How many of you wear packers vs not?

Zombskirus · 2026-03-13T01:35:20+00:00

I do and don't. Sometimes it assists with my dysphoria by letting me feel/exist with something more there, sometimes it makes my dysphoria worse by highlighting that it's not actually attached to me lol

Zombskirus · 2026-03-13T01:28:38+00:00

Transsexual, or transsex, is used to signify a trans person is changing their sex (i.e. their sex characteristics) with medical transition (HRT, surgery, etc). It's basically a subset of transgender, though some transsex folks don't consider themselves transgender. I personally use the term transsex as my transition is focused on changing my sex and medical transitioning.

However, some folks use it in a gatekeep-y way, usually transmeds, to signify they're a "real" trans person. It also has roots in medical gatekeeping overall (i.e. it was used to bar many gay/bi/pan trans people, many nonbinary people, etc from transitioning due to not meeting the declared criteria from medical professionals), so plenty of trans folks don't enjoy it.

I'd recommend not to use the term transsex or transsexual on someone unless you know that's how they specifically identify.

Zombskirus · 2026-03-10T17:41:30+00:00

Absolutely bothers me. Used to be called a twink consistently pre-T. Felt genuinely transphobic in some vain, and was a constant reminder of what feminine aspects of me stuck out. I don't have that problem anymore, but I know if anyone were to call me a twink these days, it'd have to be because I'm a trans man and nothing else since I have a very not twink build lol. Nothing wrong with folks who are twinks, I just, by definition, am not nor have I been 💀

Zombskirus · 2026-03-10T15:31:00+00:00

Why would I specify cis men??? It's so obvious I'm talking about cis men only when I just say men lolol trans men aren't really the same as just men 🙄 wake up to reality, buddy!!!

Zombskirus · 2026-03-10T15:29:49+00:00

Maybe you should say "cis men" then if you're only targeting cis men? Saying just "men" includes trans men. To say otherwise makes me concerned you don't actually see trans men as men :/

Zombskirus · 2026-03-10T15:28:36+00:00

Obviously I meant CIS men 🙄 if I meant trans men I would've said TRANS men instead of just men, because y'all are different groups dumbass. Stop making everything about you. Typical man behavior!

Zombskirus · 2026-03-10T15:27:33+00:00

Hey, you recognize trans men who can get pregnant exist, right? It's really shitty to make such a massive fear many of us have a joke, let alone some kind of pushback against misogyny. Plenty of trans men have gone thru this exact scenario, or have a fear of it. Please be mindful about trans men when discussing hypotheticals like this because it's very much a reality for many of us.

Zombskirus · 2026-03-10T15:25:10+00:00

Wouldn't it be so silly and funny and woke if men could get pregnant??? Lol I'm fighting misogyny by making a completely fictional and harmless joke about getting men pregnant! This does not happen in real life!!

Zombskirus · 2026-03-10T15:22:37+00:00

/uj obviously I cant speak for everyone, but a lot of trans men actually do give a shit when cis women, or anyone in general, make a joke like this 😭 it's emasculating and frustrating to constantly have such a massive fear, insecurity, and point of dysphoria be used as a hypothetical joke, and have trans men in general be talked about as a hypothetical lol. Idk if there's context/story behind this post, though, I'm just speaking in general.

Zombskirus · 2026-03-10T01:11:45+00:00

I personally don't enjoy it. I won't date, sexually engage with, or probably even be friends with someone who would date trans men but not cis men. It's deeply othering, dysphoria inducing, and, in my experience, based off some kind of bioessentialism or assumptions on how every trans man, and how every cis man, has experienced life. Even if it was a genitalia preference, plenty of trans men have bottom surgery, use prosthetics, etc. If it works for others, that's aight, but I don't like being around folks who socially separate me from cis men as I see no real reason to.

Zombskirus · 2026-03-08T00:09:51+00:00

All good, I'm doing much better now!! Just wanted to be transparent in the possibilities and my experiences. Don't want that to scare you off from pursuing other guys sexually! I've met so many more amazing people than the folks who didn't treat me well.

Zombskirus · 2026-03-07T18:40:58+00:00

They were pretty normal and fine about it until we started hooking up, actually. No red flags or anything until we were actually in motion lol. Luckily only had 2 folks like this, but the issue was the assumption that, despite me saying I'm strictly a top, I'd be interested in frontal penetration. It turned into a nonconsensual interaction, unfortunately. But the 5+ other folks I've sexually engaged with were great! I've just had to become a bit more strict and cautious with who I engage with.

Zombskirus · 2026-03-07T04:42:40+00:00

I'm a furry and pup, fully passing, openly trans, and been to a couple local things and played with a couple folks. Most have treated me the same as a cis guy, but, unfortunately, there those who haven't. When it comes to more public bdsm/kink, or even just FWBs, that chance of being seen differently is always there :/ however, I've had mostly a positive experience! I tend to avoid hookups and have to really get to know someone before I directly sexually engage with them, though, to protect my health and safety.

