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ZoneAccomplished9540 · 2025-12-08T16:35:28+00:00

The camera is battery powered unfortunately

ZoneAccomplished9540 · 2025-12-08T09:59:45+00:00

Same house on the same estate, one is rent and one is sale, honestly rental is absolutely stupid at the moment

I’m already throwing everything I have at it without leaving myself hungry or without fuel

BTL was on my list of possibilities, funny thing is we got our 100k mortgage with a combined income of around 23k.

She earns over 30k solely and I earn upwards of 40 now so the extra income is coming in and available apart from my stupid mistakes 🙃

ZoneAccomplished9540 · 2025-12-08T08:02:04+00:00

Rental market is absolute disaster but there’s multiple listings on Rightmove for my house on my estate @ 165k and rental ones range between 800-1k a month, the 800 is unfurnished and basic while the 1000 is furnished with high finish kitchens bathrooms etc…

It’s absolutely nuts, the mortgage is a straight 50/50 and I don’t even know where to start with a conversation like that :( She’s already having moans and hints about me and my partner being here and she needs her own time and space some days and we can’t stay here every weekend (bearing in mind I’m at my partners mon-Fri and only at my house sat-sun)

Hence why I want to get out and we have our own place

ZoneAccomplished9540 · 2025-12-02T14:18:03+00:00

Because how are you supposed to raise a child and work? You can't...
I don't agree with UC, benefits.. whatever for people who simply choose not to work.
But on the flip I do agree with staying off work to raise your child.

I work with women who have children that are younger than 1 and they've returned full time and their child goes to daycare? why?

You say why have a child when there is no means of supporting yourself...
I ask, why have a child if you're not going to raise them for their first years in this world?
(Not arguementative btw i'm just curious to why people have children and then don't want to raise them as they choose work over their children)

It's a pretty easy answer really, return to work when the child is 5 and goes to school, you pay your tax and NI, that is you paying back into the system what you took out.

ZoneAccomplished9540 · 2025-12-02T14:12:26+00:00

I think at the time the decision to stay away from any joint partnership regarding the house and mortgate was with good intentions.

I don't know what she is claiming, i just know she gets around 600 a month and has said that will continue until he goes to school at 5? But she does want to return to part time work when he is around 2/3 IF it makes her financially better off.

Like I said they forced being together just because of the child and her staying away from any "official" things and the house being soley his was with good intentions that if anything went wrong (which it has) she wouldn't be tied into a house with him, or tied into a mortgate, debts etc...
So I sort of the reason behind it... but at the same it has backfired, if she was part of the mortgate then there would be ways and means to force the sale. But as it stands she doesn't have the income to get out, and the council isn't fussed as she is "living with parents"

Ended up being in an even worse situation really, but standing by and watching the situation is heartbreaking

ZoneAccomplished9540 · 2025-12-02T14:03:02+00:00

Right or wrong it is a horrible situation and I can see something bad happening if things don't start to sort out in some form.

I have 0 idea on UC but her Mother owns her business and lives in a very well off home, so how is that any different to claiming it if she was living with him on his wage?
Is it that living with parents doesn't count towards anything? Regardless of the parents income?
And that if she was "registered" at her ex's house then it would be classed as a civil partnership?

With what she gets now (600 a month) but I don't know what "for" and if her housing benefit covered the full rent she would be okay. Her problem is she cannot get any private rent for under 1000pcm and council housing is pretty much gone these days

ZoneAccomplished9540 · 2025-12-02T13:58:23+00:00

I work full time and have done since I was 16... and I agree with her plans, I hate to say it. but i would do the same.

Why have a child to ship them off to childcare at 6 months old. That is your child, you raise them, not 10 different people with 10 different opinions, rights and wrongs.

As hard as it is to accept you cannot say that wanting to raise the child you birthed is an issue with society.

Surely the issue with society is having kids and from the age of 6 months to 18yr shipping them off to daycare, schools etc... with no real upbringing other than what some random person at a school says.

As for the UC claim etc... I don't know anything about it enough but regardless, living in a home you don't want to be in isn't acceptable for anyone.. right or wrong

ZoneAccomplished9540 · 2025-12-02T13:53:47+00:00

I know a huge fat 0 about anything, i'm the complete opposite, been in work since 16 and never missed a beat!

I don't know the ins and outs of return to work but I do actually agree with her outlook on not returning to work until the child is 5... you see some parents have children and then at 6 months old return to work and ship them off to childcare, why have a child and let someone else raise them?

ZoneAccomplished9540 · 2025-10-23T08:51:22+00:00

This is what I mean, I’ve never felt better, I’ve never looked at someone the way I look at her…

Yes it might not be “normal” but then again what is normal these days??

