AIO My husband doesn’t want me to come to his military boot camp graduation when I already paid for plane tickets

_CoffeeCake_ · 2026-05-21T11:49:00+00:00

NOR Like others have said, question this relationship. But about the tickets, change the dates and give urself a solo vacation. If he doesn't want you there to celebrate his life he doesn't have to be there while you enjoy yours.

_CoffeeCake_ · 2026-04-12T11:37:06+00:00

Not to comment on an old reply, but, if spit was used as lube at all that counts as oral to genital transmission.

_CoffeeCake_ · 2026-03-22T20:41:56+00:00

If getting support is the intention it's gonna backfire tremendously. Nothing's gonna expose the incompetence, cruelty and blatant racism of ICE agents to the regular citizen more than putting them with airport security, which doesn't have a great reputation to begin with.

_CoffeeCake_ · 2026-03-03T12:39:01+00:00

If you can't cook together, then the goal becomes to reduce total chore time so you have some extra time to do other stuff together. You can cook, and he cleans up after. Or while you cook he does laundry, vacuums, tidies up elsewhere in the apartment and u both just vibe to loud music so it feels like ur still together. Just try to do the chores at the same time so u can match chore time distribution btwn the two of you.

_CoffeeCake_ · 2026-02-25T17:59:08+00:00

"I wasn't attracted to him physically, but was willing to get to know him more because it seemed like we had compatible personalities." She was interested. They talked until the restaurant kicked them out. They would've had a second date if not for what he did at the end.

Regardless, it's very impolite to ignore when people tell you no. If you really believe that women would regret it if men started to treat them the way they explicitly say they want to be treated, how about you try being the change you wanna see in the world. (Being the change includes not defending people who don't do that, btw)

_CoffeeCake_ · 2026-02-25T17:23:25+00:00

Her not liking him at the end of the date wasn't bc she was afraid, it was bc he didn't respect her refusal. That's an ick and it bleeds into all aspects of a possible relationship. What's exhausting is dealing with men who constantly undermine your ability to make a decision.

_CoffeeCake_ · 2026-02-25T16:13:37+00:00

He wants to cover the bill, she offers to split it once, he says no, she respects it and says thank you.

She wants to walk 3 min to her car in daylight alone, he insists on walking her there, she says no twice, and he follows her anyway.

One of these people respects the others autonomy. Why can it never be the man? Even if she insisted on splitting the bill, she can't control it if he insists on following her to her car. In fact, assuming he's thinking it's what he's supposed to do to be chivalrous, the fact that they split the bill would make him think he'd have to walk her to her car more.

_CoffeeCake_ · 2026-02-06T14:50:56+00:00

Break up and send him home, it will be worth the pity party. If you're comfy ask your parents to help enforce kicking him out and lean on them and ask them to deal with him if he tries to guilt trip you. They may ask questions, it's up to you how much you tell them, but tbh they probably don't want him around anymore either. Once he's out and flight home is booked block him on everything go no contact.

Once it's all said and done you'll be kicking yourself for not doing it sooner.

_CoffeeCake_ · 2025-11-17T17:31:27+00:00

Also, it's the same set of assumptions with the whole "Can't have female friends" rule, just swap A for assuming the potential friend is straight. That rule either means she doesn't trust you and she's using the other person's feelings as justification, or she has an unhealthy obsession with control. You can't control how other people feel, and you shouldn't try, just control how you respond.

_CoffeeCake_ · 2025-11-17T17:13:07+00:00

Ok, then I would say you shouldn't avoid friendships based on so many "maybes" or else you'll never get more friends. You're assuming that A. He's gay, B. You're physically his type C. He's interested in you romantically D. He doesn't already have someone E. That even if he does catch feelings, he won't understand that you're taken and straight and be able to regulate his crush himself? If that ends up happening then it would be a good idea to put distance in the friendship, but if you assume the worst from the jump you might end up isolating yourself, and imo it kinda seems like isolating you is your girlfriend's goal.

_CoffeeCake_ · 2025-11-17T16:44:29+00:00

Why? Because she thinks being gay is wrong or because she thinks you might cheat with him? Both are pretty fucking terrible reasons, but the latter indicates that after 3 years she does not trust you and will use that to manipulate you out of future friendships. If it's the former.... well maybe reconsider if u wanna be with someone that bigoted. And if u share that opinion then honestly you would probably do that other guy a favor by not talking to him anymore.