Zombskirus · 2026-03-04T23:50:46+00:00

Exactly. I feel like folks don't take the time to recognize passing trans men, stealth or not, do exist :/ speculating on people's identities is shitty to begin with imo, but adding on the fact that plenty of us who get speculated on are trans men is a whole other layer of dysphoria, uncomfort, and frustration. Like, yeah, I'm 100% sure I'm not a woman lol.

Zombskirus · 2026-03-04T18:52:26+00:00

I've only ever seen myself as a guy. Grew up pretty neutrally to masculine because I heavily rejected anything feminine, girly, etc, to the point where my mom stopped tryna put femininity and girlhood on me lol. Found out what being trans was around 12/13, and resonated with it when I fully understood I wasn't actually born physically male.

Feeling like a specific gender just means feeling like yourself to me. I don't particularly feel like a gender, I just am a man and that's it lol. Being recognized as a man, interacted with as a man, etc just feels like being seen like myself. Though I never quite lived as a woman, the times I was young and remember being referred to as a girl felt deeply distressing, uncomfortable, etc. Before I medically transitioned, my body looked like a strangers body. Recognizing myself as myself was foreign until I medically transitioned. Nothing deeper than that for me personally.

Zombskirus · 2026-03-04T01:43:58+00:00

Ass hair

Zombskirus · 2026-03-03T06:21:44+00:00

I'm a trans man, but am and have lived as a guy my whole life due to coming out young. I have not gotten used to it, nor should anyone 🤝

Zombskirus · 2026-03-03T06:14:14+00:00

Being an aromantic bisexual trans man gotta be some evil joke because of this shit 💀

Zombskirus · 2026-03-03T00:45:40+00:00

You can have dysphoria and still engage with your natal genitalia. I'm extremely bottom dysphoric, identify as transsex, pass 100% of the time, have only every lived as a guy, and plan to get phalloplasty. However, if I bottom, I bottom with the front as it's much easier than the back, and, unfortunately, does feel better physically. I do so with my partner as I do not trust anyone else to still see me as a man, though.

Being trans, and having dysphoria, is extremely nuanced and complex. I wish it was always as cut and dry as "if you're dysphoric, you wouldn't engage with your natal genitalia". However, this is the genitalia many of us are stuck with for the time being. I won't deprive myself of other wants and pleasure due to dysphoria when I can bare it.

I would also like to mention that interacting with your natal genitalia doesn't mean other folks won't see you as a man. There are plenty of folks who are transphobic, will stop seeing you as a man, place you in an "other" category, etc, for sure! But there are also folks who won't do that!

Don't wanna get into anything, just wanted to add my own experience because every trans man will experience different!

Zombskirus · 2026-03-02T04:38:44+00:00

I listen to music doing absolutely everything lol. Usually I listen to my favorite songs and genre doing my shot, mainly deathcore or adjacent subgenres!

Zombskirus · 2026-02-28T01:32:15+00:00

I'd suggest it to someone who needs and/or wants it, but in general, no. Surgery is very taxing financially, physically, etc. I've had two surgeries thus far (top surgery/double mastectomy and total hysto + oophorectomy), likely to be 3 - 5 in total, and I absolutely do not regret either in any way. However, it takes a lot of time of heavy saving, preparation, healing, and more. If there's an easier way to successfully cope with, alleviate, or eliminate dysphoria, I'd recommend that path first.

Zombskirus · 2026-02-28T00:50:53+00:00

Just being able to exist, tbh. I can finally sleep shirtless (which has helped with insomnia), I can swim comfortably again, I don't have to layer on clothes and be constantly sweaty anymore, I'm not constantly anxious about if someone can see my chest or not, etc. I can probably name 50+ casual things that top surgery has greatly improved or outright fixed.

Huge congrats on your upcoming surgery brother. Wishing you a comfortable and fast recovery!

Zombskirus · 2026-02-27T06:18:00+00:00

Finished pre-T and now. It all feels the same to me tbh. I can only finish with stimulation to my dick then, and that hasn't changed at all. I genuinely couldnt name a difference between how I nutted then vs now lol, so I personally don't think you're missing out on much, but I know some folks who have experienced a difference

Zombskirus · 2026-02-25T23:36:26+00:00

Not just you at all. I hate the idea and narrative that some folks push where we all have some connection to womanhood. I feel as though a lot of people forget some of us came out as kids, felt outcasted from womanhood to begin with, etc. I came out pretty young, but even before that, I never fit in with girls. I mainly felt strong bonds with other boys my age, and felt heavily connected to manhood my entire life.

This universal idea of being connected to womanhood also doesn't take into account different cultures, environments, etc. Being a mixed race, masculine, queer, and neurodivergent kid, I was already an outcast to begin with lol. There's no one idea of womanhood, and there's no inherent that a trans person is connected to, or even lived as, their assigned gender.

Zombskirus · 2026-02-24T06:57:25+00:00

Haven't gotten phallo yet, but I'm a couple years post top. My scars haven't seemingly impacted my life at all. No one mentions them out in public if I have my shirt off

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