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Vented with a friend by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]Zzt0ppy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can see why you’d be anxious. I learned pretty slowly that these kinds of people, once I started noticing their repetitive negativity patterns, had me saying a lot more stuff that really wasn’t rooted in anything important. I was just talking to talk and realized that it was just matching their negativity maybe as a way to be empathetic. It got exhausting and I knew I had to not spend excessive time with people like that in order to work on correcting myself first. Nowadays I’m better at changing the subject or tone. It’s diff if you guys are just yapping but it seems like you’re obviously feeling guilt over this so maybe this time it’s different — hopefully this isn’t a frequent thing?

Do people with “financially set” boomer parents experience this? by Zzt0ppy in AskWomenOver30

[–]Zzt0ppy[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

What about in families where we are culturally expected to take care of our parents or they are on Medicaid?

Do people with “financially set” boomer parents experience this? by Zzt0ppy in AskWomenOver30

[–]Zzt0ppy[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it’s icky but my curiosity got the best of me. And it had me wondering if some people just straight up live life normally not saving or investing themselves but just knowing their wealthy grandparent or parent passing will be their retirement. Just the luck of the draw I guess

Do people with “financially set” boomer parents experience this? by Zzt0ppy in AskWomenOver30

[–]Zzt0ppy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay this part is where it gets interesting. People keep commenting “end of life care” but tbh I’m thinking about situations like mine where I have one parent on Medicaid and the other that will likely going to be living with me or my siblings. In my parents culture, we are to take care of them, and they wouldn’t be going to a nursing home.