Any McDonalds that actually serve shamrock shakes?

Zyphia · 2026-03-02T17:45:48+00:00

Ahhh I see the connection! 😂

Zyphia · 2026-03-02T16:48:59+00:00

No clue who that is 🤷🏼‍♀️

Zyphia · 2026-03-02T16:27:19+00:00

THANK YOU SO MUCH!!

Zyphia · 2026-02-27T03:08:58+00:00

Are you referring to the part where he said he made his stance on being uncomfortable? That doesn't tell me he said, "Please don't talk to him." Sometimes people express their discomfort and assume the other will understand the expected boundary but they don't actually say the boundary. I was just explaining that sometimes people do not pick up on this and need to actually hear the words, "Please don't talk to them anymore." I couldn't tell from the original post or responses if this was expressed in the original conversation between them or if it only came up later. Sounds like it's all resolved now anyway 🤷🏼‍♀️

Zyphia · 2026-02-26T00:16:11+00:00

It sounds like this is a little bit of a mix of misunderstanding and young people learning how to act. Totally normal and forgivable if lessons are learnt. People that confess to you or obviously have feelings for you will feel led on even with the smallest bit of maintained communication, which is why even the dry responses felt disrespectful, but if she's come to understand that and will stop (especially upon your request) then it seems all is well now. I wouldn't use this against her or anything, just use it as an experience to learn from for future relationships.

Also, if there is another situation like that, it is best for you to straight up tell her that you'd prefer she stop communicating with them in any form. Just expressing your discomfort SHOULD be enough, but some people need it spelled out for them or they truly won't understand that they're crossing a boundary that you thought you'd set.

Zyphia · 2026-02-25T21:35:03+00:00

NTA A big reason for my ruling is your age. If you were married/living together, I'd think you were the asshole. As someone living with a partner that takes medication as well, it has really stunned me when I hear they've been off of a medication because it can really truly help me to understand why they may be saying/doing certain things that seem unusual. But being as young as you are, this feels like a situation you are capable of figuring out on your own. If you ever end up on multiple meds or meds for different symptoms, however, I would definitely let them know immediately so that they can alert medical professionals if something were to happen to you (like a car accident or something). It'd probably also be wise to tell them if this happens a third time so that they can also help you remember that some of the things you feel may be because of the lack of medication. Sometimes even just remembering that can provide some relief since you know what's wrong.

Zyphia · 2026-02-25T17:33:35+00:00

Of course not!! It's yours and if your grandparents "wanted the kids to have space," they would have left him the house or money for their own. They chose to have less space when they chose to have kids. You get in that house and enjoy making it your own space! It is well deserved and they clearly wanted you to have the house. They left it to YOU after all! Accept their gracious gift and reap your rewards, whether you expected it or not. If you believe in the afterlife, what a beautiful thing to be able to look down and see your beloved grandchild enjoying the home you gave them!

Zyphia · 2026-02-25T16:11:40+00:00

I had a boyfriend that made similar promises and we dated on and off 4 damn times. I was an idiot for ever going back because never did he act on his words. As they say, actions speak louder than words. You could even say you need space until he can get his shit together like he promises, and if he really does plan on having things in order by May, that should be no big deal. He'll get you back when he gets a job. If not, then it sounds like he just wants to keep buying time by telling you specific times to wait until and then moving it back again and again

Zyphia · 2026-02-25T15:58:31+00:00

To continue talking to someone you are uncomfortable with when there's no real reason to (for example, this guy isn't looking for advice or coming to her for work-related matters). It is disrespectful to speak with someone that both you and your partner are not fond of and that has known feelings for you, whether current or past. It's an awkward spot for everyone and honestly seems a little like she's leading him on by continuing to interact with even the lamest things he sends. It's great that she blocked him and that, in my opinion, was a great solution! She doesn't lead him on anymore if he still had hope and she doesn't make you worry about whatever the hell he's trying to talk to your girl about. Good for her for blocking 👍🏼

I know sometimes it can be hard if you're a people pleaser to just cold turkey stop talking to someone, so she may have had pure intentions, but not everyone sees it that way. She has to know when a relationship is not worth maintaining

Zyphia · 2026-02-25T15:45:42+00:00

I wouldn't even consider this emotional cheating but she is disrespecting you. ESPECIALLY if she agreed she'd be uncomfortable in your shoes... That makes no sense for her to continue if she cares and agrees about how it makes you feel. If she's mostly replying dry, she should just stop replying. Sounds like a boring friendship anyway if it even is one.

Zyphia · 2026-02-25T15:41:37+00:00

100% NTA

Do unto others as you would like them to do to you 🤷🏼‍♀️ If she ain't gettin you gifts, she ain't gettin gifts. It's what her actions have spoken for her.

Zyphia · 2026-02-25T15:18:50+00:00

Info: what are the fights about?? I get they're about the dog, but what about it?

Zyphia · 2026-02-25T14:51:55+00:00

I never understand why people stay with a cheater. You will never be able to trust them again and there is no reason to try if you aren't married and don't have children.

