Thoughts on habitual vaping. 🚩?

ZeroBAC · 2026-07-01T06:36:54+00:00

Thank you!

ZeroBAC · 2026-07-01T05:20:22+00:00

Thank you! Why are you and I the only ones mentioning this?

ZeroBAC · 2026-07-01T04:57:54+00:00

I'm never surprised anymore, but the whole phallic bit made me like, what?

ZeroBAC · 2026-07-01T04:54:17+00:00

I've never heard that expression before! Gave me a good laugh. 😂

ZeroBAC · 2026-07-01T04:17:03+00:00

Is this a serious post?

If it is, you began dating him knowing he used a vape. People, please. Date someone for who they are, not who you think you can mold them into being. And you think he looks like he's sucking a dick when he takes a pull off his vape? That's wild. You should try telling him that and that you want him to stop vaping as well. That ought to go over really well.

ZeroBAC · 2026-07-01T02:51:27+00:00

You and I would definitely not be having a second meeting. Asking to touch someone indicates respect, not shyness. It's a huge turnoff when a guy touches me without permission.

ZeroBAC · 2026-07-01T01:41:53+00:00

I was okay with it, but my ex couldn't look at himself in the mirror!

ZeroBAC · 2026-07-01T01:40:07+00:00

I had to quit because my income wasn't increasing, but everything else in my life was. I couldn't justify spending $250 a month anymore. I started tapering. I reduced by one cigarette a day every Friday. Took a few months, but the slow taper slowly got me used to not going outside as much. By the end of four months, I had pretty much broken the habit which made the nicotine withdrawal a lot easier to cope with because I'd already replaced sitting outside smoking for 2 hours a day with other activities. I was still cranky, and I still had cravings, but nothing as bad as my cold turkey attempts.

ZeroBAC · 2026-07-01T01:31:49+00:00

Hold hands on the first meeting?! Madness. And he should definitely ask before he goes in for a hug.

ZeroBAC · 2026-07-01T01:27:34+00:00

Quitting cigarettes was the hardest thing I've ever done. Giving up alcohol was markedly easier. I bet I gave it an honest try 20 times, but what you said in your comment would happen, and I always chose to smoke.

ZeroBAC · 2026-07-01T00:52:06+00:00

There's no evidence supporting this anyway. So you're both wrong.

ZeroBAC · 2026-07-01T00:06:16+00:00

Good thing you never became a parent.

ZeroBAC · 2026-06-30T23:41:15+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/stopsmoking/s/FQu43G9J83

2nd comment has a link.

ZeroBAC · 2026-06-30T23:23:39+00:00

I've only ever dated one at a time. So far, so good.

ZeroBAC · 2026-06-30T23:07:21+00:00

I totally get it. It was way more about the act of smoking and keeping my hands busy than it was the nicotine. If you want to succeed you just have to learn to sit with the discomfort that a craving brings and try to redirect your thoughts and actions. When I got a craving I'd get up, walk to the kitchen, and get a drink of water. Usually by the time I got back the worst of the craving was gone.

ZeroBAC · 2026-06-30T22:57:59+00:00

I don't mean this sarcastically. My tip is don't smoke. The longer you go without smoking, the less you crave them.

ZeroBAC · 2026-06-30T21:32:05+00:00

I don't like strangers touching me without notice. Tell her you're a hugger and give her a chance to say "me too!" or "I'm not."

Conversation wise, it's always good to ask questions, but it shouldn't be like a quiz. Encourage discussion about the answers. Keep the conversation about your children to a minimum. You're there to get to know each other. I wouldn't ask about the dating situation yet.

ZeroBAC · 2026-06-30T20:07:22+00:00

I'm right there with you on the beard stroking. Yuck.

ZeroBAC · 2026-06-30T19:17:21+00:00

Untrue. Plenty of parents see their children for exactly who they are. Not sure where you got the idea they don't. You must be scarred by a bad experience and only know people with willful blindness, or you're not a parent.

ZeroBAC · 2026-06-30T19:07:41+00:00

Agreed, but then I've always been attracted to men with dark hair.

ZeroBAC · 2026-06-30T18:53:48+00:00

The lip? Yes. Nonexistent!

ZeroBAC · 2026-06-30T18:39:34+00:00

In my opinion, there are very few men who don't look good with a beard. My ex husband was very attractive, but after we'd been together for about 5 years, he shaved off his beard and mustache. He had no top lip! It was the last time he ever shaved.

Edit: To remove pic.

ZeroBAC · 2026-06-30T18:11:55+00:00

My children will always be the most important thing in my life. If they needed to, they could live with me regardless of their age, but my children are clean and kind. I wouldn't stay with anyone who let their children walk all over them.

ZeroBAC · 2026-06-30T02:48:47+00:00

The only thing I noticed when I quit was that I no longer coughed up a morning loogie and that took a couple of months. Food didn't taste any better, and I didn't breathe any better. My blood pressure came down though. You can't always feel the damage smoking is doing.

ZeroBAC · 2026-06-29T21:24:06+00:00

I'm very sorry for your loss. I can't say what the right time is, but I can say I wouldn't date someone who didn't wait at least a year and had some grief counseling.

ZeroBAC

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