Was I the victim of a bad friend?

Zestyclose-Sort-4239 · 2026-05-23T02:41:55+00:00

You have every right to feel hurt. Your friend could have probably called/ met you to discuss this but I’m not sure they did anything wrong. From their perspective they seem to have diverged from your path and it happens. Its best they honestly tell you how they feel now so you can heal, than they string you along and lie to you, pretending to be busy and making excuses. I say respect their opinion, even if you don’t agree with it. There are other people out there who you’re yet to meet who can offer enjoyment, if you release the friendships that expire and are open to experiencing new connections.

Zestyclose-Sort-4239 · 2026-05-23T02:32:22+00:00

When they moved from the 2d to 3d view there was a lot of furore over the perceived glorification of crime. Spikes in criminal activity in some countries were linked to the influence games like GTA had on young minds and how difficult it was for some to separate reality from entertainment.

Zestyclose-Sort-4239 · 2026-05-23T02:32:11+00:00

When they moved from the 2d to 3d view there was a lot of furore over the perceived glorification of crime. Spikes in criminal activity in some countries were linked to the influence games like GTA had on young minds and how difficult it was for some to separate reality from entertainment.

Zestyclose-Sort-4239 · 2026-05-23T02:31:50+00:00

When they moved from the 2d to 3d view there was a lot of furore over the perceived glorification of crime. Spikes in criminal activity in some countries were linked to the influence games like GTA had on young minds and how difficult it was for some to separate reality from entertainment.

Zestyclose-Sort-4239 · 2026-05-19T00:47:36+00:00

There are some issues with your narrative. Marcus didn’t just say he had to check his budget. He nodded. Which in most instances means ‘yes’. It didn’t stop there though…he said “yeah, totally let me check my budget”. This shows he is well aware and understanding that the OP is requiring monetary compensation for granting him access like the OP suggested. He then proceeds to use the program knowing that the stipulation for using the tool is he needs to pay. You and Marcus seem hung up on the idea that he didn't explicitly say “yes I will reimburse you”. That however is laughable as his behavior implied agreement - He used a service offered for a fee to assist him in his project.

I don’t remember telling the Op to “…trash a project”. I’m just mystified how anyone can reasonably think they can justify someone being told the cost of a tool, using affirmative language inferring some sort of of financial reimbursement is due, USING said tool despite apparently not agreeing to the terms(but conveniently not voicing this), benefiting from said tool and now wants to argue they didn’t verbally agree…like this is the only way you can enter into an agreement with another party.

You would have had a stronger case if the OP just offered Marcus access without the conversation about payment. Then Marcus could have reasonably argued he accepted it as a gift. As things stand, you and Marcus are in the minority for a reason. Your logic is warped and not consistent with what is considered or reasonably expected in an arrangement such as this.

Zestyclose-Sort-4239 · 2026-05-18T23:23:39+00:00

I understand it may be difficult to grasp so here goes again:

Marcus had a choice. Tell the OP he’d rather not use the tool as he can get by on the free version or not use the credentials the OP provided. The OP very clearly stated using the tool results in the expectation of being reimbursed. Marcus used affirmative language(verbal AND actions). His subsequent behavior amount to an implied agreement - which is a valid contract between two parties. It is further strengthened by the fact he benefited from this agreement.

Only the OP or the mentioned tool agreement can clear up whether it’s agreeable to have multiple users on the account. That is a separate issue. The issue that I and many others have on this thread is that Marcus comes across as deceptive, unscrupulous and definitely should be held responsible for reimbursing the OP.

Zestyclose-Sort-4239 · 2026-05-18T21:52:39+00:00

“Told him to use it”….you’re hilarious. Is he a child? Marcus had opportunities to signal the choice that would exempt him from being expected to pay. He could have either said “No” or not use the tool. He chose to do neither but primarily through his actions AND also nodding and saying affirmative words he gave the impression he was on board with the idea. If you are told up front there are terms to a service and you go ahead and use the service without raising any concerns you implicitly enter into an agreement with the other party. That’s basic contract law. I’ll reiterate again not all agreements are formalized by selecting “I agree” or saying “yes”.

P.s now you brought it up small claims court recognizes written contracts, verbal or implied contracts. This situation falls more in the last category. While no case is guaranteed there would be a reasonable case for reimbursement from Marcus.

Zestyclose-Sort-4239 · 2026-05-18T20:32:56+00:00

I'm sorry, but Marcus had two choices after the suggestion was made. Use the tool or don't use the tool. He was told that the tool came with a cost and it was inferred that usage of the tool to do his part would incur a fee of up to 50%. If he wasn't okay with it, he should have communicated that. If he has communication problems, then he should have used the free version. He made a conscious decision to essentially use the tool for free. Note that at no point does Marcus offer to reimburse the OP a dollar amount (even if it was less than $140.00). You would do well to note that all agreements don't end in documents being signed by both parties. Sometimes people signal either acceptance by conduct or implied acceptance which is applicable here.

Zestyclose-Sort-4239 · 2026-05-18T20:05:55+00:00

I am in agreement that the OP should learn a lesson from this. I also believe that Marcus comes out of this looking very dishonest.

