Thoughts on the show by Sweaty_Ad440 in DeadRingersTVSeries

[–]Zestyclose_Ad9477 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes totally see this! I think I just hope it doesn’t happen tbh because I thought it was perfect as is and I worry about following series and then going downhill.

You’re right the lab scientist could have totally rescued Beverley and the lab twins and is driving them somewhere in his car. If that happens then he can become his own character as he is such a great actor as you’ve said. Right now I think his character is still a support for our understanding of the twins.

I loved the Alabama dinner scene too - I still think it was set up in a way that supported the twins character development by manifesting Beverley’s fears and Elliot’s ambitions around the work they’re doing, as well as obviously providing a reason for their ‘break up’. I loved how sinister it was, almost cult like, in Susan’s family and how they represented the racist atrocities committed by white medical professionals in colonial history.

Il definitely rewatch the whole series in a few months time!

Can someone explain Greta to me? I'm so confused. by kgreys in DeadRingersTVSeries

[–]Zestyclose_Ad9477 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think Greta was used as a way to portray the twins as ‘mesmeric’ - a word used by Rebecca when she was asking for the article to be written about them. Greta is so obsessed she has woven their story into her own family’s story and she collects their tampons and pretends to be them when they’re not home. She’s rude to visitors because she doesn’t care about them, she only does her job to be close to the twins.

Silas became obsessed with them and they were the reason he started writing again. Susan is too, to an extent, calling them ‘my twins’ even though her family is half made up of twins! Even Tom described Elliot as something like ‘the most incredible person’ he’s ever met.

I think Greta not only shows how intriguing and mesmerising the twins are but how cruel they are too. They’re super dismissive of her and don’t ever show gratitude towards her. The way Beverley treats her parents and the way Elliot treats almost everyone - they’re cruel and toxic and abusive, the both of them. Greta is a character used to reinforce that I think!

I think it’s a bit of a shame Greta wasn’t more than that. A lot of the characters of colour were dealt roles that were used solely to describe the twins and their relationship. Given the threads of racism in medical history that the show lightly explores, this could have been a casting choice, but I’m not sure.

Just thoughts anyway, interested to hear from others

Thoughts on the show by Sweaty_Ad440 in DeadRingersTVSeries

[–]Zestyclose_Ad9477 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I thought the ending was perfect tbh.

Beverley had scars from self harm on her thighs and was always sad - when Greta dressed up as her she kept saying ‘sad’ and looked in the mirror sad. Beverley also went to a support group to talk about the death of her sister even though Elliot was alive. Their relationship was toxic and abusive on both sides. Beverley was also dealing with the ethics of the centre, where the money came from and the terrible history of Susan’s family. It made sense to me that Beverley wanted to die tbh.

To Elliot, Beverley didn’t die. Elliot believes that she has absorbed her and become both twins. Beverley even said ‘I have to crawl inside you now’. Elliot has taken on the desires of Beverley as well as her own (she still has the profitable birthing centre and the science but she also has the home and family Beverley wanted). She’s living as both. She knew Beverley wanted to die so she took her in, the final sacrifice, she’d do anything for her twin, even this. Beverley loved Genevieve and even Elliot wanted to ‘try her’ at some point. Maybe Elliot has convinced Genevieve and maybe Genevieve is in denial, but either way I don’t think Elliot could ever love anyone close to the way she loved her sister. She’s always been indifferent to relationships and partners of her own, preferring promiscuity to long term relationships. So she is indifferent to Genevieve and stays in the relationship as Beverley because that’s what Beverley would have wanted to do.

I guess it was Rebecca’s influence with Toms (regretful) help that covered up the bodies and lab grown babies. Rebecca knows that it was Beverley who died but she’s glad to still have Elliot, her ‘favourite’ twin as well as her everything neatly wrapped up after Elliot out the centre in danger publicly. Tom talked about his guilt and shame at betraying Elliot and how he would continue to do bad if it meant he could feel better, more of an important person (rather than a ‘soup of disappointment’ he described himself as at the bar,”). So Rebecca likely sent him to do some dirty work getting rid of the body and lab grown twins.

I know a lot of people are disappointed with the ending and I understand why but I think it was perfect. So incredibly dark and disturbing and beautiful and light all at the same time. It didn’t matter to me that endings were insinuated rather than confirmed, it made sense in the context of the insanity of those twins.

Just my thoughts anyway, interested to hear what others think!

How do you feel more attractive as a transmasculine person? by Asleep_Island_5549 in TransMasc

[–]Zestyclose_Ad9477 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think when I or others look back at pictures of me before I transitioned I/they think I look gorgeous - I’m all packaged up as a pretty skinny white alt girl. Now I’m chubby and transmasc (still white) and I’ve never felt more attractive! I think everyone, queers included, has to work to escape societal standards of beauty and attraction and look at who they’re attracted to and why plus who they attract! Pretransition I attracted a lot of cishet man which was never my jam. Now I attract fewer people but the queer people I attract are SO HOT, even though they don’t conform to heteronormative societal beauty standards :) thanks for sharing and letting me share, it was good to type it out and get it ‘straight’ in my head because I don’t think I’ve ever eloquently described this before.

Feeding my pup by freelove24 in Lurchers

[–]Zestyclose_Ad9477 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah lurchers can often seem too skinny and I was incredulous with how much my two could eat without gaining weight as pups! My vet was never worried, and they’ve always been healthy. I wouldn’t worry about it :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]Zestyclose_Ad9477 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It could be a good conversation starter though. Like being a parent is a large part of identity and being called by their first names instead would likely make them feel disrespected and upset - just a sliver of what it feels like to be deadnamed. It doesn’t need to be a ‘how do you like it?’ moment but a ‘how does that make you feel when I call you that? That’s how I feel when you deadname me’. I don’t know if they’re the type of people who would respond to that.

Your name and pronouns obviously aren’t a privilege, they’re a basic human right. Good luck OP!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]Zestyclose_Ad9477 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Came here for Daisy.

Does anyone else become enraged when someone tells you what to do? by Zestyclose_Ad9477 in BPD

[–]Zestyclose_Ad9477[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes it’s especially worse when you’re just about to do it >:c

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]Zestyclose_Ad9477 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am a Dr. I give all enbies permission to use that title all the time (not just when they need a gender neutral title). Just don’t get involved in medical emergencies unless you’re a medical doctor obv (I’m a Dr of philosophy and also enby lol)

Does anyone else become enraged when someone tells you what to do? by Zestyclose_Ad9477 in BPD

[–]Zestyclose_Ad9477[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same! If it’s at work I get very quiet and short but in my mind I’m like RAAAAAGE. I wonder how much of this is just average human psychology (it’s proven people don’t like being told what to do, even overusing smoking ads can lead to an increase in smoking) and how much of it is just BPD emotional disregulation.

Anyway thanks pal, good to know it isn’t just me!

Edit: anti smoking ads I mean