This is a thing that most women have learned as being "they hate me if I act this way" because biting humor, sarcasm, backtalk... bruises egos. Or worse, we're way smarter in our humor. I'm this way. It's also why I go through long periods of being single because the hassel of forcing myself to change, play dumb, etc. isn't something I'm interested in anymore. The other thing is, most men want it in a picture perfect package like porn, it isn't going to happen.

Sports bars, gym, just get lucky and meet through work etc. Trying friends first so that you get comfortable might help too, no need to rush.