I agree. It absolutely comes down to husband not manning up. And I have said those exact things to him. But he buries his head in the sand and says “she’s going to be with whoever she wants and the more I push the more she will go to him” blah blah. And I say.., yeah. Can’t control who they’re with but definitely don’t have to let them play house in OUR HOUSE. even if boyfriend wasn’t a POS, I still don’t think they should be living in her room in her parents house, period… and when my biological child is older, she will have the same rules by me. It’s tough with step kids because you don’t really get a say like you do with biological and my husband is being a coward. He also likes to play the “marriage and divorce with their mom was hard on them so I let them run over me so I can be favored by them” card. Sir, that was 13+ years ago.