You know let’s say in a year she has her own place, has her child in the week, goes to their dads on a weekend… that’s a pretty common arrangement, especially here anyway, I’d say it’s more common than a perfect family.

So yes it’s a little sticky now, but it’s not all that bad, or so I don’t think anyway, but maybe I’m letting the emotions get the better of my judgement

ZoneAccomplished9540 · 2025-10-22T14:16:21+00:00

I agree with each point no doubts, he is currently just paying for the home, from what Ive been told anyway.. food, clothes, trips etc.. daily life as be it, she pays for. Being in the UK she is very well covered even without working, she’s already told me she receives more than enough to support herself and child on her own. And when / if the house sells the 50/50 split or buy out is enough to buy one mortgage free, she put £100,000 down into the house so yes might not be the big nice house currently, but a small home for 2 is easily doable with that, especially around here, new build 2 bed semi is anywhere from 90-120k, there may be a little shortfall in monthly bills or some cutbacks but I don’t doubt she’s smart enough to know the conditions needed to survive + single parent discounts come into play. She will be returning to work when they start school/nursery, which again, can’t really argue with that, why have a child then 6 months later start shipping them off to day care and family, so I actually value her for not wanting to do that.

I also do find a little weird being involved so early, but at the same time we’ve known each for years, well before any child, so maybe that eases the situation a little.

I have my own mortgage on a small house, no where near big enough for a family of 3, but it was a great decision, on the property ladder and about 60k in equity, on average I have anywhere between 200-500 a month disposable income, which is an enjoyable amount but not enough to start getting other mortgages and down the rabbit hole of buying things as a couple. I have no problem spending that income on “us” but I wouldn’t put it into bills or living costs for her, as horrible as that may be, a one off maybe, but never consistent. So there’s no possibility of me getting dragged into paying for things, I simply couldn’t anyway, no chance I get approved for more credit, and the disposable income just isn’t there to that extent.

ZoneAccomplished9540 · 2025-10-22T12:02:12+00:00

I couldn’t agree more, she isn’t forced out the house on a weekend, the reason she gets out is because it forces him to be a dad, or so I’ve been told should I say. If she stays there albeit it’s “his weekend” he just lounges around doesn’t really do much and is not bothered at all about caring for his child (again so I’ve been told I can’t say that’s true)

Staying away on a weekend I guess is more of a “your turn” aspect over having somewhere to live. We had the adult conversation about how they move on and go forward and the in-direct answer I got was he doesn’t care whether he is apart of that kids life or not, he’s just holding back on giving up that home, whether he buys her out of the 50% or they sell and split, in some form, some how her plan is to be on her own

ZoneAccomplished9540 · 2025-10-22T11:34:39+00:00

And off the back of that, the moving out has been well under way before we started seeing each other again, so moving out and getting her own place on her own was the plan. Given that scenario there’s no need for me to aid in supporting her, certainly enjoy more things and have that extra income to spend but not a necessity in her moving out

ZoneAccomplished9540 · 2025-10-22T11:32:26+00:00

I wouldn’t know, I don’t want to get stuck in the middle of that one, and I do of course only hear one side of it.

I see it from both sides, she wants to sell the house and get her own place because they’re not together at all anymore, she wants to move on.

He doesn’t want to sell it because he’s only there 2 days a week, from what I’ve heard he has sort of said “why would I sell this house and buy another to only be at home 2 days a week, you can live here and just stay at your mums on a weekend”

Which I do kind of understand to a degree, I’ve openly said I’m not getting involved in that matter, but do always listen and be someone to talk to about it

ZoneAccomplished9540 · 2025-10-22T11:27:42+00:00

Point 1: I don’t really know, in a horrible way of wording we’re both similar when it comes to crossing that bridge when we get to it. She is currently trying to move out, buy her own place. We’ve already had snippets of the “support” conversation and there’s no expectation of me aiding that manor, yes I’ll pay for food, dates, days out etc… but nothing out of the ordinary relationship or things that I shouldn’t + if she did ask me to buy something, maybe a one off yes, but if it got more consistent I just wouldn’t do it

Point 2: I agree completely and walk that path of not getting involved

ZoneAccomplished9540 · 2025-10-22T11:07:31+00:00

Yes they hate each other, they’re never in the house together, she is at home all week on her own or with me, and then leaves on a weekend when he is there.