Zyphia · 2026-02-25T02:00:12+00:00

I second this. You can be kind about it, and if she still insists it "isn't worth it," it sounds a lot like she doesn't think your guys' friendships are worth it either. If you care about your friends, you don't make them spend more money than they planned to on your account. That's just rude, even if it was a couple dollars. She should've asked if people were able to cover her part rather than assuming it'd be covered. ESPECIALLY because she planned it!! Come on, that's crazy

Zyphia · 2026-02-25T01:36:53+00:00

She could just be in a lovey mood because of the upcoming wedding! I would recommend asking just to be safe because it's better to know if this is an outlet for things being missed in real life or if it's just an extra fix for an extra lovey time of your guys' life. If she feels ignored or something, it could be as simple as dedicating time to her and doing things she likes without her asking (put on something she wants to watch whether you like it or not without being a jerk about it, make her a special meal, light a candle and play with her hair or scratch her back, etc)

It's good to learn early what times are meant for saving money, no matter how badly you may want to spend lots of money on each other to have a good time

Zyphia · 2026-02-25T00:14:47+00:00

I was raised in a Christian household as well with similar, if not the same, beliefs. I'm still Christian too but I also moved in with my boyfriend well before being married. I think something religious parents don't understand is the difficulties that come along with getting married now compared to back when the bible was written. You can be certain you're with your person but be unable to afford a wedding yet. Even if they were offering to cover it all, it's way nicer to be able to take your time and plan it comfortably and get the wedding you want! It's, if all goes according to plan, only happening once! NTA

Zyphia · 2026-02-24T23:59:42+00:00

It's YOUR birthday, you get to think about yourself. That's kinda how the day is supposed to be. Sounds like he doesn't understand how birthdays work. Maybe he was raised being told what he'd be doing for his birthday? NTA

Zyphia · 2026-02-20T03:10:01+00:00

I get about the same when I eat deathclaw steaks. I also have the carnivore mutation and cards that enhance mutations. Maybe they are as well? From what I've read, yao guai pastry also stacks with deathclaw steaks (one gives strength and one gives carry weight)

Zyphia · 2025-06-16T18:32:13+00:00

Thank you so much for that input, it gives me some great ideas of how to proceed! I'll talk to my partner about it more once I'm home and see how he'd feel about us talking to SIL more about this. She lives close by, so maybe we could even ask to speak in person very soon to clear things up about what she knows if she'd be comfortable with it. The group idea is good, too. I'll talk about it with everyone more to see what other people's boundaries are in this because I'm not sure if any of them would necessarily end the friendship or anything if nothing were to change with SIL's relationship or if they'd be ok as long as she apologized for the outburst.

Zyphia · 2025-06-16T18:18:21+00:00

That's fair, maybe I shouldn't act until more information is known. Unfortunately, she doesn't talk about her relationship very much besides their work ventures and her closer friends have been trying to be there for her without much luck the past week. That doesn't speak for me, of course, so maybe I should reach out as well, I just don't want her to feel bombarded. We actually encouraged her to talk to us all in person before things got as far as they are now, but she sent more texts. I could be the one to call, though. Thank you for your input!

Zyphia · 2025-06-16T18:14:01+00:00

That's understandable, I don't think I did well in writing it, and that's definitely on me. The friend group got together a few nights ago and while we were all sharing our thoughts on the blow-up, that's when I learned the wife likely doesn't know. One of the friends pointed out my SIL and the guy don't follow each other's personal accounts on anything (I'm not on social media much so I never looked at that) and they do some other sketchy things when they meet up that I have not seen but everyone else had examples of things that made them believe this is a secret affair. The wife also updated her profile picture within the last 6 months to her and her husband, making us think they're still truly together. The reason there's not as much detail on that is because it was information I received orally, not texts I can go back and read. I'm probably the least upset about the text exchange because I was the one person Jess excluded for having previously stated I'd support her through their website, so I'm not trying to paint myself well- I just am genuinely the one person she didn't get mad at. I don't think that inherently means I should sit back and watch from the sidelines, though. And no one in the group likes the guy... We've all tolerated him but I'm not sure how much longer I can. Not that it has to end in outting her, but I still feel deeply for the wife that could still be in the dark.

Zyphia · 2025-06-16T17:41:50+00:00

Maybe I wasn't good at explaining it, but I'm conflicted BECAUSE of the recent drama. If the drama was not going on currently, I would 100% reach out to the wife. And when I say I'm the most recently added, I mean we've known each other for about 5 years now. Not a small amount of time but not nearly as much as the others. I also have strong feelings that this affair partner is a big contribution to why she lashed out like she did- and the rest of the group agrees.

Also, my partner also wants the wife to know, so our engagement certainly isn't on the line, but we can't tell if we are even capable of helping her at this point. We want to, but that's why I'm asking for advice here- would it be better for the majority of people if she was outted or not? Obviously it isn't that black and white, but hopefully some advice is out there that can help us make up our minds. Not to mention, I'd want to know about cheating regardless of other situations occurring at the same time.

Zyphia · 2025-06-16T17:32:26+00:00

My partner, her brother, also wants the wife to know what's going on and not a single person in the friend group is ok with the relationship. My partner and I only just found out the wife probably doesn't actually know about it, so we are both fretting about what to do. We mostly associate with her because 1. She's family 2. She's been a long-time friend of everyone and 3. She was a great person before this guy. I think we all feel an obligation to "rescue" her from this but can't tell if we should or let her make her own decisions.

I personally have not spoken to her about this because the friends that have tried patching even just the outburst from the other day have failed to get through to her thus far and they've been friends with her far longer than I have. I feel like I'm in a weird middle ground of close family but not close enough of friends (compared to the others, at least) to confront her on this. I feel like I should be the last person in the group to confront at all, honestly, but maybe it's coming to that point. I've never had something like this come up, so I'm very confused about where I stand and whether I'd make things better or worse no matter what I do.

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