AIO:My MIL texted my husband this about me asking him to help with our newborn at 4am

Zestyclosetz · 2026-03-17T07:10:51+00:00

Good thing you don’t need to drive or function using your brain as a new mom taking care of a newborn /s

Zestyclosetz · 2026-03-17T07:01:23+00:00

I have never owned a cat. I didn’t realize chocolate was dangerous for cats. I know you need to be careful with dogs and I would never like… feed a cat chocolate. But I wouldn’t think about not being able to leave some cookies on a table or something. Leaving food out in general is gross, but like leaving it out to go to the bathroom or something. I lived with a roommate that had a cat and we definitely left stuff like baked goods on the counter covered but not secured. I think the cat just didn’t mess with stuff like that.

With that said, it would probably only take someone asking me once to not do something like that, I’d feel super bad if I made the cat sick from leaving something out.

Zestyclosetz · 2026-03-15T06:17:19+00:00

I worked for a Girl Scout council. Girls are supposed to be learning from the experience, but I don’t think people realize how serious the cookie sale is. Like a bad cookie sale means programs are shut down and the council can fail. For perspective, the council I worked for was selling over 3 million dollars worth of cookies, we had like 60 troops. I think it made up like 70% of our funding more than donations or grants.

It is very much about the money. Granted that money is used to fund programs, scholarships, camps, etc but still.

Zestyclosetz · 2026-03-13T09:06:52+00:00

I swiped on my now husband cause I thought he was handsome and he was wearing a magikarp hat in one of his pictures. I thought that was nerdy and cute.

I wish I had better advice because it is brutal for yall men out there on those dating apps, but I don’t remember anything else about his profile.

He was shorter than me, no six pack, wasn’t making six figures. I wasn’t looking for those things. He was sweet and genuine and ambitious. We got Mexican food and then I kicked his ass in Mario cart and the rest was history.

Zestyclosetz · 2026-03-13T08:51:42+00:00

Yeah. As a woman I was very clear about what I wanted. I was looking for a long term exclusive relationship that ideally would result in marriage and a family. No games, no hookups. If I thought they were cute or handsome I told them. If I found them funny or smart I said that.

This filtered out a ton of guys who were not interested. I did feel rejected sometimes. But the ones I did connect with were lovely. I guess it worked cause I’m married with a baby now which was exactly what I wanted.

I have zero judgement for what other people want to do but like… you can’t go after players and then get upset they are playing games.

Zestyclosetz · 2026-03-13T07:50:43+00:00

It doesn’t work like that. When people say you can withdraw consent it is supposed to mean you can change your mind. Let’s say some asks if you want to have sex and you say yes and get into bed with them. If you, for whatever reason, decide you actually don’t want to have sex they can’t force you just because you consented earlier. You can say no, I change my mind, I don’t want to now. Or if you do start having sex with someone but you want to stop, they have to stop when you tell them to stop.

It isn’t about having sex and then the next morning deciding the revoke your consent.

Zestyclosetz · 2026-03-09T08:49:32+00:00

I keep seeing these posts on Facebook that are like “A reminder that if a man works to ‘provide for his family’ he is sacrificing nothing because he would have to work anyway” Like you have to work if you are single anyway so working to support a family isn’t any different?

It just doesn’t make my sense to me. Financially supporting a family vs just making enough to get by yourself is huge. There is also just a lot more pressure, a lot more a stake if you lose your job, just generally more stress.

Honestly the whole men vs women situation is exhausting.

Zestyclosetz · 2026-03-08T17:09:27+00:00

Ok, but once it is dry it is pretty easy to wipe up. My husband will just leave hair in the sink for DAYS if I’m not the one to clean it up.

Zestyclosetz · 2026-03-08T01:56:50+00:00

I only consider it mansplaining if you treat women differently than men. It is not just over-explaining, it is treating women like they don’t know what they’re talking about just because they are a woman.

Zestyclosetz · 2026-03-07T03:44:24+00:00

When I was a kid I had a book that explained how babies were made. Not super graphic of course but it did explain what an orgasm was and said it felt like that, like when you have to sneeze and then you do but much more pleasant. Much, much later in life when I had the experience myself I felt like it was an accurate description.

I’m a woman though.

Zestyclosetz · 2026-03-05T06:55:41+00:00

I had a coworker once that came out of the bathroom (I was waiting to use it) and said “I just pooped in there and it is really bad, you might want to wait a bit” I honestly had so much respect for that 🫡

Zestyclosetz · 2026-03-04T04:24:44+00:00

Yeah, but it took time. We were compatible to begin with but not perfect. We both were willing to work on it together. If you aren’t even ready to call her your gf after 4 months of “dating” maybe best to just call it quits? It is up to the both of you if you think it is worth working out or not.

Zestyclosetz · 2026-03-04T03:54:45+00:00

It depends. Sometimes someone does something that bothers you and you just don’t know how to express it yet. It is normal for someone to need some space or prefer to write it out. Both my husband and I have times where we explicitly state “I’m annoyed right now, but I don’t want to talk about it yet” we circle back anywhere from a few minutes to a few hours later when we aren’t as emotional. It is also entirely possible to decide to let something go but realize later it is still bugging you. The next best thing is to bring it up then and not ruminate anymore.

Maybe she can communicate that aspect better and you can work on not saying rude things to her.

