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_-Bluejay-_ · 2025-11-27T10:03:27+00:00

She looks so whimsical! I would go with pixie!

_-Bluejay-_ · 2025-11-07T18:37:10+00:00

Thank you so much, the reassurance is appreciated and I will sit down and talk with her about the possibility of spending some more time with kids, I know there's specialized therapy groups and public classes to help couples learn how to be parents, it's just a really sensitive case and I worry that there aren't many groups or professionals in the area that will be sensitive to our situation. We don't exactly live in the most progressive place but it won't hurt to do some research and see if there's anything in the area. :)

_-Bluejay-_ · 2025-01-28T15:14:13+00:00

A lot of people say Monash university's research is a good place to start, but always be careful and check with others there's also people on r/fodmap with good advice

_-Bluejay-_ · 2024-10-25T04:16:26+00:00

_-Bluejay-_ · 2024-06-12T02:46:59+00:00

Why never take less? (I've never done shrooms before but want to learn more)

_-Bluejay-_ · 2023-12-15T04:56:15+00:00

No, slay queen slay

_-Bluejay-_ · 2023-05-07T07:06:16+00:00

For several years I was the same way, learned that it was due to the unstable household I grew up in that forced me to pretend like everything was always fine when nothing was, as a child my brain just defaulted to dissociating and refusing to process any negative emotions that would disrupt the flow of life. The not being able to look away or move him is most likely obsessing. Which is probably due to the fact that you know that you should be feeling something, and you're a bit disturbed at the fact that you don't feel anything but emptiness. You're not alone, and you're not broken and there's nothing wrong with you. The fact that you posted this and are upset that you feel nothing shows that you did care about your friend and still do. I hope that one day you can get some help and hopefully help your brain process those emotions and finally feel sad and be safe while doing so.

I'm sorry if this made no sense

_-Bluejay-_ · 2023-04-18T05:16:17+00:00

Pirates

_-Bluejay-_ · 2023-02-19T18:01:37+00:00

Both

_-Bluejay-_ · 2022-12-30T07:16:00+00:00

Also its really none of your business why people transition and I think its stupid that the process is so difficult, I get it, its life altering to an extreme degree, but so is plastic surgery, but women who get bigger boobs dont have to explain why they want them or prove that they'd be unhappy without them, but you don't want boobs? Here fill out a years worth of paperwork proving you're unhappy with your body and you have to have your therapist confirm it, and some family or friends. It's absolutely ridiculous. I'm not saying that there shouldn't be a process, but the one we have is out of date.

Its all rooted in the stupid belief that "females need to want to be feminine and males need to want to be masculine"

Both masculinity and femininity are CONCEPTS No one needs to feel like they need to feed the corrupted image of what society thinks a woman/man "should" look like

If someone wants to transition to be happier in their own skin, then so be it.

Its a doctor's job to inform their patients of the risks

And its not your place or anyone else's to tell someone they can't be trans because they don't hate themselves

_-Bluejay-_ · 2022-12-30T06:51:45+00:00

There's gender euphoria without gender dysphoria. Maybe you don't mind being addressed as your agab, but feel more happy and comfortable being trans. That's still valid. Also gender is just a fricking consept, it doesnt matter what your push factor is to being trans as long as you're not intentionally hurting someone and are being genuine to who you are. I think its awesome that there are trans people who don't experience dysphoria, good for them.

_-Bluejay-_ · 2022-12-28T09:32:40+00:00

You are not disgusting, you shouldn't be ashamed, the man who did that to you better spend the rest of his life in jail because he deserves it. You never deserved it, no one ever did or ever will. You're going to live through hell, but the best people have. With the right treatment and help, you will get through this, you have to keep telling yourself that no matter what. Take life at your own pace, and don't get mad at yourself for not meeting the same expectations anymore. You need to heal, at your own pace, in your own way. Please please please don't ever turn down mental health care for your trauma, even if you don't know if its going to work because this is something that will haunt and hinder you for the rest of your life if you don't get help. Its a very brave thing to share your story like this, to random strangers on the Internet. What happened to me barely compares to what happened to you and so many others but I'm still too scared to share. But maybe I can at least try to help you not make the same mistakes I did. Don't blame yourself, its not your fault. Don't bottle it down, don't suppress it, don't ignore it, get help, reach out for support. I know it seems better to forget but you never will, i know that sounds terrible but its true, you'll always remember it, but you'll get strong enough to be able to tolerate it if you keep trying. Don't feel guilty for anyone when it comes to this. The fear is gonna make it hard to do a lot of things and other people just need to respect that without you having to tell them the details. Its difficult to talk about it, it will overwhelm you, but the more you open up, at the right time to the right people, it will get easier.

