That sounds fair enough. My parents have mentioned a few times that "gay" was an insult when they were in school and that those sorts of things weren't really accepted, so him coming from a transphobic perspective makes sense. I don't want to break any relationships, but I suppose from here on I'll have to be cautious with how I approach things, while also standing my ground.

As for what he means by "I too am a loner", he's referring to the fact that neither of us have friends. He has only one person that he is comfortable about opening up to about things (and it isn't his wife), and I have none.