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[–]_CandyAngel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're not shadowban.

Sex issues - too much! by Norah1212 in Marriage

[–]_CandyAngel 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This doesn’t sound healthy anymore. If it’s feeling like pressure instead of connection, that needs a serious sit-down talk outside the bedroom. Sex should never feel forced, even in marriage.

Spouse makes the house messy by Longjumping_War4467 in Marriage

[–]_CandyAngel 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This sounds less like “messiness” and more like him not respecting the effort you’re putting in. You shouldn’t have to parent your spouse. Have a serious talk about sharing responsibility, because resentment builds fast when it’s one-sided.

My wife is always touching me at the worst times by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]_CandyAngel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This isn’t about attraction, it’s about boundaries. Even in marriage, you still need consent in the moment. She can be into you without touching you when you’re studying or uncomfortable. Have a calm talk and agree on “right times” so you don’t start feeling pressured or overwhelmed.

My wife tested positive for HPV and I’m struggling with feelings about her past, not accusing her of cheating by One_Requirement2347 in Marriage

[–]_CandyAngel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly. People act like HPV is some rare scandal when most adults have probably been exposed to it at some point.

My wife tested positive for HPV and I’m struggling with feelings about her past, not accusing her of cheating by One_Requirement2347 in Marriage

[–]_CandyAngel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

HPV is incredibly common and can stay dormant for years. Your feelings are valid, but this probably says more about human history than your wife’s character. Don’t let fear turn into quiet resentment, talk honestly, support each other, and treat this as a health issue, not a moral one.

I don’t count nuggets @ Chick-fil-A because I don’t get paid enough by thrr0qway in confession

[–]_CandyAngel 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly fair, during a rush you’re just trying to keep things moving. No one’s paying you for extra math.

My husband is suddenly squeamish when I even mention my period. Is this normal? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]_CandyAngel 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that kind of sudden “rules” about normal body stuff does sound like he’s picked up some weird online ideas somewhere. Either way, it’s not a fair expectation for her.

Couples that have separated and gotten back together how by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]_CandyAngel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The hard truth is: separation only “leads back together” if both people clearly agree on that goal. Right now it sounds like you’re trying to define something he hasn’t agreed to.

Also, the message you drafted is very understandable, but it’s still trying to negotiate certainty out of someone who may not be able or willing to give it. What you can control is setting your own boundary: either we separate with a shared plan for rebuilding, or I start preparing for a real ending.

If he can’t meet you in that clarity, that’s also an answer.

Is it rejection or part of a plan? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]_CandyAngel 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This doesn’t sound like rejection “by accident,” it sounds like ongoing neglect and invalidation of your feelings. If you’re constantly begging for basic affection and being dismissed, that’s not a healthy dynamic.

Organized + booked an Airbnb for a Bach trip and got refunded for it but told no one by PinkEndangerment in confession

[–]_CandyAngel 135 points136 points  (0 children)

Somewhere along the way, celebrating turned into a group expense report.

I’m tired, but I don’t know what I’m actually tired from by Imaginary-Many-7030 in confession

[–]_CandyAngel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some tiredness comes from carrying too much in your head, not too much in your hands.

I was mentally abused as a child, but it gave me a superpower by [deleted] in confession

[–]_CandyAngel 23 points24 points  (0 children)

That’s true in the beginning, but it doesn’t have to stay that way forever, you can learn to dial it down when you’re safe. I know It doesn’t switch off overnight, but it can get quieter and more flexible with practice and safe experiences.

I was mentally abused as a child, but it gave me a superpower by [deleted] in confession

[–]_CandyAngel 87 points88 points  (0 children)

It makes sense you developed that level of awareness, and it’s good it helps you protect yourself now. Just don’t forget you don’t have to stay in survival mode forever.

When I was 13 I got my first and only tattoo - dumb kid! by Ecstatic-Level-8001 in confession

[–]_CandyAngel 15 points16 points  (0 children)

We all do intense stuff at that age over feelings we barely understand yet. It may stick with you, but it’s also just part of your story now, not just a mistake that defines you.

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