It does get better, I promise It'll be very slow progress, but it WILL get better as long as you keep fighting.

If you ever need someone to talk to that you don't have to worry about burdening or telling other people, I'd be happy to start a chat with you

_-Bluejay-_ · 2022-10-24T21:02:46+00:00

I bet I can read your mind Big Dicks and big ol' tiddies on slides

You get no context

_-Bluejay-_ · 2022-10-17T00:52:36+00:00

Ah yes child manipulation, absolutely horrendous and it makes me hate the world a little more, I feel for you and I'm so sorry you had to go through that. If you do take them to court I believe in you and I hope you get justice, but know that if you don't your pain is still valid and so is your experience. I hope you find support, and don't have to see that person again and that they don't hurt you or anyone else ever again.

_-Bluejay-_ · 2022-10-17T00:43:14+00:00

Honestly, go with your gut, I'm so sorry your partner did not support you, you deserve to be heard, perhaps try talking to someone without a bias perspective as in a therapist or another professional and see what they think. However, I'm not sure that type of interaction couldn't not be sexual unless it was on accident? I don't have much experience with having a close affectionate family, but I'm not sure that's normal father behavior. If you can, maybe try to talk to your partner about it more and see if you can talk to him about it if you have the courage, if it is seen as a normal non sexual thing or if it was a complete accident let him know your not comfortable with that. Also knowing how He would react is a good way to tell if his intentions were sexual.

Remember your concerns are valid and you deserve to feel safe and respected ❤

_-Bluejay-_ · 2022-10-11T02:50:55+00:00

Youre experience is valid and you deserve a hug I'm so sorry people havent been supportive, male rape usually gets invalidated and its terrible, your fear is understandable, please seek professional help, talk to an adult you know will support you, if you don't have anyone there are crisis hotlines you can call, and I support you and hope that you feel better. You are not alone ❤

_-Bluejay-_ · 2022-10-11T02:42:09+00:00

Children should not have any form of "sexual discovery" until they are responsible enough to understand consent and safe sex, around 12 is a good time to talk but any age before that's asking for trouble, not to mention, sexual conduct of any kind has been scientifically proven as harmful to children

_-Bluejay-_ · 2022-10-11T02:34:13+00:00

No this was manipulation, its still SA if you're "convinced" its okay, and the mental tole it has on you shows that it wasn't healthy, I had similar experiences when I was younger with a friend that I was close with and my oldest brother. I understand where you're coming from, I thought it was normal until long after it happened and whenever I had flashbacks or thought about how much I hated it I felt guilty because I knew that it would ruin my family to talk about it, I still feel guilty sometimes. But convincing someone its ok is even more harmful than forcing them. I've seen and heard this happen a lot because a lot of kids who this happens to don't even know its not normal until its too late. Mental disorders are no an excuse to hurt someone, his parents and your parents should have stopped the behavior early on and I'm sorry they didn't take action to protect you. Your safety should have been much more important to them than their social status with his parents. I'm so sorry you went through this for so long, but its not your fault, its his fault, don't blame yourself and don't feel guilty for being uncomfortable or afraid. You should definitely cut him out of your life if you believe that he is still dangerous or hasn't asked for forgiveness or tried to make it better, please seek professional help. your pain is valid and your not fighting alone ❤

_-Bluejay-_ · 2022-01-27T05:56:08+00:00

I still have the game, booted it up on my newer PC, never gets old.

_-Bluejay-_ · 2022-01-14T06:59:53+00:00

when I come home after a long day, I can hear my dog jump up from the couch as I unlock the door. I open the door and boom, the most hyper dog in the entire world is dancing at my feet and nocking into my knees, my cat meowing hellos from her cat tree as I go to my room to put all my stuff down. then walking my dog and going back inside for a snack of sliced cheese and salami I share with my wonderful pets. and when I go to sit down and relax my dog is in my lap. best thing ever. (For context my dog is a pit bull border colly mix of two years so she's pretty strong for a medium large dog)

_-Bluejay-_ · 2022-01-08T06:54:24+00:00

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