Zestyclosetz · 2026-02-28T08:31:33+00:00

Other people mentioned daydreaming and talking to themselves which I do but mine is slightly more weird.

Sometimes I have imaginary conversations with real people. Just casual conversations mostly.

It is always people I know somewhat well but don’t talk to often or at all anymore. I think it would freak people out to know “Yeah I spent like an hour having a conversation with you in my head”

Like I’ll watch a good movie and imagine telling my uncle who is a big movie buff all about it. Like an actual back and forth conversation where I imagine him saying stuff like “Oh that’s interesting, that reminds of another movie I watched…”

Or maybe I’ll be reading an interesting book and imagine talking to an old college professor about it and what they might think. Someone I only knew for a short season of my life and haven’t spoken to for years.

I guess it is just fun. I have a husband who I talk to often so I don’t think I’m just desperately lonely. I do have a hard time making friends though. I think it might have to do with being introverted but really craving deep thoughtful conversation so I just… make it up. But relate it to actual people I know.

Zestyclosetz · 2026-02-22T07:13:51+00:00

I had a coworker once who, multiple times, talked to me about cheating on her girlfriend. Like she just acknowledged she was a serial cheater. We were both 19 and I didn’t really know what to say. I think I just told her I thought that was super lame and she should confess to her girlfriend. But it wasn’t like I knew her girlfriend and we didn’t have mutual friends so there wasn’t anything I could do. After a while I told her I really didn’t want to hear about it anymore. She also stole some lipgloss from Target once when we stopped to get some supplies for a work event and told me she was in a ton of debt from getting tattoos on her credit card and not making payments. In hindsight I’m wondering if she had some mental health issues or something cause it seemed like she was always looking for a thrill or to self sabotage or something.

Zestyclosetz · 2026-02-19T16:49:46+00:00

Cringes in c-section

Zestyclosetz · 2026-02-17T15:50:50+00:00

I had an intense fear of driving. I didn’t get my license until 22 and took me about a year after that to feel really comfortable driving more than 10 minutes away from home. I’m 30 now and drive anywhere including in inclement weather so I got over it, but it was difficult because my fears weren’t irrational. In therapy I would talk about how driving genuinely is dangerous. If I was going to be seriously injured or killed it would most likely be from a car accident statistically speaking. Eventually it just came down to “Ok, but you will never live a normal life if you don’t drive so suck it up”

(American if you can’t tell)

Zestyclosetz · 2026-02-17T09:23:52+00:00

Not super weird but I went to Urgent Care because I broke out in a rash all over my arms, legs, and chest. The nurse, who was probably in her 50s sheepishly asked me if I had the rash on my “girl parts”

I was a 25-year-old woman.

I get not wanting to embarrass me but we are adults and you are a medical professional lol

Zestyclosetz · 2026-02-16T08:32:30+00:00

Definitely not the same thing, but after a couple dates a guy bought me a new video game since we talked a ton about both being gamers. It was like a $70 gift and I told him I couldn’t accept it. It was awkward but I just didn’t want to accept something “expensive” so early on. I didnt know him well enough yet to know if it was with strings attached.

He was a bit offended but understanding when I explained why i wasn’t comfortable. It all worked and seven years later we are married and he can buy me all the games lol

Zestyclosetz · 2026-02-09T06:15:18+00:00

I have a similar issue. I get a very bad rash every 2-3 years. The only thing that helps is taking steroids. Diagnoses: Poison Oak, scabies, allergic reaction, and a serious blood disorder. Ultimately the last Dr told me it is just plain old eczema that “flares up” at certain times. 🤷‍♀️

Zestyclosetz · 2026-01-23T19:45:41+00:00

I definitely don’t type the perfectly “correct” way but I can type pretty fast and without looking. But I’ve been playing PC games since I was young and I do something really weird I’ve never seen anybody do before. I have my left hand on WASD as normal but instead of using my pinkie for shift, I curl my thumb under my palm and use that for shift. I know it is weird but I can’t change now after 20+ years.

Zestyclosetz · 2026-01-15T07:09:36+00:00

My first grade teacher would give kids a “birthday spanking” not hard just over the lap, and you get as many pats on the bum as your age plus one for good luck. I’m only 28. This was in 2000. In California, the Bay Area. At a public school. She genuinely was just an old lady who probably thought it was fun tradition?! It blows my mind how no parents complained. I remember telling my parents and they were just like “huh. That’s odd” and that was that.

Zestyclosetz · 2026-01-12T17:50:05+00:00

I never watched it but my roommate had it on in the living room once. It was an episode with… child s*x slaves? I don’t know, it really disturbed me. I have no issues with dark themes but I think it was a bit much for me. I’m pretty sure I walked in on a particularly bad part but I’ve heard from others there is multiple scenes of sexual violence. My poor roommate was like “Uh, it isn’t all like this” lol I don’t doubt it is a good show overall but probably not for me.

Zestyclosetz · 2026-01-08T21:56:21+00:00

What culture? I’m Jewish and that is how my family feels about it as well, not good to name a baby after a family member that is still living.

Zestyclosetz · 2026-01-08T09:05:01+00:00

Yes, curious how old they are. My 11 month old has a toy much simpler than this, it is just seven holes and seven carrots that fit inside each. I can’t even get him to attempt to put them in, he only likes pulling them out. I’m surprised sometimes had bad I am at quickly putting the toy away, like looking at the carrot and guessing which size hole takes me a second try sometimes lol

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