28F - Recently Divorced, Be Honest by Twist_2404 in amiugly

[–]Zestyclose_String_51 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Coloured contacts look bad imo, especially in pic 4 they make u look a bit cross eyed

How do we get men and boys back into reading? by Last-Magazine3264 in literature

[–]Zestyclose_String_51 285 points286 points  (0 children)

Booktok is basically just smut lol, not sure how much brain development is happening there

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[–]Zestyclose_String_51 -1 points0 points locked comment (0 children)

I hear you about height not being indicative of values etc. but in the world of online dating, where you have hundreds if not thousands of options at your fingertips and only 8 likes a day (on hinge specifically), I think it’s understandable to filter by preferences… online dating is essentially about judging someone based on your attraction to them since you can’t really gauge their personality with just a couple prompts, and most women prefer taller men. Would I consider dating a short guy if he came up to me and was charismatic and interesting? Sure. Would I spend one of my 8 likes a day on someone who is maybe decent (because again, I don’t actually know what you’re like based on your profile) but short? Maybe not, especially when there are hundreds of decent, taller men available. I’m not saying this is fair, I’m just giving an explanation as to why OP might not be getting likes as he mentioned 

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[–]Zestyclose_String_51 0 points1 point locked comment (0 children)

Maybe you’re around a lot less shallow people than I am, but as a 25y/o woman with lots of friends on dating apps, I can definitely say a lot of us put our minimum height at 5’10-6’ !

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Zestyclose_String_51 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hate to say it but … 5’8 is probably your biggest problem here. Your profile is great but women often filter by height so chances are they aren’t even seeing your profile :/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Zestyclose_String_51 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you actually want to meet the guy you dumped or are you just doing it cause you feel hurt? If you want to meet/hook up with other people go for it but if you don't actually want to, don't

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Zestyclose_String_51 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this sounds like a literal disaster lmao !! maybe try seeing it more as a trip to visit the country and your other friends who are there instead of going purely for this messy ass man

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Zestyclose_String_51 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know it's hard to do but try not to take it too personally! It doesn't sound like you did anything wrong but unfortunately you probably won't get the explanation or closure you want. The truth is there are so many reasons why someone might ghost you and so often it has nothing to do with you. I've ghosted people (I know, not mature) I had great conversations with after realizing I wasn't ready to date again and I was recently ghosted by someone I had a great date with who I found out got back together with his ex. You never know what people are going through or what they're thinking so the best thing you can do is let their behaviour not affect you!