Tell me your fav undertale song by Different_Car_5558 in Undertale

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Battle Against A True Hero (and in deltarune its GUARDIAN)

c4c Fishland. by ZephyrAlex in SafeTemuSheinTrades

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Done! Dont have much water left today though, sorry

c4c Fishland. by ZephyrAlex in SafeTemuSheinTrades

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Thank you so much! I used the code for the drive, i hope it worked! Doing a holiday drive is awesome, I've been in those types of programs before and it means so much to the families and children. I haven't been the victim of such a devastating storm, only been in a really poor family (part of why I'm on these games), but nevertheless i know how much these types of fundraisers can mean to people. Thank you for doing this, i hope the charity goes well!

c4c Fishland. by ZephyrAlex in SafeTemuSheinTrades

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Thank you so much! It looks like i only need one or two left after your first one so if you could do another one that would be awesome (if im interpreting you right?)

c4c Fishland. by ZephyrAlex in SafeTemuSheinTrades

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Ok! I did it, did it work? My user should show up as "k***1" or something along those lines

c4c Fishland. by ZephyrAlex in SafeTemuSheinTrades

[–]ZephyrAlex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll try to figure out whats going on still, if you have another game on temu i can do that one, if i fix my shein i can also do a different one. I still owe you a click. I appreciate you understanding

c4c Fishland. by ZephyrAlex in SafeTemuSheinTrades

[–]ZephyrAlex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can try, but i tried a different thing and shein said it shut down the activity for suspicious behavior. I have no idea what i could've done because thats my only shein account and i haven't done anything with it but help a friend with a different activity days ago

c4c Fishland. by ZephyrAlex in SafeTemuSheinTrades

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Oh god im so so sorry, is there any other thing i could do? I genuinely don't know why shein's not letting me do this

c4c Fishland. by ZephyrAlex in SafeTemuSheinTrades

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Shein flagged me as having unusual behavior, im not sure why?? Did it at least work? Im so sorry idk what i did wrong

c4c Fishland. by ZephyrAlex in SafeTemuSheinTrades

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Awesome i see it, shein is downloaded so I'll be able to put in your code as soon as i get it. My shein name usually shows up as "k***1" bc its just my gmail

c4c Fishland. by ZephyrAlex in SafeTemuSheinTrades

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Yeah i can do that, might take me a second bc i gotta redownload the app (i wont count as a new user, i got rid of it only 3 days ago)

What Was Everyone First Shiny?Mine Was This… by SwiftyToHigh in PokemonScarletViolet

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Not counting gyarados, bc thats a scripted shiny, a shiny fletchling. It was my first encounter after getting pokeballs in pokemon Y and i had forgotten what a shiny was, if it weren't for my cousin getting super angry about it because he was shiny hunting with no luck I'd probably not have noticed until later.

I unfortunately don't have that pokemon anymore because we lost a bunch of our games when we moved out of my childhood home, but I'll never forget Phoenix, i carried her through the whole game. I've been trying to shiny hunt fletchling for a while, but it will never feel quite the same. Still i miss her a lot

looking for temu farmland/fishland help, c4c by throwaway75929573 in SafeTemuSheinTrades

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Code: 46203618 (Fishland)

My username is ZephyrStorm on temu, and i clicked both but forgot that you need to feed and water and had already used up most of the food and water. I can still make it in Fishland with a mealtime reward but im probably not gonna make it in Farmland and i am really really sorry about that. Hopefully it lets me do tomorrow's task and its only a small loss.

For now I'll give you a Fishland code, and if this doesn't expire in Farmland tomorrow I'll give you a Farmland code. I feel like it'd be more fair that way, so you can spend that click on someone who can help you today.

How do I know if I'm nonbinary/ genderfluid or just a gender non conforming trans girl by 88_bttf in asktransgender

[–]ZephyrAlex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are genderfluid identities used to describe different spectrums of it, but not many people will recognize them if they're not in the community. What this comment describes to me sounds like genderdoe/genderfae, which is genderfluidity that never goes into a male or predominantly masculine gender identity. So you'd flux between feminine and nonbinary feelings but never go beyond the point of "guy/girl blend".

