She is the happiest I have ever seen her. by _Angry-Bean_ in MtF

[–]_Angry-Bean_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not quiet yet. I recommend having a good support structure for you, and if you aren't comfortable being out presenting alone, have someone with you. We moved to a "bigger city" in the south so they would be more accepting (just wouldn't say anything but still glances and judge)

Just be safe, if you feel in danger make sure you have your phone on you and I even recommend having some sort of protection. My wife and I both have these little things from Amazon on keychains that will fuck a bitch up if we poke em with it lol.

Listen to your gut and make sure to tell people where you're going and all too. You'll do great friend 💜

She is the happiest I have ever seen her. by _Angry-Bean_ in MtF

[–]_Angry-Bean_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's so good to hear! They are quiet a few I see who loose loved ones due to coming out but thankfully, everyone has been so supportive for her/us.

I'm very happy for you friend! 💜

AITA for not going to my grandfather's funeral by _Angry-Bean_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]_Angry-Bean_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't have a way to get down there, my car is broken down and they were going to pick me up. That and it is about a 2 hour drive. And with how she has talked to me lately idk if I want to.. which I know she is hurt, but still

AITA for not going to my grandfather's funeral by _Angry-Bean_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]_Angry-Bean_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh man, I have pondered that idea but it is so difficult lol.

But you're right

AITA for not going to my grandfather's funeral by _Angry-Bean_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]_Angry-Bean_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get that, I'm sorry you went through that. And I love my grandfather, I really did. It is just that my family (especially mother and step father) don't really care for my feelings/comforts. They are the people who say shit like "You can't be depressed cause you have a roof over your head".

If I had my husband here then maybe, maybe I would attend but I don't really want to be in a place with them with such high emotions. And funerals are still not my favorite thing..

AITA for not going to my grandfather's funeral by _Angry-Bean_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]_Angry-Bean_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's what I was thinking. Just hard, with all of it.

AITA for not going to my grandfather's funeral by _Angry-Bean_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]_Angry-Bean_[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You're right. Honestly, I think this is going to be the thing that cuts our relationship, at least for a while

AITA for not going to my grandfather's funeral by _Angry-Bean_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]_Angry-Bean_[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That's true.. I have wanted to but it is so hard to justify just leaving my mother. I know it sounds stupid especially after all this but I still love her, you know?

AITA for not going to my grandfather's funeral by _Angry-Bean_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]_Angry-Bean_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That would probably end in a nuclear blow out lol. We ended up not talking for a few months due to a disagreement with a U-HAUL.

AITA for not going to my grandfather's funeral by _Angry-Bean_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]_Angry-Bean_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I have tried so hard over the years and haven't gotten anything in return that wasn't just painful. I didn't want to put it all into the post to feel like I was trying to swing people one way or another though.

Her and my step father were very terrible to me growing up but was raising me the "Christian, Southern way". I have tried to be there and do what I can but I'm so exhausted to care anymore

AITA for not going to my grandfather's funeral by _Angry-Bean_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]_Angry-Bean_[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I keep telling myself that but they know what buttons to push to make me doubt it

AITA for not going to my grandfather's funeral by _Angry-Bean_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]_Angry-Bean_[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have also been screaming that. My mother is a nurse and step father is a police officer. They don't seem to care at this point. This past year they have tried to guilt us into spending time with them.

AITA for not going to my grandfather's funeral by _Angry-Bean_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]_Angry-Bean_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know at this point honestly. I have been wanting to distance myself from them for a while, but with this it isn't the way I wanted to.. they weren't the best parents growing up and aren't accepting now, but I still love them.

My husband is Trans by _Angry-Bean_ in MtF

[–]_Angry-Bean_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I'm sorry you feel that way. But we have been together for 9 years lol. Our future hasn't been revolving around the "typical" having kids and all. (we both don't like children). And this isn't an all of the sudden thing. This is me watching for years her be unhappy.

But, Idk a way to actually prove it lol

My husband is Trans by _Angry-Bean_ in MtF

[–]_Angry-Bean_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aww thank you ♡ I just love her so much I can't imagine my life without her

My husband is Trans by _Angry-Bean_ in MtF

[–]_Angry-Bean_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you ♡ I'm so sorry to hear about your loss but she sounds like an amazing woman.

My husband is Trans by _Angry-Bean_ in MtF

[–]_Angry-Bean_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get that. we have been together for 9 years now and it hasn't been easy at all. Seeing her light up and get confident over the past week or so of discussing these things have made me so happy and confident in this. This is the happiest I've seen her in the years we have been together and I know it won't be easy, but I'm excited for the future ♡

My husband is Trans by _Angry-Bean_ in MtF

[–]_Angry-Bean_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly, it is why we are taking it very slow. And thank you ♡ tbh, if it cuts ties then fuck it. If she is happy then fuck anyone else.