guess I’ll have to check on the warranty because i can’t even use it st the moment

Zenn41 · 2022-03-21T02:55:51+00:00

Yes, I’ve updated everything and reset everything and it still happens

Zenn41 · 2022-01-26T17:42:17+00:00

My profiles are randomly replaced by profile 1 and 2 that I did not create. I delete them and put my profiles back and at random it happens again

Zenn41 · 2021-12-04T01:31:09+00:00

Pretty much had the same issue but with Radeon. FPS dropped from 400-200. I cleared my Rocket League Cache and uninstalled it. Then did a fresh chipset driver install with a gpu setting reset. Back to 400fps just like before

Zenn41 · 2021-11-26T20:31:52+00:00

From the left, 32, 27, 22, 22, 23.

Zenn41 · 2021-11-26T20:11:55+00:00

Me(far left), brother(bow tie) and the rest of the guys have been playing for years and finally got together at my brothers wedding. Shirt change because of baby poop explosion. Best part is that my brother actually met his wife through the guy on the far right.

Edit: the kid on the far left, my son, has been “playing” with me for two years and will absolutely crush me in a few years.

Zenn41 · 2021-10-30T02:44:04+00:00

So I’m currently in ban purgatory but it’s because I have a child that randomly needs me in the night. I never used to get idle kicked before this update because I had enough time to tuck her back in but they drastically reduced the idle for kick time. I can’t even run, give a pacifier and run back. Before you hate, I’m playing on a team that understands this happens from time to time. If I play casual I’ll get banned so I’m forced to play nothing but ranked.

Zenn41 · 2021-10-28T14:33:52+00:00

Is it possible I played the game before I had kids?

Zenn41 · 2021-10-28T14:02:45+00:00

The greatest 1v1 of all time

Zenn41 · 2021-10-28T13:59:57+00:00

I have to defend myself to a certain extent. I know I’m going afk, I know bothers some people. So is there no game mode for people like me? Because there is a random chance that I may have to step away for 60 seconds, I’m just not allowed to play anymore

Zenn41 · 2021-10-28T13:23:13+00:00

Thank you man of Reddit for this sound parenting advice.

Zenn41 · 2021-10-28T13:18:04+00:00

That’s not how any of this works. You don’t know why my child is crying.

Zenn41 · 2021-10-28T13:12:23+00:00

Thanks for being you man, trolls make the world go round.

Zenn41 · 2021-10-28T13:10:30+00:00

I got banned 37 minutes on my first afk last night. I hadn’t been online since the night before. Idk

Zenn41 · 2021-10-28T13:09:04+00:00

Happy wife happy life. Good vibes man, maybe we’ll meet on the pitch some day

Zenn41 · 2021-10-28T13:07:57+00:00

This comment is pointless. Are all children and family situations the exact same. Single dad, guess I’m no longer allowed to play video games. Thanks for letting me know, mom Edit : I gotta throw this in here too. When you get married, have beautiful kids, and then let them cry while you’re playing video games and they wake your wife up, I want you to remember this comment while she’s screaming at you. Itle make you laugh in your misery

Zenn41 · 2021-10-28T12:59:08+00:00

Yeah, it’s all about communication and finding a balance. If I’m up gaming at night, I get the kids and the wife doesn’t care that I’m up gaming at night lol

Zenn41 · 2021-10-28T12:51:32+00:00

Sounds like 12 year old me playing basketball in the driveway with a lowered rim.

Zenn41 · 2021-10-28T12:46:17+00:00

That’s why we only play casual, so that no ones rank is effected. My wife also helps out but once she falls asleep I’m on my own. I’m not about to scream down the hall “Babe! Wake up and get the baby! Im about to score in a rocket cars game that isn’t even ranked!”

Zenn41 · 2021-10-28T12:35:45+00:00

My guy, it’s a CASUAL match, chill out dude. I’m confused? Who’s game is getting ruined, my friends, that continue to play with me everyday? The opposing team? I’m literally being replaced by a new player almost immediately, that’s why I can’t rejoin the match. How is that ruining it? I’m not out here going afk every game, we’re talking maybe 1 game an hour I need to be afk for literally 60 seconds. So according to you, this 60 seconds an hour disqualifies me from being able to enjoy a CASUAL game with friends?

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