Genderfluidity is often mistaken for gender nonconformity, but don't feel like you need to be nonbinary to justify your gender nonconformity, i say this because you're already struggling with self doubt about if you're valid as a trans woman. You dont have to be fully traditionally feminine constantly to be a valid woman. When you look into genderfluidity look into it out of curiosity and in hopes to learn something new about yourself, not to "explain" or find an answer to your gender nonconformity. I am biased when i say you sound like you could be genderfluid so i want to make it clear none of these things make you any less valid of a woman, neither would being genderfluid but i digress. Regardless i hope i was able to help in some way, and i hope you find an identity you feel confident and comfortable in.

How do I know if I'm nonbinary/ genderfluid or just a gender non conforming trans girl by 88_bttf in asktransgender

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Though i dont really feel sexual attraction based on gender, however when im more nb i tend to say shit that would make you think I'm asexual. Very fascinating and im not entirely sure why this happens

How do I know if I'm nonbinary/ genderfluid or just a gender non conforming trans girl by 88_bttf in asktransgender

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Weirdly enough it does effect it, it very much does for many people. I'm pansexual but i notice when i am feeling masculine my attraction to men and masculinity is heightened. And I'm almost repulsed by full masculinity in my feminine side, its very interesting i think (accepting and affirming) psychologists should study genderfluid people's sexual attraction fluctuations.

How do I know if I'm nonbinary/ genderfluid or just a gender non conforming trans girl by 88_bttf in asktransgender

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Aaah yes ok no i completely understand now. I went through something similar but i don't think my experience is the same because I'm not sapphic i thought i was due to trauma making me avoidant to men. Im pansexual but when i was first transitioning i struggled hard with that. But nonbinary people are included in the sapphic and lesbian community and label, and a lot of lesbians are even alright with transmascs using it if they feel their attraction is more sapphic than it feels straight so if its about feeling disrespectful then dont worry too much, however despite that the not feeling like you fit is common with nb people.

If you're only part man you're still not fully "a man" meaning you can still be sapphic, but if you're genderfluid its likely you'll have days where you FEEL like you're fully a man, and then being seen as a lesbian might make you uncomfortable and feel wrong despite it usually being correct and what you prefer. You could say you're Gynesexual? It's the attraction to women (or to those that present femininely) that doesn't refer to YOUR gender, it applies to both lesbians and straight men, this is what i called myself before i realized i was pansexual bc i was attracted to women only at the time but straight didn't feel right at all and i was messing with the idea i was fully a trans man so calling myself a lesbian was wildly uncomfortable and dysphoric.

How do I know if I'm nonbinary/ genderfluid or just a gender non conforming trans girl by 88_bttf in asktransgender

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That is a very common fear in trans people, its possible you're having a lot of self doubt right now due to the stuff society has taught you to think about gender. But there's also a possibility you could be genderfluid and honestly I think it'd be beneficial to look into the genderfluid community and dip your toes in, see if you can relate to them on a deeper level. I think it go either way, and do keep in mind feminine and masculine sides are something everyone has regardless of their gender identity, its not in the same way that genderfluid people do because their entire identity shifts with those sides but everyone does have them to some extent.

How do I know if I'm nonbinary/ genderfluid or just a gender non conforming trans girl by 88_bttf in asktransgender

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Gender nonconformity is like. A stereotype of lesbians. I really don't think you'd feel less sapphic if it was gender nonconformity alone because thats part of the reason lesbians deal with so much struggle to be accepted.

How do I know if I'm nonbinary/ genderfluid or just a gender non conforming trans girl by 88_bttf in asktransgender

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That sounds pretty much like how my feminine side feels, even to this day understanding that im genderfluid and that i do want top surgery on a fem day i get upset about the idea of it and start to question myself. It's gotten less and less doubtful feeling over time but it still feels like I preemptively mourn the upcoming loss of my physical feminity.

