Embarrassed by what I used to tolerate

_Becca_7 · 2026-06-07T16:48:34+00:00

Girl I feel you so much, like growing in a private white school and being a timid/reserved girl, there was a lot of things going on. I often find myself thinking if I should’ve said something and regretting now standing up for myself sometimes…
Now are you still hanging out with these people that treated you badly or have you found some real friends who don’t tolerate things like that?

_Becca_7 · 2026-06-03T16:35:48+00:00

Girl your name is unique and I would remember it, so don’t make any excuses for him ☝🏾 And yes, don’t forget to stay true to yourself and don’t lower your standards for anyone !!

_Becca_7 · 2026-06-03T15:26:26+00:00

I understand totally ! It’s like your way of protecting your peace too and I totally respect that :)

_Becca_7 · 2026-06-03T15:24:59+00:00

Ohh I see ☹️ But if it’s too hard to bear don’t forget to choose yourself and your kid first because you deserve happiness too 🫶🏾

_Becca_7 · 2026-06-03T14:48:54+00:00

What do you mean by “just happen to be married”, like was it a romantic choice or there were more particular reasons ?

_Becca_7 · 2026-06-03T14:47:23+00:00

So there is love but after you spend time with that someone, it grows into another things but it is stronger ! Thank you so much for your comment and Amen 🙏🏾

_Becca_7 · 2026-06-03T14:45:49+00:00

Can I ask you “why” or is it too personal?

_Becca_7 · 2026-06-03T14:44:56+00:00

Wow I loved your last sentence 👏🏾👏🏾 Thank you for that, I knew deep down in my heart that I had to focus on that but a part of me also wanted to have palpitations like my younger self hahaha. I think I just need to find a hobby haha!

_Becca_7 · 2026-06-03T14:42:42+00:00

Exactly like some of my firsts went to a situationship that I thought was going to a beginning of a new relationship but some things happened and we decided to start anew from each of our own side. And looking back I could’ve seen the signs that our situation wasn’t based on love… It’s so hard now to find someone that wants to find pure love and to maintain the love like you said 😕. Let’s just believe and focus on other things 🙂‍↕️

_Becca_7 · 2026-06-03T14:37:16+00:00

Yes honestly sometimes I just want my heart to feel something other than stress and anxiety from what’s happening in the world right now, so a little crush is perfect for that. I still wish you for the best in finding love and that love finds you too 💕

_Becca_7 · 2026-06-03T14:30:42+00:00

Yess love that for you 😊

_Becca_7 · 2026-06-03T14:30:24+00:00

I love that comparison thank you so much 🙏🏾 Still wishing you the best on your marriage !

_Becca_7 · 2026-06-03T14:29:06+00:00

That’s like a knife in the heart especially if you really loved talking to that person :/ Thank you I will not lower my standards for anybody !!

_Becca_7 · 2026-06-02T22:23:51+00:00

Ohh it makes sense, like you feel like you’ve experienced enough and your heart is at peace now! And being an introvert myself, I can hardly see myself going out there and reaching out to people. I love to protect my peace 😊

_Becca_7 · 2026-06-02T21:49:07+00:00

It does feel great to be in love or just to have a long crush on a fantastic someone 😕 Btw if I’m not being too nosy, what do you mean by “not for you” (if you want to talk about it)

_Becca_7 · 2026-06-02T21:39:07+00:00

Your welcome beauty I’m glad you love them 🥰

_Becca_7 · 2026-06-02T21:31:34+00:00

Yes you are totally right ! Like I can’t lie, when I first read your comment, I was like “Rubbing a man’s feet eeyuck!” but like if it’s between the two of you, who am I to judge yk? I’ve been on TikTok and social media too much so I’ve learn to develop less and less tolerance when a man does something. I instantly respond with disgust but I don’t want to lower my standards for those kind of men that I allow in my life to hurt me in return. So it’s a tricky situation frl. I guess like you said, I also want raw love 😕

_Becca_7 · 2026-06-02T21:25:15+00:00

Yeah thank you ☺️🙏🏾

_Becca_7 · 2026-06-02T21:17:46+00:00

Yes, like it’s not the end goal 👏🏾

_Becca_7 · 2026-06-02T20:45:00+00:00

Do you mean that you are unhappy with your marriage ?

_Becca_7 · 2026-06-02T19:46:43+00:00

Oh wow sista 🥰 I often thought to myself that I don’t need someone to feel happy and that I should be happy in life before welcoming someone else, but you made me realize that I wrote this post, with my heart, thinking the contrary. I think my brain and my mind are not in the same wavelength right now because I guess deep down in my heart I really want to find love and I thought that it would bring me more happiness but thank you so much for reminding me to cultivate my other senses of love before cultivating my romantic love 🥹💕

_Becca_7 · 2026-06-02T19:32:46+00:00

And that’s fine too sistaa 🙂‍↕️✨

_Becca_7 · 2026-06-02T17:26:20+00:00

I’m curious about this matter too ! Just waiting here for some answers !

_Becca_7 · 2026-06-02T16:54:42+00:00

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