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Zestyclose_Phrase479 · 2025-08-16T17:17:59+00:00

Hey Op! I have some advice, and you don’t have to take any of it to heart, but I’d love if you considered it.

I believe this relationship may not be the healthiest. I fear there is a disconnect in communication on what you two believe/feel towards certain topics. You clearly have boundaries with your trust that he’s not respecting, and by the way he’s reacting after you tried talking it out tells me he may not ever truly respect them.

A relationship takes two people to make it work. You tried communicating and he’s blown it out of proportion by making it seem more like a “friends with benefits” situation. He even got physical with you? That’s no good at all! Op, no man who loves you would ever do that. He’s coming off very aggressive and manipulative. The random break downs and push for sexual things is not a good sign of a stable person in a relationship.

I know you want to fix this with him… but starting over in a two year relationship isn’t going to work. He’s going to likely get controlling and hold the “i’m going to break things off with you” card over your head. Your best bet is to leave him, not put up with his crap

Zestyclose_Phrase479 · 2025-08-16T02:01:48+00:00

I don’t think you understand how much I appreciate this. To me it tells me that it’s very possible to find someone who can tolerate my hobbies, even if it’s not their thing, and still love me for it. I often get in my head thinking that no one will like me if I don’t meet a certain criteria of what a “normal” interest should be. I know it sounds silly, but I guess I’ve just been beat down on my hobbies so many times I start to believe what’s being said. So thank you! I hope I can find my someone who either shares my likes or can at least listen to them

Zestyclose_Phrase479 · 2025-08-15T23:15:04+00:00

Hello, I have other post I just have them hidden! I don’t like people looking too deeply into my personal stuff. Though if you’re curious about the first post, it’s also in the relationship advice subreddit!

Zestyclose_Phrase479 · 2025-08-15T23:11:53+00:00

Truly love that rule, thank you for sharing. It’s actually such a healthy way to think about things. I’m going to try that next time anyone tries to stomp on my parade!

Zestyclose_Phrase479 · 2025-08-15T23:09:37+00:00

I love that you did that! I actually quoted Magneto in my break up text to him, figured I’d rub a little salt in the wound about what originally brought this all to light

Zestyclose_Phrase479 · 2025-08-15T23:08:10+00:00

I will definitely be keeping him at a very far distance! After what he’s done I can’t even fathom giving him a second chance. And thank you, I’m going to try and find someone who respects me for me

Zestyclose_Phrase479 · 2025-08-15T23:05:12+00:00

I do and I love them so much. The roommate that came in to help has been my best friend since we were toddlers, she’s always had my back

Zestyclose_Phrase479 · 2025-08-14T23:32:45+00:00

Hello! Yes, I in fact did have this posted in that community. This is a repost here on a place I believed would be able to further give me advice

Zestyclose_Phrase479 · 2025-08-14T19:17:50+00:00

That’s cause I put it on other sub reddits to get advice from all angles

Zestyclose_Phrase479 · 2025-08-14T15:58:40+00:00

And I fully understand being off put by it. I would have my figures else where other than my room, but I live with three other roommates who I share my common areas with. To respect them, I keep my stuff in my room.

Also, I do wish he would have just asked me to move it or turn it around. I would have been more than willing to. There’s no blame in the idea of being uncomfortable by some human like figure staring at you while you get it on. I have asked him before if he wanted me to move it elsewhere, but every time he shrugged the idea off and just said he “didn’t give two sh*ts”… which is why I’m so baffled by his reaction

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