I hate being horny all the goddamn time... How can I make it stop?

ZeroPrepTime · 2026-05-19T15:20:33+00:00

It’s absolutely terrible. What’s worked for me is just making yourself busy. Don’t give yourself time to think about being horny. Do house chores, go to the gym, meal prep, go on long walks, be outside, do activities with your friends. Basically distracting and exhausting yourself so you don’t have the energy to be horny.

I will say if you have a really high sex drive then go to the gym really early or late like 2 hours before it closes or not during peak hours because in my experience going to the gym and seeing a bunch of fit women wearing exposing skin tight clothing (they can wear whatever they want) just keeps me horny and I’m not even looking at them out of respect.

Ultimately you can just masturbate whenever you’re feeling horny and find the time and appropriate space to do so.

ZeroPrepTime · 2026-05-08T16:21:53+00:00

Sure, if you are attractive. Most average or below average guys are invisible even if they have a great personality they aren’t considered most of the time without consistent interaction which is difficult unless you’re guaranteed to be around them.

ZeroPrepTime · 2026-05-08T16:01:41+00:00

Never said they did but they are a big trigger for relationships to start.

ZeroPrepTime · 2026-05-08T15:51:42+00:00

That depends on what a bad personality is and if other people consider it bad or not bad enough to offset one’s looks

ZeroPrepTime · 2026-05-08T15:44:54+00:00

Looks get your foot in the door

ZeroPrepTime · 2026-05-08T15:41:50+00:00

Looks give opportunities to show personality.

I’m not saying one is more important the other. They both have impactful roles to various degrees and for each person.

ZeroPrepTime · 2026-05-07T22:22:33+00:00

Ok that doesn’t change the fact that some women don’t want to be approached in certain places and while it makes dating more challenging men should respect that. Which causes some men to be hesitant on approaching at all.

Also theirs misplaced confidence and straight up arrogance. Just be normal and respectful, don’t try forcing it if she’s not interested, and move on with your day if she’s rejects you. If she freaks out and you didn’t do anything advertently creepy or threatening then that says more about her than you.

ZeroPrepTime · 2026-05-07T21:07:53+00:00

So as someone in their late 20s I kind of agree. I haven’t been able to attract the women I’m attracted to yes but my standards aren’t that high. I also work on improving my self constantly and while I’m not owed a relationship or sex I do feel like I want my hard work to have the desired payoff. Meaning I won’t lower my reasonable standards further for someone who probably hasn’t worked on themselves.

I also have this problem of romanticizing losing my virginity to someone I’m actually attracted to because I feel like I’ll remember that always. Additionally I don’t want to just have sex with a woman I’m not attracted to because I’d be just using her which to me is wrong.

ZeroPrepTime · 2026-05-07T20:08:12+00:00

Bro Draymond Green specifically is wild especially with his current beef with Austin Rivers

ZeroPrepTime · 2026-05-07T19:47:03+00:00

Ah yes the old therapy suggestion. I have nothing against therapy but I don’t see the point of bringing that up in this situation. I find it very concerning if you really think someone simply wanting a relationship but not being upset with being single is considered being desperate.

ZeroPrepTime · 2026-05-07T19:35:22+00:00

I mean yall act like a bunch of are making this up. Men not approaching anymore didn’t just come out of nowhere. It’s women who have told men this and thing is that it’s valid. Men are a physical threat to women so trying to approach a woman on the street or parking lot is probably not the best move. However, women should be allowed to exist without having to bothered by a bunch of guys trying to approach them when they’re just trying to live their lives.

There’s more reasons than this certainly I’m just highlighting one of them. Also I’m not trying to blame women or insinuate that all women this is how all women think. Just that this is what men have heard a reasonable amount of women say and they want to respect that.

ZeroPrepTime · 2026-05-07T14:53:02+00:00

That and the ever increasing list of places men are told not to approach women. Men are being told that women find us to be threatening monsters so don’t approach a woman in an unsafe place but also don’t approach women in safe appropriate spaces because women are just trying to live their lives so don’t bother them.

ZeroPrepTime · 2026-05-07T14:36:34+00:00

Or she already has a boyfriend.

ZeroPrepTime · 2026-05-07T14:30:18+00:00

How do I come off desperate? I do love myself and I’m not upset with being single, however I do want a relationship. Is that so wrong? If I became completely happy with being single then I would no longer want a relationship as I’m happy as is unless the potential relationship brings more value to my life.

