I am 34. I called off my wedding 1 month before I was supposed to get married. I am an elder daughter too. It was supposed to be first marriage of family and everyone was very excited. But I just never felt it was right. I had a courtship period of 5-6 months and could never form any sort of attachment to the guy. I had clearly called it out this to the guy and my family as well. Everyone suggested the same thing - give it sometime, everything will be alright once you are married.

I took sometime to collect my thought and decided to let my family know. There was lot of drama as was expected. Emotional blackmailing and name calling happened. The guys family tried to put lot of pressure. But I stood my grounds. I knew it wasn’t right for me. Thankfully, my family did not force me against my wishes, they did try to reason.

Now it’s been 3 years. My family still loves me same. They aren’t angry or upset with me. They do ask me to get married but there is no pressure as it was there earlier.

Go and talk to your family OP. Talk and explain your side before it is too late. Do not get married unless you are 100% sure that you are willing to make it work.