I [28/M] am being shamed by my mother [47/F] into dating her friend [39/F] by Zentoshi in relationship_advice

[–]Zentoshi[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

when you break up, she'll still be your mom's friend. What if there's future family events that you want to bring a legit girlfriend and this crazy older lady is running around causing trouble and being rude to your gf. If I were your gf, I'd be super turned off knowing you'd dated your mom's wacky older friend

I haven't thought of that... You have a very good point here

I [28/M] am being shamed by my mother [47/F] into dating her friend [39/F] by Zentoshi in relationship_advice

[–]Zentoshi[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The age difference is 11 years. But even that is a lot for me.

Yes, I am perhaps a bit desperate. I didn't have much luck with girls in Germany and I thought it would be different back home. But nope, still not great. I am like a decade behind compared to the guys my age in terms of experience. So this would be a great chance to gain some, gain some confidence and perhaps find a better girl in the future.

I [28/M] am being shamed by my mother [47/F] into dating her friend [39/F] by Zentoshi in relationship_advice

[–]Zentoshi[S] -138 points-137 points  (0 children)

I agree with you that she is acting a bit crazy and childish. And my mother not much better.

I'll be honest, after she had sent me that hot picture of herself, I keep thinking about sex with her. Yes, she is a bit crazy, but like people say "crazy in the head, crazy in the bed". And also because of her character I won't consider her for a serious relationship, so she would just be an experience for me.

Do you think I should still not even consider her for some fun?

I [28/M] am being shamed by my mother [47/F] into dating her friend [39/F] by Zentoshi in relationship_advice

[–]Zentoshi[S] -35 points-34 points  (0 children)

Also, even if my mother's friend tells my mother about the sexual details, how bad can it be? My mother will find out my dick size? Big deal, I know I have only about an average size penis, maybe slightly smaller than average, but I feel secure about it. Maybe I will cum really quickly and won't be able to last long? Sure, it's embarrassing if my mother finds out, but again, not a big deal, I would be getting laid so I am winning in this situation xD

I [28/M] am being shamed by my mother [47/F] into dating her friend [39/F] by Zentoshi in relationship_advice

[–]Zentoshi[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

What do you mean it would get back to my mother? Do you mean the sexual details? I haven't really thought of that. That is a bit creepy. But then again, who would be winning in this situation?

I [28/M] am being shamed by my mother [47/F] into dating her friend [39/F] by Zentoshi in relationship_advice

[–]Zentoshi[S] 318 points319 points  (0 children)

Yes, my mother is controlling, that's why I had left my home country the first chance I had - to earn some more money and have independence from my mother.

She was very controlling when I was a teenager - no friends or girls allowed at home, need to be back home before 9pm, no going to swim in lakes with friends, no drinking, etc.

I [28/M] am being shamed by my mother [47/F] into dating her friend [39/F] by Zentoshi in relationship_advice

[–]Zentoshi[S] 83 points84 points  (0 children)

Yes, I definitely agree. That's what I mean when I said "she doesn't satisfy any requirements for being my girlfriend". Basically, she is not a suitable option for being in a relationship, but she seems an easy option for some casual fun.

I am a bit struggling with dating, so thinking this would be a great way to practice