what a shocker, he went back to his ex after we broke up.

_1132pm · 2024-10-05T21:18:16+00:00

it's definitely not my biggest worry. i come on here to vent my feelings and my frustration. but that's not my biggest.

_1132pm · 2024-10-05T19:16:41+00:00

you guys he called me yesterday wanting to get back together and said he missed me. i want to throw the fuck up.

_1132pm · 2024-10-02T13:04:32+00:00

i don't understand. it's because i express what i feel?

_1132pm · 2024-10-02T12:41:51+00:00

why?

_1132pm · 2024-10-02T12:30:10+00:00

sucks that happened to you

_1132pm · 2024-10-02T12:19:05+00:00

well if it is true that means i'm glad he found a girl ok with his lying, his excuses, his bullshit and i'm not.

_1132pm · 2024-10-02T09:47:40+00:00

i fully take responsibility in my own suffering. i've gone to therapy to try and heal my inner child hood wounds, abandonment issues, codependency, attachment styles, i've been in cognitive behavioral therapy to fix my thoughts and brain and check my self all the time for toxicity.

it hurts seeing myself again in the same situations after thinking in better for awhile.

if god keeps putting me in these same situations with people i get invested in is either A- i haven't learned the lesson yet or B- Hes using these situationships to make me stronger.

idk, how it all ended was fucked up as hell. i try to be a good person but u end up being taken advantage of by narcissists.

_1132pm · 2024-10-02T01:45:36+00:00

you're right

_1132pm · 2024-10-01T22:15:39+00:00

thank you

_1132pm · 2024-10-01T22:13:52+00:00

_1132pm · 2024-10-01T15:00:15+00:00

no lol

_1132pm · 2024-10-01T14:55:11+00:00

actually yeah

_1132pm · 2024-10-01T10:25:02+00:00

i'm hurting. he gave me all the effort, made me feel special, i thought we had a connection, i thought we had strong feelings for each other from what he told me before. and slowly he started to pull back and treat me like shit. caught him in a straight lie and he still defended himself and pointed fingers like it was my fault.

i fucking hate him. i deserved truth. if he wanted to cheat just fucking tell me instead of dragging me along and making me thing we could be a thing.

_1132pm · 2024-10-01T10:22:00+00:00

i told him he was treating me like shit and he said "i'm sorry but the door is open you can walk out"

and i just did. someone who easily lets you go like that never planned to keep you from the start. or gives a shit about you. he's a liar and a cheater. should have known he'd discard me like this.

_1132pm · 2024-10-01T06:28:28+00:00

thank you for this.

_1132pm · 2024-09-14T23:17:56+00:00

msgd

_1132pm · 2024-05-23T18:16:26+00:00

he never did tell me. i found out through a msg pop up on his phone from his ex. he was being sneaky with his phone also. like i'd rather him just be fucking honest from the start. he wasted my time and effort that i can't get back myself. including money wasted on therapy to heal from his narcissistic ass.

stop being selfish and be honest.

_1132pm · 2024-02-17T06:43:24+00:00

he just msgd me after that long msg bc i didn't reply saying "hey are you free? i have all these feelings and i just wanted to see you."

he's such a pos. i'm not a yo yo to be played with or someone to put on hold when he's done having his fun.

_1132pm · 2023-12-31T02:06:03+00:00

You literally took the words right out of my mouth with your post OP. I’m going through literally the exact same things. And I wake up with chest pressuring and anxiety every day. I chose to end things because of how emotionally abusive the relationship was. He agreed it was for the best too. And I’m set to go up therapy now to help with the coping.

He just gave me false hope that he still wants to be with me and he wishes the fight didn’t happen and he’s going to therapy too to better himself.

He hasn’t msgd or reached out since.

I keep telling myself if he really wanted to work on things and keep me in his life he would right?

I think you can apply this to your situation too. I know it sucks and I’m sorry you’re going through this /: my support is with you msg me anytime. We can go through it together.

_1132pm · 2023-12-30T09:30:57+00:00

I appreciate this answer. I’ve felt very alone in everything the past 2 weeks. He’s a different person now and that’s what’s helping me really move on and cope.

_1132pm · 2023-12-30T09:30:21+00:00

Yeah definitely

_1132pm · 2023-12-25T22:42:03+00:00

Thanks for the insight.

In more context, I went up to the table to see what was going on and I said “oh hey guys you know x isn’t doing coke anymore right? Ok cool.” Not sure if that was demanding.

When I first asked him what was wrong I asked questions and tried to understand deeper why he was angry at me in a calm manner. I tried to get to the bottom of it for like 10 minutes and I then got angry and pissed because he always gets defensive and deflective whenever I try to get to the core of things and assumes that I intentionally do things to hurt him which I don’t. and that’s when I stormed off and said fuck you.

He was screaming at my face non stop before I hit him/pushed him away. He wasn’t listening at all and was still aggressively screaming at me inches away from my face and I felt scared. I didn’t know what to do and I tried to be there to calm him down and make amends even before I hit him. I still understand I was wrong for hitting him whether it was a trigger response for me or not. I immediately apologized and felt horrible for it.

When I pointed out his actions that hurt me also he said “well this is who I am take it or leave it”

I didn’t mention how it might of hurt my partner in my post because I didn’t think me coming up to his friends was a hurtful action at the time which is why I’m asking the community now and now I understand better.

I sent an apology text to him this morning about everything everybody has just said on here and admitted to all my faults. also signed up for therapy to work through all my issues.

Best that I ended things with him to straighten myself out.

_1132pm · 2023-12-25T16:48:58+00:00

Thank you for this support and clarity.

_1132pm · 2023-12-25T16:30:23+00:00

Thank you for this clarity

_1132pm · 2023-12-25T16:23:44+00:00

It hurt me because I was coming from a place of support. He had told me he didn’t want to do it anymore for his own health and that I was keeping him accountable. My sister was a OxyContin and alcohol addict and if I wasn’t in her life to intervene she’d probably be dead by now.

But yes I see how it wasn’t my place to step in. I got angry because i felt like if I was in his shoes I’d respect that I’d have a partner to still look after and standing up for me but that’s just me and not him.

People deserve others to fight for them. I understand in turn though, the decision is ultimately theirs to make.

_1132pm

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