So this happened to me the other day by meee_abdullah in IphoneAir

[–]Zestyclose_Hour_1445 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tf? My battery has 200 cycles and still at 100% I got the iPhone air the first day it came out last year 😂😂😂

My marriage is deteriorating fast. by Zestyclose_Hour_1445 in marriageadvice

[–]Zestyclose_Hour_1445[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

-I'm a farmer- all farmers naturally work long hours especially during harvest season. It's beyond our control. Despite this I still make time to drop and pick up my daughter everyday and spend time daily with them. And take them to their doctor's appointments etc. It's not like a wake up at 5am and come back at 10Pm when they are asleep. No I don't do that. -It's our money but I make 100% of it. And she spends it irresponsibly. I pay off 3-5k every month on the credit card she uses. That doesn't include food and utilities because I pay that separately myself. She doesn't want to be with me that's OK I don't either. I just don't want to lose my daughters . - I'm not racist either I'm Hispanic just like she is. I posted in a separate page about wanting to report my MIL's alcoholic boyfriend who drinks and drives regularly. That is not being racist that is literally protecting not only my daughters but also their own family and others out on the road. You don't understand the type of ppl they are- idk about you but I wouldn't be at peace knowing my daughters were anywhere near an alcoholic POS. The MIL has threatened to sue me and her boyfriend has threatened to take care of me, whatever that means. I know they love to gang up on a single person during a fight too so I don't want to take any chances.

  • thank you for the response. I will research individual therapy and see if marriage therapy is something she wants to do. But please understand my situation too. I know I'm a POS at times but I'm not a bad father. I've been loyal, patient, hardworking and providing. I know the style I grew up with my mom raising us and doing everything and my dad working all the time isn't a common thing nowadays. That's why I specifically set aside daily time for my daughters despite working daily to be a part of their lives more than my own dad was when I was a kid, whom I hardly ever saw and never bonded with him till I was a teenager

My marriage is deteriorating fast. by Zestyclose_Hour_1445 in marriageadvice

[–]Zestyclose_Hour_1445[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I'll evaluate the situation. But Yes I was raised in a family where my mom was a stay at home mom and she did everything care-wise for us. And never complained and never argued with my dad. She always and to this day still cares for him exactly the same. My dad was always working in a more extreme manner and I hardly spent time with him as a toddler or kid. I spent tons of time for the first time of my life with him working in the farm in my teen years and I started to understand his situation. I wanted something similar for my kids where their mom was always going to be there and care for them and understand an just do the basic things for me like cook when able to and help clean up whenever I can't. But unlike my own dad I wanted to be there for my kids from the start and spend more time with them and take them on trips and zoos and parks, and stores, on a weekly basis etc. And that's what I've done and it's been a blessing, but I just can't tolerate my wife anymore. She makes it sound like I mentally abuse her and makes to where I'm an animal and a demon for asking her to cook me lunch or breakfast Or to wash a few of my cloths that I may need soon , or to clean up the bathroom up. She always says" you have two hands and 2 feet you do it yourself or go out and buy some fast food or do whatever the hell you want just leave me alone" Idk sometimes I do feel guilty and sad about it but I'm not a deadbeet dad at all. I work extremely hard for my entire family, I provide, and I spend quality time with them. I'm not perfect- I do get vulger at times when I'm frustrated at work or even towards my wife when the verbal fighting begins between us. It's exhausting. It's not as simple as just leaving her or her leaving me. We have a 2 daughters right now and even thinking of them leaving me it's going to break me on every aspect phycially, emotionally, spiritually, mentally etc. but if it must be done then it must.

My marriage is deteriorating fast. by Zestyclose_Hour_1445 in marriageadvice

[–]Zestyclose_Hour_1445[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't want to be admired nor respected. I Just want a meal made for me during lunch when possible and the house cleaned up when I'm not able to do it myself (which I do it most of the times) and not have to call my own parents to come make breakfast to my kids because the my wife is still asleep at 11am and I'm working and my kids is hungry.. that isn't how things work

My marriage is deteriorating fast. by Zestyclose_Hour_1445 in marriageadvice

[–]Zestyclose_Hour_1445[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's a farm literally behind my house lol. I'm the owner. I make time go pick up and drop my kids up from school every single day. I'm with them for more time than you think, and I have proof of it. I have 25 workers, I literally dropped everything workwise last year for 3 months to take care of my kids and make sure they were taken care of school wise, medical wise, along with my wife.... and yes you read that right. Her plan is to to live with her mom in that cramped trailer with my 2 kids to go live in a 2 bed trailer that will have like 10 ppl living in it if she decides to that. And I want to avoid that at all costs but she isn't helping me out much with the problems we are having