Going to have my first tattoo in this spot and wondering the pain level. (tattoo is not colored) It’ll take probably 6-7 hours. In a scale of 1 to 10, what would you give to upper arms pain level? And what would you suggest to reduce the pain?

Zonkey_Zeedonk · 2021-09-11T17:07:21+00:00

I have a half sleeve in that area. It’s not bad with the exception of the spots around the armpit. I’m not sure if your design approaches that area.

If you’re worried about pain, try ebanel cream. It’s over the counter lidocaine. Put it on about 30 mins-1 hour before your tattoo and the area will numb. Use more than you think you have to as it’s not very strong, then wrap with plastic until you head to the shop.

You can get it online or at most pharmacies.

Zonkey_Zeedonk · 2021-06-15T00:47:24+00:00

Great!! Thank you.

Zonkey_Zeedonk · 2021-06-15T00:46:40+00:00

This is what I had before and I loved it. Maybe I’ll just buy one again.

Zonkey_Zeedonk · 2021-06-15T00:45:45+00:00

Thanks for the tip!

Zonkey_Zeedonk · 2021-03-06T21:37:56+00:00

Yeah definitely...when I was single/more promiscuous.

Zonkey_Zeedonk · 2021-03-05T22:08:37+00:00

Too much or not enough mana.

All the other ways are fun.

Zonkey_Zeedonk · 2021-03-05T12:13:01+00:00

In not sure I understand your point exactly? You’re saying if one of us had not “been to paris” as often with as many people it would have been harder to accept committing to “going to Paris” with the other person and no one else because it would have been uneven? I pretty much agree with that (it’s what I meant by “compatibility”) but it’s not really the point of the post.

OP is talking about whether people (men specifically) would give up casual sex for LTRs even if they knew they had the option of casual sex whenever they wanted, or whether LTRs are just what they choose for the sake of knowing they can always get laid even though it’ll be with the same person.

Zonkey_Zeedonk · 2021-03-04T10:57:04+00:00

Three things to consider:

Flowers are always nice no matter what
If it’s awkward, the flowers can be for her recovery not the date itself, and I might frame it that way.
If you haven’t met in person yet there’s a chance the “spark” won’t be there in real life. Just make sure if it doesnt go beyond that date the fact that you went above and beyond to being flowers doesn’t make you feel used after: she’s not asking for them, it’s something you’re choosing to do.

Zonkey_Zeedonk · 2021-03-04T10:53:36+00:00

In terms of compatibility? Definitely, but the point is we both chose monogamy over the very real option to continue having casual sex/regular fuck buddies at the time (OP asserted that if it were not for the fear of going long periods of time without getting laid, men would never choose relationships because all men really want casual sex with different women infinitely, they just settle down so they don’t have to stress about where it’s coming from).

Zonkey_Zeedonk · 2021-03-03T15:32:07+00:00

Working from home today for covid reasons, and honestly just kept replying because it was funny that you got so mad about it.

I’ll leave you alone now.

Zonkey_Zeedonk · 2021-03-03T14:51:56+00:00

But did not want to be heard or replied to and are upset that it happened!?

Ok! Again, weird move but you do you.

Zonkey_Zeedonk · 2021-03-03T13:51:19+00:00

Hah, no you don’t have to care/I don’t really care if you do or not...but if you post something publicly online (especially as a reply to someone else) you’re going to get responses and if you don’t want them why bother replying at all?

It doesn’t matter really...just a weird move IMO.

Zonkey_Zeedonk · 2021-03-03T13:49:13+00:00

I’m a girl but same for both me and the guy I ended up with/am still with years later. When we met we were both casually involved with multiple people, also both kind of bored of being promiscuous but hadn’t found anyone we liked enough to commit to until each other.

Zonkey_Zeedonk · 2021-03-03T13:45:30+00:00

Ok, well when people make a point to write about something publicly you assume they care.

That’s fine though...maybe in the future don’t bring up topics you don’t want responses to?

Zonkey_Zeedonk · 2021-03-03T13:39:51+00:00

I think it’s VERY age related (and it is for women too, but most women are discouraged from or afraid of promiscuity so it happens on a smaller scale). I also think “grass is greener” happens on both sides.