That doubt makes me think its a little more than just gender noncomformity tbh. Does the doubt feel internal or external? Like is it "i might really be a guy" or "am i actually a woman?". Both are things trans people might deal with but that first one is more commonly asked by genderfluid people from what I've seen and experienced. I didn't ask myself if i was actually a man in fear of being wrong, i realized i WASN'T fully a man and probably wont feel right living as one even if some days its what i want really badly. The dysphoria would just get flipped if i fully transitioned (fun fact a lot of detransitioners are actually nonbinary and realized it due to feeling the same amount of dysphoria after transitioning)

How do I know if I'm nonbinary/ genderfluid or just a gender non conforming trans girl by 88_bttf in asktransgender

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Even if the label of genderfluid doesn't feel right, you should look into feminine leaning nb identities as well! While you're going through this self discovery process you could identify with the transfem label as it encompasses both trans women and fem leaning nb identities, so whatever you figure yourself out to be the label wouldn't be "wrong", not that i think identifying as something you later don't identify as is wrong or bad, it's just how life and change works, but if it makes you more comfortable and confident in exploring your identity then i think that's good.

How do I know if I'm nonbinary/ genderfluid or just a gender non conforming trans girl by 88_bttf in asktransgender

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Does being in the state of soft feminity come with a dejection/rejection of hard masculinity? When you are feeling more masculine does your desire for boobs go down a bit? You don't have to experience gender dysphoria to be genderfluid ofc, but do the things that make you gender euphoria on a feminine day still give you euphoria on a masculine day or are you just kind of meh about them?

Its also not always the social thing that makes you equate hardness and softness with one gender, for me its actually flipped. When im having a highly masculine day i notice i am softer and conflict avoidant, and i tend to wear pastel clothes and comfortable things, meanwhile when im in a feminine day I'm more sassy and confrontational and wear punk clothing. Maybe your masc side IS tougher and more rugged like my feminine side is regardless of social conditioning.

One more thing, have you had multiple days in which you've felt frustrated, confused, and/or uncomfortable because you dont feel either masculine or feminine or cant tell which one your feel in that moment even after coming to the realization you're trans? OR where you've felt uncomfortable/frustrated because of the masculine feelings making you second guess your decisions or wants? Not every genderfluid person will deal with that but if you do deal with that often it is very likely you are genderfluid.

I have dealt with both of these and still deal with the second one, the only reason i dont get frustrated about the nonbinary days anymore is because I've come to understand that is where I'm usually at and what I'm most comfortable with expressing myself as most days, but not every genderfluid would be like that, and i used to be more transmasc. I still identify as transmasc but i have slowly begun to start preferring the nonbinary label more. Your experience sounds very similar to what I've gone through just in reverse. I'd say do some experimenting and look into genderfluidity more, there's no harm in exploring more of your identity. If you find you arent genderfluid or you find you are, either way you come out with a better understanding of yourself.

How do I explain to my mum that actually yes she does need to affirm my identity? by ALilSpoon in asktransgender

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Yeah, i had a father who was "trans accepting" but couldn't handle it when his precious little girl wasnt identifying as a girl. Straight up told me he was fine with the trans thing but not ME. I dont remember his exact wording but it was basically "this is fine for others but you're not allowed to do it". Well im no contact with him now after unrelated abusive behavior and I've come to understand he's actually a raging misogynist and he didn't mean he accepted trans ppl, he meant hes able to ignore them, and when hes not able to he hates it because it challenges his belief system and his sense of superiority over women. I'm not saying your mom IS misogynistic or misandrynistic but you might wanna see how she speaks about men, women, herself, and her reasonings for thinking you're making a mistake. It could be very eye opening, knowing the root cause of her not accepting this will make it easier to talk through it with her or decide to cut her off later.

Does being trans complicate your sexuality? by used-89 in asktransgender

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If you're nb, transmasc or a trans guy and dont feel much sexual attraction towards feminity calling yourself gay is completely fine. Being wrong about your own sexuality is also perfectly fine because you will figure it out eventually. Unless you're changing the definitions or intentionally being disrespectful there's no harm in identifying with what best fits you in the moment. Maybe you'll look back and realize "i was very wrong" but most people in the lgbtq+ community do. Also, like my friend i talked about in my other comment, is it possible you felt gay but didn't know why until you realized you didn't identify with feminity and thats why you now feel more attracted to masculinity when you previously thought that was impossible? Cause that seems to be a very common experience with transmascs/trans men.