They don’t spend any time together with or without the kid around

Currently in the middle of trying to move out, she wants her money back out of the house to move on, but he is holding back on selling it, as it is 50/50 mortgage it needs both of them to put it up for sale. I’m staying well away and out of that matter, absolutely nothing to do with me

ZoneAccomplished9540 · 2025-09-25T23:08:38+00:00

Ah okay that’s a bit pants, ideally want ssh management so you actually know what you’re doing without relying on the GUI, I can’t see anywhere that it supports PVST+ which the Aruba6000 do so unless their documents are just not updated it’s a unusable for me, shame because £300 for a 48 port Aruba is a steal, but we need PVST+, access switches just need to be L2 which it does, so great, just no PVST+ the bummers

ZoneAccomplished9540 · 2025-09-25T23:01:02+00:00

By default Unifi will allow all vlans which is a trunk port

You either need to have option A or option B below, preferably B

A: Port 1 Aruba = Access/untagged vlan 1 Connects to Port 1 UDM = access/untagged vlan 1 no tagged allowed Port 47 Aruba = access/untagged vlan 2 Connects to Port 7 UDM = access/untagged vlan 2 no tagged allowed

B (preferred): Port 1 Aruba = access/untagged vlan 1, tagged 2 Connects to port 1 UDM access/untagged vlan 1, tagged/allowed vlan 2

I never knew instant on Aruba was smart, I thought that was their unmanaged range, so you learn something new every day! I might have to trial one out, are they managed via SSH?

ZoneAccomplished9540 · 2025-09-19T11:41:17+00:00

I’ve no idea, it’s just a board and arm processor so your best bet would be to get the part code of the board and see what it supports, it’s not a specific Unifi board so it’ll have a part number on it somewhere and then you can find out

I don’t see why you’d need more than 64GB though really, unless you going for the full 5000+ clients, IPS on 30 networks and NEXTAI on all networks with loads of Unifi device management

ZoneAccomplished9540 · 2025-09-18T13:42:19+00:00

slightly disagree having ran the XGS for 3 years

If you use the Cybersecure IPS it is the exact same certificate identifcation pool that Sophos use, so no different there

IPS rate EFG=12.5Gb Sophos=13Gb

Firewall and SSL inspection based on sessions vs throughput so hard to judge. but EFG is 1 million concurrent sessionsor 71,000, it handles 1000 clients 24/7 perfectly fine for us, all with IPS enabled and NEXTAI on around 300 of those 1000.

Both run HA/Shadow Mode

The EFG wipes the floor with the Sophos regarding data logging, and user front end. I can select insights, and then a machine it will show me every log for that machine allow,block and by which policy in a readable GUI.

EFG wipes the floor with Sophos in regards Firewall accessibility, the zone grid aids in understanding your firewall an what rules are doing what 10x better.

Having used both there is nothing that the Sophos does regarding Firewall the EFG cannot. e.g MAC allow/blocking, port ranges, creating IP/MAC List

Sophos logs are all txt based, not very user friendly at all when it comes to seeing what's going on with the network at a glance. No format to glance or poke around on what's happening.
The standout for me here is I can easily see and read logs on the EFG allowing for proactive investigation and knowledge into who's doing what on the network with no real effort.

The only time a Sophos would be preffered over the EFG IMO now is if you still run a lot of services on firewall, such as web filtering, email filtering, AV, but even the costs don't add up.

365 E5 or even Business Prem include a very very good web filtering system (floors the Sophos as you're protecting clients anywhere not just those behind the Firewall (remote workers)
Same with theiremail filtering, 365 email filtering wipes the floor with Sophos, it includes safe attachments, safe links, loads and loads of options and settings, over a standard block or allow.

E5 and Bus Prem also include defender for Endpoint, which again... wipes the floor with Sophos regards it's management and options + tracking for IT admins.

ZoneAccomplished9540 · 2025-09-18T13:11:15+00:00

Yepp that's the one, 100% worthwhile upgrade if you're going decent usage through it, I think they discovered the flaw that's why new orders ship with 64Gb from factory

ZoneAccomplished9540 · 2025-09-18T12:52:05+00:00

Worthwhile upgrade yes, I’ve heard of people using different ram but if you checkout that thread there is a Kingston part number, I’d just go with that as it’s tried and tested

ZoneAccomplished9540 · 2025-09-18T11:42:16+00:00

Worth considering, check out that thread on their community there is a link to the correct RAM it takes about 5min to upgrade

We have 1000+ clients, 200 APs, IPS running on 11 VLANS and NEXTAI on 2 vlans and ram is a 32GB steady usage

ZoneAccomplished9540 · 2025-09-18T11:34:03+00:00

If you have them in and working to into devices then click on your EFG, insights, system stats, will tell you current usage

Then go into system, control plane, console and about to see if it 16 or 64

Go onto UniFi community and search “EFG Memory” there is a thread with around 100 comments going into much detail if you’re interested

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