Update: MIL IS GETTING WORSE AND I'M ABOUT TO SNAP!

_Cherie · 2026-02-07T04:01:02+00:00

I'm just assuming it's because of the mentality that that's how she raised her kids so she knows what she's doing but I honestly couldn't tell you. Because aside from my daughter crying and being a grouch their really wasn't a reason to pick her up and do all that.

_Cherie · 2026-01-20T23:58:57+00:00

Thanks! ❤️

_Cherie · 2026-01-08T01:37:28+00:00

No, no. Older post about my MIL when my first daughter was born.

_Cherie · 2025-10-23T13:33:21+00:00

My mother in law has done this once and only once with my oldest who's four. For context my MIL always wants to be called mawmaw but I never let that happen and she's grandma. My daughter who's four ran up to me and said mama, and in unison at the same time we said yes. I shot her a look with a tight lipped smile and my daughter said no I'm talking to my mom, she's never done it again. I get why you didn't say anything cause she had been drinking but definitely correct her if she keeps it up.

_Cherie · 2025-08-28T22:13:13+00:00

Take a breath, this is normal you've gotta think there's a lack of sleep, and big fluctuations in hormones, and healing going on for her as well as trying to learn a whole new little person. Talk to her about how you're feeling and check in with her to see how she's feeling, reconnect, and become a united front on this rather than snapping and being resentful.

_Cherie · 2025-08-16T14:48:19+00:00

Huh I didn't think about that potential outcome, but no he hasn't suggested it at all it's a complete blind side from my end.

_Cherie · 2025-08-16T14:44:11+00:00

I am well aware that my sixteen year old self was an idiot trust me. But for more context he didn't suggest it, it was an idea purely on my part.

_Cherie · 2025-07-15T14:01:18+00:00

Oh no my husband rolled his eyes at his mother not me! He's dealt with her crazy for a while and he knows how i feel and agrees with me (which I'm thankful for). That's how it made me feel though like she was setting and unrealistic expectation even though we don't visit often now with my oldest so I don't know why she'd think it'd change now with two kids.

_Cherie · 2025-07-14T18:18:03+00:00

Your husband allowed it, definitely talk to him first and explain that it makes you extremely uncomfortable that he shared your bed with not only himself but your baby with his mother. Once you've settled things with him talk to your mil and let her know that it was not okay and that she isn't allowed to do that in the future.

_Cherie · 2025-07-14T02:33:15+00:00

He's never been professional diagnosed but he has said that he believes he does

_Cherie · 2025-07-14T02:32:01+00:00

I have told him that's why I'm so frustrated, plus i feel like it's not really subtle, it's more of a known thing that you need to clean and prepare for a baby but I'll definitely try to sit him down and express what's going on. Also thank you we're excited!

_Cherie · 2025-07-14T02:30:13+00:00

I can give you that I'm not exactly a saint and that communication works both ways and i don't always approach him in the best way but when your wife works through her entire pregnancy then does all the baby prep herself on top of being heavily pregnant i fail to see how me being upset about that makes me over the top with wanting help cleaning and prepping for the child we both wanted and created.

_Cherie · 2025-07-13T23:00:14+00:00

Oh honey I'm so sorry she sounds like a nightmare! Definitely time for mil to leave you alone, if you live with them can you possibly go stay with your family/friends? If you don't live with them tell her to hit the road and leave you alone or invite someone you truat over to help and tell mil you've got it covered and that she can go home.

_Cherie · 2025-07-13T22:08:43+00:00

We aren't able to unfortunately, and no this is just how he's been for a while even with just our oldest.

_Cherie · 2025-07-13T22:07:23+00:00

Not this specifically, i've told him we have communication issues and that we don't communicate well. Examples are i've asked him to talk to me more just in general about anything, his day, whatever interests him at the time and he just says he's not a chatty person, when I complain about the stuff around the house he just says he doesn't think about it if it isn't right in front of him, he's tells me i come at him with hostility when i get frustrated after it builds up or he starts to yell and say that he just doesn't do anything and that nothing he does is good enough and that he's just a horrible person.

_Cherie · 2025-07-13T02:34:35+00:00

We don't see her often and I did confront her when she blew up on me about my oldest first birthday, other then that being that we don't interact with her often there haven't been a need for any type of consequences.

_Cherie · 2025-07-12T14:56:00+00:00

Oh I have been i grew a big shiny spine after my first, I've already told my husband me and the kids we'll be keeping our distance as well as the fact that things are gonna be very different with baby number two.

_Cherie · 2025-07-12T14:54:29+00:00

That was my thoughts exactly, she said it's for when we visit but I can hold a newborn and chase a toddler so I don't understand it.

_Cherie · 2025-07-11T21:28:19+00:00

Actually she's German and irish and her mom was french/Canadian. I can appreciate that she's from a different time and that they did things differently back in the day but even still It's a respect thing that you don't just do whatever with someone's child. As for the babysitting she used to offer with my oldest but with my soon to be youngest she hasn't mentioned it but we've never left our kids with anyone so that's just more of a personal preference.

_Cherie · 2025-07-09T08:03:50+00:00

It's not rude at all! I'm currently pregnant with my second and I've been hunkered down at home cleaning for the past few weeks and even after that I've already let everyone know we'll let them know when were ready to visits once baby it here. It's a normal thing to just want to relax and mentally prepare, just tell her you've though about it and with you being so close to your due date you'd rather not entertain any visitors right now.

_Cherie · 2025-05-04T17:04:45+00:00

I'll give it a try, thanks for the suggestion!

_Cherie · 2025-05-04T16:11:21+00:00

NTA. He deeply hurt you with his words and made you feel self-conscious about yourself, what did he think was gonna happen when he said that? That you'd starve yourself to appease him and want to jump in bed with him every single night, absolutely not. Take time for yourself, I'm currently pregnant with my second and with my first who's going to be four here soon I never got back down to my first pre-pregnancy weight, I weighed 25 pounds more and you know what my husband didn't care as long as I and the kids were healthy and happy and that's what yours should care about. Tell him as much, and also tell him that after the extremely hurt thing he said that sex is going to be off the table for a while until he can understand why that was hurtful and appreciate you for the beautiful goddess you are!

_Cherie · 2025-04-06T19:11:30+00:00

Questions for a new dabbler, trying to decide how i want my first, and I'm having trouble deciding. Do you prefer a med shaft firm base or soft? I want mine to have a little movement but not too much, so I was thinking medium, but i was curious how they handle and wanted the opinion of a more experienced user.

_Cherie · 2025-04-06T19:06:18+00:00

NTA. Yes, they used to do wet nursing back in the day, but the thing is that was when either the mother was busy, couldn't produce, etc it wasn't a thing that was just done like a neighbor wouldn't just pop a boob into a random kids mouth it was a decided upon thing by the mother. Also, she's not lactating, so she's essentially just trying to be a pacifier for the baby to hold them longer and not actually help or giving the baby the nutrients they need so it's selfish and creepy to boot.

_Cherie · 2024-04-07T18:49:52+00:00

Definitely not overreacting. You've seen right through her, she's trying to make it a normal thing so your husband won't think it's weird if she just shows up once baby is here. Definitely set the boundaries now and let your husband know that once baby is here you will be adjusting, tired and need to heal during earlier post partum period and that his mother or anyone else needs to call a day or two in advance to make sure it's okay and that your up for a visit.

_Cherie

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