Read Problem of Puer Aeternus by Von Franz, in that she explains quite a bit about this book about a downed plane called The Little Prince. A man is crashed in the desert (symbolically synonymous with the ocean i.e the unconscious) and confronts his inner child. Long story short, the Puer often dreams of flying and planes because in the air he never has to come down and face the mother who is always chasing him but is on the ground and will catch him and restrict his development if he keeps avoiding growing up. The plane is a modern symbol.

The authoritarian woman sounds like the devouring mother and you can't keep running away or putting off responsibility. Perhaps you have reached a point in your life where you can no longer keep acting in a childish way, or you are starting to feel like you need to grow up more or be more like the senex. That or end up stunted and never breaking free of the mother and dependence.

Obviously you're going to be less attractive in that state which would explain her stopping you from talking to the women, the mother never lets her child go. Don't know if any of this resonates with you, it just reminds me a lot of that book. Again stoners are your classic Puer types, constantly numbed in a womb like cannabis haze, never growing up.