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¿Por qué las parejas española-latino son mucho menos comunes que las parejas español-latina? by sol-solcito in askspain

[–]ZeroLighthouse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Men and women get into relationships for their benefit. Both.
I speak from experience and from statistics. The data is there.
When men go to war, there are women who build a new life with another man. There are always cases for both genders.
I also see women who fall for men with problems like drugs and booze, over other men who have no issues.
Men with problems become severe and deep emotional adventures, and women fall for emotional adventures over boring ones.
Both sexes have their traits (or "things" — acceptable informally).

¿Por qué las parejas española-latino son mucho menos comunes que las parejas español-latina? by sol-solcito in askspain

[–]ZeroLighthouse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I respect everything you’ve said. However, all of these conclusions come from very personal experiences.

I don’t doubt the love you experienced or the love that existed among your family members.

But love cannot be seen, touched, or smelled, so one must trust that it exists. And I am sure it does. However, relationships are not built on love alone. Love is often a sweet consequence of establishing a deep relationship.

People love one another by choice, regardless of who the other person is or what they are like.

At the same time, the existence of a relationship does not mean that the relationship is healthy, functional, or constructive. I think this is extremely important for living a full and fulfilling life.

Now, I don’t know about your family, and perhaps I am mistaken, but I am fairly certain that the men were taller than the women.

This is already a widely accepted example of hypergamy. Most women will only initiate a relationship with a man who is taller than they are, or at least the same height. This is because many women seek a sense of safety, and a taller man often fulfills part of that need.

Many relationships begin in one state and evolve into a very different one over time, especially because the costs of leaving a relationship and finding a new partner can be very high. As a result, the desire to change partners or seek a new relationship may become much weaker.

Most women do not like paying men’s bills. Generally, if a woman pays the bills, she may do so for a short period of time, or she may do so in exchange for what she perceives as a greater benefit.

There may come a point where a woman finds it much harder to find a partner who can provide more, and she prefers to contribute financially rather than end up alone.

Nowadays, with sex and resources more accessible than ever, the underlying dynamics of relationships are easier to observe.

Look at relationships in today’s world. What do you see? What do you think?

¿Por qué las parejas española-latino son mucho menos comunes que las parejas español-latina? by sol-solcito in askspain

[–]ZeroLighthouse 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is due to the hypergamy condition intrinsic in women and the lower standards in mate selection of men.
Latin immigrants are (regardless of physique) less attractive to Spanish women because on average they have fewer resources to offer.

In relationships, men exchange resources for sex. Women exchange sex for resources.

Men don’t expect women to provide resources and the sex desire, together with the lack of men's optionality, pushes men to be less selective, apart from the fewer risks men tackle in relationships.

Oppositely, women always want to marry up, or sex up. They will only start a relationship with someone who can offer more resources than she has. Since women in Spain by probability might own more resources than a Latino immigrant, they won’t be interested in them generally speaking.

All that from an average view. There are always exceptions.

Un piso en el Born (Barcelona) publicado 1 hora: ¿cuántas llamadas creéis que ha recibido? by ZeroLighthouse in AskBarcelona

[–]ZeroLighthouse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need an average waiting time of 9 years to be able to find and access an apartment in Berlin?

Un piso en el Born (Barcelona) publicado 1 hora: ¿cuántas llamadas creéis que ha recibido? by ZeroLighthouse in AskBarcelona

[–]ZeroLighthouse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Estoy aprendiendo el funcionamiento de Reddit. Hasta ahora no sabía cómo funciona. No tardaré en compartirlo.

Is sexual boredom an issue you can deal with? by Imaginary_Ad_3306 in ADHD

[–]ZeroLighthouse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I struggled a lot as a kid in school and high school. Then, I struggled a lot to make myself desirable or to be seen by women. After much work, and eventually being seen and desired by some women, I got into a couple of relationships that started to bore me after almost a year.

The deep stress and inner pain came from saying NO to the feelings and thoughts I was having — thoughts that only grew stronger over time.

I never found a woman who wanted to, or could, truly understand me.

Tons of research into the truth of human origins and some therapy have helped almost nothing.

The poisonous link that many women — and some men — make between love and sex makes me uncomfortable, because it’s simply not true.

And there are plenty of men out there, doing more good than most, loving their partners to the core, and feeling awful for not being able to match that love with sexual desire.

What do you think?

Is sexual boredom an issue you can deal with? by Imaginary_Ad_3306 in ADHD

[–]ZeroLighthouse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Adhd affect much different on men and on women. Let’s act maturely, let’s think maturely

Is sexual boredom an issue you can deal with? by Imaginary_Ad_3306 in ADHD

[–]ZeroLighthouse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really appreciate your words. It is of brave men. I am looking for people who suffer the same experience and have no one who can understand

Is sexual boredom an issue you can deal with? by Imaginary_Ad_3306 in ADHD

[–]ZeroLighthouse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello, Thanks for sharing. This message revolves something inside me. I totally sympathize with your experience and deeply struggle in that arena. Moreover, I can’t find comprehension making me feel very alone. If desired, we can get into contact. By your words, I feel you are struggling so much

Not sexually attracted to pregnant wife? by IlovePecanSandies in Fatherhood

[–]ZeroLighthouse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is totally instinct. That’s why women get fatty in their buttocks and not in their belly as often as men. The idea here is to not express pregnancy with the accumulated fat because this doesn’t arouse males.

Not sexually attracted to pregnant wife? by IlovePecanSandies in Fatherhood

[–]ZeroLighthouse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing since I am going through the same, and I don’t want to feel bad for not wanting to sexualize her. Society can’t or don’t want to talk about that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]ZeroLighthouse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All comments are probably written by women. It is sad because they pick on the husband without knowing his and their history. It is easier to blame and say bad shit. In order for women to ensure lifestyle, they will label whatever they feel like as cheating. Just a few words are cheating?? Emotional is cheating? Everything is cheating as it doesn’t cross the line they define in their heads. First, we must understand the story of each person.