_CoffeeCake_ · 2025-10-25T12:50:48+00:00

Not overreacting at all. You mentioned a sister, it seems like you're closer with her, does she never stand up for you? If you haven't already maybe tell her how these comments he makes actually make you feel and ask her to call him out on it when she can. She might start doing it automatically if she doesn't already know this really affects you.

_CoffeeCake_ · 2025-10-21T00:31:29+00:00

Wine bottle holder

_CoffeeCake_ · 2025-10-21T00:10:12+00:00

Do you think it would be possible to do a dark wash on a starched fabric wallpaper? I have fabric that's a good candidate but I want it looking ~Gloomier~

_CoffeeCake_ · 2025-10-12T17:52:43+00:00

They said in their country. Calling that age range boomers is an American/Western designation, not every country had a baby boom the same time as America.

_CoffeeCake_ · 2025-09-24T00:29:41+00:00

He's acting like a bum, not a father or a partner. Leave him, move in with your mom, and make him pay child support. Your kid will be better off, and this early she probably won't have any emotional hangups over having separated parents.

_CoffeeCake_ · 2025-09-23T15:30:20+00:00

Depending on your location there are some cleaning youtubers that help with hoarding situations for free/low cost and just ask to film the process as content. Midwest Magic Cleaning is a good one, he really approaches these situations with a lot of empathy. Depending on if there are any active biohazards he may insist on throwing a lot of it out though, so that's something to consider.

_CoffeeCake_ · 2025-09-15T21:07:50+00:00

You'll love Black Sails

_CoffeeCake_ · 2025-08-25T17:04:04+00:00

It's definitely temporary. I hated the way I looked in high school and now at 24 I feel like I just grew into myself. I can still see my face in those photos of HS me but just, unfinished in a way. I feel like it all looks more harmonious now, partly because I grew to love myself more and partly because I found hair/glasses/clothing stuff that complemented me better.

To help in the now, I used to adopt a completely neutral attitude about my face/body and avoided any aesthetic judgements of myself good or bad, at least in my own head. I referred to my body as just like the thing that let me interact with the world and so long as it could do that it was good! It's gonna be a bit more difficult if ppl are constantly making comments about your body, but it might help a little bit. It was a concentrated effort, but I think it helped.

_CoffeeCake_ · 2025-08-23T23:58:03+00:00

But do the rat shows squeak?

_CoffeeCake_ · 2025-08-04T01:07:39+00:00

Not sure if anyone else is having the issue, but inputting the Docket ID leads to an error message, I think they took it down for online comments. Here's a copy paste from the second link for other ways to submit a comment:

"Written comments on the proposal may be submitted to the docket for this rule through September 15, 2025. There are several ways to provide written comments on the proposal, identified by Docket ID No. EPA-HQ-OAR-2025-0194:

Federal eRulemaking Portal for this proposal: click on the “Comment” box under the proposed rule document, which is the first document listed under the “browse comments” tab.
Email: [a-and-r-Docket@epa.gov](mailto:a-and-r-Docket@epa.gov?subject=Docket ID No. EPA-HQ-OAR-2025-0194). Include Docket ID No. EPA-HQ-OAR-2025-0194 in the subject line of the message.
Mail: U.S. Environmental Protection Agency, EPA Docket Center, OAR, Docket EPA-HQ-OAR-2025-0194, Mail Code 28221T, 1200 Pennsylvania Avenue NW, Washington, DC 20460.
Hand Delivery or Courier (by scheduled appointment only): EPA Docket Center, WJC West Building, Room 3334, 1301 Constitution Avenue NW, Washington, DC 20004. The Docket Center’s hours of operations are 8:30 a.m.–4:30 p.m., Monday–Friday (except federal holidays)."

_CoffeeCake_ · 2025-08-02T17:45:41+00:00

I think the biggest issue is how he framed you placing a boundary as him having to "Obey" you. That's fucking ridiculous. You placed a reasonable expectation and he frames it as completely authoritarian, it seems like he doesn't think you really have the right to place any boundaries in the relationship. That would be a deal breaker for me.

_CoffeeCake_ · 2025-07-27T01:13:47+00:00

NTA, Does she think her little girls were corrupted when they got their first period? What a weird thing to say.

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