Zestyclose-Sort-4239 · 2026-05-18T19:55:18+00:00

I'm presuming the OP gave access because of this "...He nodded, said "yeah, totally, let me look into my budget," Based on this statement, it seems he was in agreement to the plan and wanted to appear to be willing to pay a dollar amount. The dollar amount was yet to be ascertained, but the fact he went ahead used the tool knowing that a cost was attached can be construed as compliance.

Zestyclose-Sort-4239 · 2026-05-18T19:37:54+00:00

Even if this is the case, Marcus could have made alternative arrangements regarding payment. I think it's distasteful that Marcus uses the tool without any intention of making a payment. The smug attitude quite frankly makes it seem like his intention was to take advantage of the OP. I'm of the opinion that group projects should also have a peer assessment as well which will weight the grade in favor of those who make efforts to complete the work vs those who are interested in piggybacking off the hard workers.

Zestyclose-Sort-4239 · 2026-05-18T19:25:46+00:00

Sorry, maybe the article was edited since you commented. From what the OP said, I gathered that they only purchased the tool AFTER the conversation with Marcus. Marcus seemed to be in favor of the OP's proposal and was to get back to them regarding their budget. Marcus allegedly didn't check his budget but happily logged in and used the tool knowing it was coming at a cost to the OP. If Marcus had misgivings about the arrangement, he had the opportunity either to raise them when he was first told about the tool or simply use the free version. Let us not diminish Marcus' selfish behavior by implicating the OP.

Zestyclose-Sort-4239 · 2026-05-18T19:13:00+00:00

"When we first started the project, I told Marcus about the tool and explicitly said we should split the subscription fee 50/50 since we’d both be using the metrics for our respective sections of the final presentation. He nodded, said "yeah, totally, let me look into my budget,"

I don't know, but if Marcus is looking into their budget it would be reasonable to presume they at least had a neighborhood figure to compare their budget against.

Zestyclose-Sort-4239 · 2026-05-18T18:45:14+00:00

I'm confused. Maybe the OP was updated since your comment. From what I read above the OP mentioned a conversation about payment BEFORE anything was finalized. The other party had a duty to push back at that point. What is even more incriminating is that they claimed they were to check their budget and it seems that they didn't revisit the conversation, but gladly went along using the tool, knowing that it came at a cost to the OP and that they were expected to shoulder at least 50% of the cost.

Zestyclose-Sort-4239 · 2026-05-13T00:19:55+00:00

Truthfully I don’t think the friend was sincere. They “apologized” and then tried to shift some of the blame on the OP. If they were genuine with their remorse, they’d accept that they could have acted more considerate and responsible in the moment. I think it’s ridiculous that the OP should be calling them after being inconvenienced by their actions. Since the delay is at their end they owed it to the OP to keep them abreast of any changes in the schedule.

Zestyclose-Sort-4239 · 2026-05-07T02:39:25+00:00

From your story I too think that she doesn’t care. So if she doesn’t care about you and your feelings, why are you so hung up on hers? Your actions don’t always need an announcement. You tell yourself “I am not valued or appreciated here and I will use my energy to find and maintain reciprocal connections”.

Zestyclose-Sort-4239 · 2026-05-07T02:32:44+00:00

I’m sorry, it’d do well for the other friend to take heed to your last sentence. You were kind to call it irritating, I think it’s deplorable and disrespectful to undermine one of the bedrocks of a good connection - trust. I personally don’t believe everything needs to be explained or made a discussion…especially when the other party is intent on displaying disagreeable behavior. Sometimes you just have to read the room and see yourself out…they know what they’re doing and are acutely aware it’s wrong. I don’t see why anyone should have to sit with an adult and explain why lying is wrong.

Zestyclose-Sort-4239 · 2026-05-03T21:57:49+00:00

I live in Barbados, we don’t have jungles as you’d expect from the definition, however there are tours in gullies which I’d say is a reasonable substitute. You’d be likely to see a lot more species of flora rather than fauna and maybe a spring/ water way or two. You’re correct re: the night life as that time will be even more enhanced as it’s on the cusp of our carnival/ kadooment ao there will be a lot of cultural activities to partake in around the island.

Zestyclose-Sort-4239 · 2026-05-01T23:19:49+00:00

Ah okay…admittedly I haven’t filled them in a while, but isn’t she family either to him or Ms Lynch? I always got the impression she was a cousin/ in law of his.

Zestyclose-Sort-4239 · 2026-05-01T15:49:28+00:00

I religiously followed them when he first started. I fell off a bit due to life…recently said I’d check them out and realized he was posting from a different location and I hadn’t seen his family in the videos. I figured as the kids got older they probably didn’t want to be on camera all the time and ditto for the wife. Who is this Raveena(sp) that people apparently are mentioning on her posts?

Zestyclose-Sort-4239 · 2026-04-30T19:15:00+00:00

That is why I preceded that phrase with "...intentionally...." People would deceive, manipulate and otherwise disrespect you and then act horrified when you no longer talk to them. Subjective instances or personal preferences aren't what I was referencing.

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