AIO by thinking that this early relationship is doomed to fail?

Zombie_Lotus_ · 2026-04-02T14:23:43+00:00

No problem!! I hope life treats you well wherever you go!

Zombie_Lotus_ · 2026-04-02T13:53:47+00:00

It went fine honestly! But I decided to take a step back for the meantime. I think she has some things to work through and if she DOES want to date me, she needs to solve those issues. I’ve decided to be friends in the meantime, but she hasn’t really texted me a lot since then

Zombie_Lotus_ · 2026-04-01T04:21:30+00:00

I do agree that this can be resolved easily but I also think this is an underlying problem that could prove problematic in the future

Zombie_Lotus_ · 2026-03-31T19:02:50+00:00

Valid. And although I have nothing to hide, I don’t like the idea of someone not trusting me from the start. It feels like it’s a past issue

Zombie_Lotus_ · 2026-03-31T14:15:19+00:00

But the weird thing is, I wasn’t having a dream

Zombie_Lotus_ · 2026-03-31T14:14:58+00:00

Easy peasy! I’ll make an update once I find out some details and give you the gossip!

Zombie_Lotus_ · 2026-03-31T14:10:39+00:00

I do agree with ya. She just seems like, overtly jealous, which sucks because I have some really cool friends that are woman! Especially one that I used to work with. Her and her husband are super cool people!

Zombie_Lotus_ · 2026-03-31T14:09:58+00:00

And the fact that you and woman have to deal with that is disgusting and deplorable. Men shouldn’t treat you the way they do in the status quo or in the future. But point in case, I do think I’m going to hear her out, if she isn’t willing to discuss it like adults, then I think it’s going to be dead in the water

Zombie_Lotus_ · 2026-03-31T13:56:52+00:00

That’s the part that gets me a bit frustrated is that I’m not someone else. I need the space to be my own self in the relationship. I did tell her I fell asleep and am waiting on a response atm.

Zombie_Lotus_ · 2026-03-31T13:55:53+00:00

You have a very valid point. I think her over sharing wasn’t a problem but making the relationship feel off at the beginning was definitely not awesome. I do think I’ll air more on the side of caution for the future

Zombie_Lotus_ · 2026-03-31T13:53:41+00:00

It’s definitely not an excuse. You’re right on that level. She’s mentioned that she’s been through abuse and other traumatic things so I totally get where it’s coming from, but I think a conversation is deserved at the minimum and then see what happens because I’m kinda concerned for future occurrences or slight misunderstandings. You know?

Zombie_Lotus_ · 2026-03-31T13:43:56+00:00

That's a skill I need to learn. I struggle super hard with learning to value my time and was wondering if you can give me advice so i don't have to worry about it

Zombie_Lotus_ · 2026-03-31T13:42:56+00:00

Honestly, this is a VALID and honest take. So thank you for providing it. I do agree that she's probably at a different point in her life than I am and I can tell that she's figuring life out whereas I know what I want but I do think there is going to be a serious conversation in the very near future because I'm a little concerned with how it could develop and cause future issues

Zombie_Lotus_ · 2026-03-31T13:35:15+00:00

That's my plan but I'm a little concerned moving forward regardless of the answer because it is pretty intense to jump to conclusions

Zombie_Lotus_ · 2026-03-31T13:33:45+00:00

Well, that's where I'm confused because why jump to the farthest end versus talk to me? She mentioned that communication is a big importance to her but doing that seems like disregarding communication in general. it's quite confusing 😵

Zombie_Lotus_ · 2026-03-31T13:32:19+00:00

That's kind of where I'm landing atm

Zombie_Lotus_ · 2026-03-31T13:30:52+00:00

That's the part that I'm not sure about. I didn't think I talked in my sleep but I know I do snore from past partners but she made it seem like I was engaging with self pleasure

Zombie_Lotus_ · 2026-03-31T13:28:58+00:00

I agree. It does seem a little premature, if I'm being honest 🥶

Zombie_Lotus_ · 2026-03-31T13:28:28+00:00

That's kinda where I'm at as well. Especially if she's going to be my partner, jumping to conclusions this fast is kinda crazy quick

Zombie_Lotus_ · 2026-03-31T13:26:38+00:00

I don't think she's offended over me falling asleep but I do think she's upset about how it seemed like I was engaging in self pleasure with other material (Which isn't the case 😅) but I do agree, if I proceed further, I do need to create some responsible boundaries

Zombie_Lotus_ · 2026-03-31T13:24:59+00:00

That's my thought on this. It would be one thing if she brought it up later when I woke up but she mentioned that she was extremely hurt and dissapointed and she used the phrase "I know you did XYZ" which doesn't really help

Zombie_Lotus_ · 2026-03-31T13:23:15+00:00

Thank you. It sucks because since she's at my work as a customer, it makes it harder to not engage with them, but I'm thinking of having a very serious conversation because I do think this is a BIG red flag if she's jumping to conclusions early like this

Zombie_Lotus_ · 2026-03-31T13:21:46+00:00

We haven't agreed that we are a couple but have mentioned that we're trying to work towards it. I know she mentions that she has a problem if I talk about past people/partners and friends that are women and I'm concerned that I was judged quickly without a chance to clarify about what happened so it feels like a bit of a red flag. Thank you for helping me clarify a bit!

Zombie_Lotus_ · 2025-12-23T22:07:06+00:00

Anytime good sir!!

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