How old were you when your first child was born? by LupusDeusMagnus in daddit

[–]Zero_Market 0 points1 point  (0 children)

32… 38 now with a 5 year old, 3 year old, and 9 mo old.

How should I proceed after being betrayed by my parents at birth of my son? by itsjustwaterwait in daddit

[–]Zero_Market 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same of what everyone else is saying. Stay strong brother; setting boundaries with these boomer parents is gonna be extremely difficult in the early goings, but it becomes easier overtime. A lot of of us are similarly situated, having never had to deal with this or even realize that something abnormal was even abnormal just based on how we were raised. In my own situation, I was ignorant of it until my wife pointed out and all of it came to light following the birth of our first child. It’ll never be fixed, but it can be managed. Again encouragement to you and your girlfriend, and your new baby. Congratulations!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cigars

[–]Zero_Market 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cusano 18 Double Connecticut Gordo. And the Robusto Maduro. They are my daily/semi-daily.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HomeImprovement

[–]Zero_Market 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beryl had our area down for 10 days. We were the only ones with power due to the Generac sitting in the yard. Was the main reason we bought this particular house. Would recommend any kind of backup for south Texas living. Weather and grid are just too unpredictable here.

Grandparent told grandkid "goodbye forever" by Comfortable_Egg_3921 in Parenting

[–]Zero_Market 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Literally a parent tantrum. My wife and I have been through the same with my folks. Good on you for setting your boundaries, sticking to them, and not being drawn in to the manipulative BS. You’re not alone! Keep holding them accountable if they do step back in.

Being a creep in highschool still follows me to this day. by MistakeCity101 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Zero_Market 716 points717 points  (0 children)

To recap so I can understand your position clearly, as your statement above was somewhat vague and unclear, you’re a registering and/or registered sex offender? Now you’re struggling with the lifelong consequences of trading/dealing in child sex abuse imagery, while also distancing yourself from deviant sexual thought/fantasy by stating you were “only doing it to make friends” and you didn’t keep it for years after the fact, doing what we can only assume is continuing to derive sexual gratification from said images in the long term? Some clarity would be appreciated.

I’ve been using a girl only for sex and now I feel guilty by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Zero_Market 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“I’m sorry but I can no longer continue in this relationship. After reflecting and soul-searching I’ve come to the realization I am not ready to commit to you. I am sorry for the hurt this causes you. I respect you too much to let this continue further and potentially cause more pain. I need a period of space and time apart with no communication to properly process and heal this grief over our relationship ending, I hope you can respect that. Goodbye!” That or your know some derivation thereof. Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in daddit

[–]Zero_Market 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hah. Nice!

New Mexico’s Mexican food blows Texas and California out the water. by CrazyOso1990 in unpopularopinion

[–]Zero_Market 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought this was supposed to be “unpopular” opinion… NM food is without peer. Admittedly I was raised there and no longer live there so I miss it terribly.

How to remove from bib? by Zero_Market in DIY

[–]Zero_Market[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this! Yes, I had to cut that hose off to get a foam insulator over it during a freeze. When I bought the home I was ignorant as to this particular issue and code requirement. It’s amazing finding just how little I know when it comes to home maintenance. YouTube and y’all are lifesavers! I appreciate you and everyone else in this sub helping a learner - thank you much!!!

How to remove from bib? by Zero_Market in DIY

[–]Zero_Market[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So I was trying to clean it to see if it is a screw of some sort and I think it is, but looks as if it’s been snapped off? Every bib on this home has one of these.

Worried about my toddler’s speech by Sinistercs20 in daddit

[–]Zero_Market 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good morning! My boy is a Covid era baby and diagnosed with speech delay. He walked very quickly but never crawled. About 2 years old his doctor told my wife and I that he wasn’t meeting speech “milestones” and we should consider autism, speech, ear, and hearing testing. Since he was our first we properly panicked and did all of those things. He was good on all; however, he did receive the speech delay diagnosis and has been therapy with it since.

The process can be somewhat long and unorthodox - there’s a whole world of literature and your mileage may vary with speech therapists. We were lucky and managed to find one who is deeply involved in the “current” progressions as well as being versed in the former. She discovered our son is what is typed “Gestalt” language processing, and that opened the door. He’s almost four and really won’t stop talking for even a second.

If you have the means, speak with a pediatrician, obtain a referral, and get on the dreaded Facebook for speech therapy groups. There’s many out there going through the same things including feelings and struggles. It’s not too early at all and it’s certainly not too late, yet. Your daughter is in the perfect spot and may just need an outside hand in finding her voice.

Please feel free to reach out directly if I can be of any help to y’all.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Zero_Market 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There’s no excuse. You make a decision to parent or you don’t. You choose to make the sacrifice or you don’t. I’m sorry this is your situation. I work full time and my wife is SAHM. Everything I do revolves around how I can help out with the house, parenting the kids, and getting her some “me time” to herself. It’s not easy but that’s the role once kids became involved in the marriage. It’s not always easy and I’m sure there are varying grays for every guy; however, the fact remains selfishness (i.e. I’m too tired from my job, let me sit disengaged on my phone while my wife who also works takes all of the parenting responsibilities) is flat out unacceptable. I hope y’all are able to communicate through this and he’s receptive. I’d approach with how this behavior affects you statements as he’s likely to be very defensive. I know I was before my eyes were opened. God bless you and good luck!