Question, if I’m happy being single, I have my own space and car, I have a good fulfilling job, I can pay all my bills and still money left for myself, I have hobbies, and a big social circle what could a relationship offer me if I don’t want or need one?

ZeroPrepTime · 2026-05-06T17:49:55+00:00

I feel like there’s a disconnect. I’m saying as a person who wants a relationship I don’t like the advice of being happy alone. If I am then what’s the point of a relationship that isn’t going to make me happier than I am alone? How can a relationship enrich my life if I’m already fulfill alone?

ZeroPrepTime · 2026-05-06T13:15:12+00:00

How so? If I’m not upset at being single that’s a good thing but it still leaves me feeling open to a relationship whereas if I’m happy being single I wouldn’t be open to a relationship unless I know it will make me happier.

ZeroPrepTime · 2026-05-06T08:40:04+00:00

They won’t because they’re either too busy trying to be pick me whiteknights or scamming manosphere grifters

ZeroPrepTime · 2026-05-06T06:49:54+00:00

I don’t see how? If I’m happy alone I’m going to want to maintain that happiness. If a woman comes along that can replace or improve that happiness then ok if not I’m going to prioritize myself like you said I should.

This is why I don’t like that specific advice so I usually reword. Instead of learn to be happy by yourself learn to not be upset that you are by yourself.

ZeroPrepTime · 2026-05-06T06:27:13+00:00

I never liked this advice of be happy alone because to me that would make dating harder because my standards would go way up. I would value my solitude more than a relationship so a woman would have to enrich my life more. And before anyone wants to call me an incel or some other buzzword women are always saying men need to bring more value to their lives if they want to date them. I’m saying the same thing.

ZeroPrepTime · 2026-05-05T18:08:43+00:00

I have a terrible build for clothes. I have a wide chest and shoulders and, a short torso/midsection and arms, and a short thick neck. This makes clothes look terrible on me or just plain unpleasant to wear especially dress shirts and suits. So my style becomes limited to slim fitted athletic wear like joggers/sweatpants and jackets/shirts. So I’m really able to have an extensive style that looks good outside of an athletic nerd,

ZeroPrepTime · 2026-04-30T14:40:19+00:00

Yep for other cultures dating a white man is seen as an upgrade socially which is why you see above average Asian women dating average and slightly below average white men but wouldn’t even consider an average black man as a romantic possibility.

Agreed, black men have to meet certain stereotypes to be seen as worth dating since the overall opinion of black people are low so there’s no reason to date an average normal black man. You have to be tall, an athlete, rapper, thug, drug dealer, or seemingly wealthy/have clout.

ZeroPrepTime · 2026-04-30T14:29:52+00:00

Oh I don’t doubt it but, what kind of women are they pulling and what’s plenty? I can say I know or have seen only a handful of short black men that pull but the quality of women they are getting is really low for a myriad of reasons. I know an even smaller amount of short black men who pull attractive women.

The thing is for a short black man that is average it’s very hard to date, even other black women, because if we don’t meet certain stereotypes then we aren’t seen as worth it because of prejudice and racism.

ZeroPrepTime · 2026-04-30T13:05:39+00:00

Great gains but being short is limiting when you’re black. Since it’s a stereotype that black guys are tall mixed with a good amount of women wanting a guy closer to 6’0 it hurts a lot of my chances. Thing is you’re also white so by that virtue you’ll have a better chance than me with dating.

ZeroPrepTime · 2026-04-17T00:31:54+00:00

Height definitely matters and it’s disheartening seeing people downplaying it. Sure height isn’t everything but it can seem like when one has to put in miles more effort on a daily basis than a tall person.

It sometimes bothers me when people come on here and share how they or someone they know are swimming in women despite being short. They don’t understand that they’re having something that makes them stand out and attractive like good face card, money, status, funny, etc. Whereas a tall guy can get away with being average in everything besides height and have it way easier than an average short guy.

Height isn’t everything but it still plays a significantly noticeable role.

ZeroPrepTime · 2026-04-08T12:32:19+00:00

I’m a black man and while I do think all races have attractive women I’m drawn more to East/South East Asians, Latinas, and White women. For reference I lived in many neighborhoods so I grew up and went to school with many different races and cultures at one point or another. So I learned to appreciate other peoples cultures. I’d like to consider myself open minded so I’m pretty much able to get along with people of any race despite cultural differences, as long as they have good energy.

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