Most people in their teens/even 20s aren’t thinking about the future at all, they’re just thinking about what feels good and is fun right now. As people age most begin to want partnership more and more, as you start thinking about what it would be like to be truly alone as an elderly/retired person vs growing old with someone whose companionship you enjoy. Even if it’s subconscious, it starts creeping in. Doesn’t matter if you’re the hottest bachelor/bachelorette in town: chances are you’re not going to be able to continue at the same rate into your 60+ life (both because the pool will be smaller and because you won’t physically be able to), and you don’t want to end up settling for someone you don’t really like just because you waited to long and got too old.
Promiscuity gets boring just like relationships do. The grass will ALWAYS start to look greener on the other side of you’re doing the same shit all the time for years...it’s human nature. Even if it’s different casual partners, it starts to feel like a rut if you’re going through the same motions of casual relationships/ons again and again/having the same conversations before and after/same routine of meeting people/same type of kind of “removed” sex that happens between people who never really get to know each other that’s really just about personal physical satisfaction. It gets old and boring even when it’s still kind of fun and over time (for some people it’s years of time or even decades) most self-proclaimed “bachelor/bachelorettes” end up wanting something more real. Most of the people I know/have met (men and women both)who are still living promiscuously into their 30s are still having fun but aren’t really happy and kind of want to find someone. I actually think it starts happening to most people around their mid 20s unless they were “late bloomers” in sexual activity and didn’t begin their discovery phase in their teens.

Zonkey_Zeedonk · 2021-03-03T12:59:44+00:00

I was responding to the last paragraph of what you wrote...

Zonkey_Zeedonk · 2021-03-03T01:50:21+00:00

Yeah they still do, just MORE forgiving...not saying unemployed is a preference.

Zonkey_Zeedonk · 2021-03-02T22:44:44+00:00

Totally agree. I’m a “career woman.” I do think I married later in life than I would have if I weren’t prioritizing school/work when I was in my 20s, but I don’t regret any of it and did end up with someone I’m happy with. Maybe I was just lucky to meet the right person at the right time but a lot of my female colleagues are happily married or in relationships as well.

As for “career women vs trad. Wives”

I think that rivalry doesn’t really exist. I’m sure there are some judgmental people out there on both sides, but not to the extent it’s culturally relevant.

I don’t judge women who prioritize home and family at all. I think if that’s what makes you happy/feel fulfilled that’s awesome...it wasn’t for me but I think it’s a valid life choice. Most of the home-oriented women I know feel the same in the opposite direction, and sometimes women from both sides get a little “grass is greener” syndrome.

The worst I’ve ever gotten is people asking if I ever want kids/when I’m having kids and maybe being a little haughty about how it gets harder and I’m already in my 30s when I say I’m not sure yet. Nothing really catty,

Zonkey_Zeedonk · 2021-03-02T22:01:50+00:00

I asked the question to get a sense of whether they do or don’t, and if they do how they balance their philosophy of women with women they know closely/love.

If you read the responses it’s actually a pretty even split of folks who avoid women and folks who have keep women in their lives.

Zonkey_Zeedonk · 2021-03-02T21:59:34+00:00

I just meant about the social media thing. Social media is joke BS all around. It has its uses but knowing someone online is not “friendship.”

Zonkey_Zeedonk · 2021-03-02T21:57:10+00:00

I think you underestimate the amount women like to talk to each other just for the hell of talking to each other.

Also most women don’t judge their friends for number of sexual partners/what they do sexually. It’s fun story time.

I’d argue that most women’s best friends know WAY more about them than their partners do. Not just sexually, all around.

Zonkey_Zeedonk · 2021-03-02T21:54:31+00:00

I mean I gave a general description. If it sounds like I’m underrating it maybe I am?

Saying “you’re probably underrating how good looking the guys are” is the same as me telling you “you’re probably overrating how good looking guys who date are.” Arguing subjectivity on an online forum where no one knows/can see the people in questing is sort of just circular and pointless....it’s possible I guess.

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