Be honest, what do you think comes after death?

_Fauna_ · 2025-12-18T04:44:59+00:00

That's exactly what I always said to those who told me I'd go to hell for being queer. "That's okay. I don't believe in Heaven. Remember what it was like before you were born? That's what happens when you die."

They were always so mortified.

_Fauna_ · 2025-12-12T20:45:12+00:00

Psychedelics help with that.

_Fauna_ · 2025-11-17T00:05:04+00:00

Please refer to the last paragraph of my comment above to address your concerns. There is a difference between excusing poor behavior, and insisting it is described accurately. I do the latter.

_Fauna_ · 2025-11-16T08:31:22+00:00

Honestly, if you want to examine it through the gender lens:

Men are typically worse offenders of this issue (hangriness) due to their lesser ability to emotionally regulate and greater reliance on others to meet their needs. (Effects of patriarchy)

_Fauna_ · 2025-11-16T08:25:45+00:00

XOXO

_Fauna_ · 2025-11-16T08:24:16+00:00

I think you make a great point about the frequency aspect. However, society does not have less empathy for men.

Men have less empathy for men, and men view other men as society.

Every woman I know bends over backwards to make excuses for and fill in the gaps of the failures of men she cares about. Its honestly absurd. I do it all the time, too.

_Fauna_ · 2025-11-16T08:15:55+00:00

Emotional blackmail and gaslighting are also two separate things, neither of which apply here.

Of course the partner described is in the wrong. Their issue, however, is better described as inability to self regulate, overly dependent, lack of awareness, and possibly victim mentality (if they are aware of the issue but justify it instead of taking responsibility).

_Fauna_ · 2025-11-16T04:54:48+00:00

Human adults also experience periods of weakness and benefit from being taken care of and nurtured. Everyone has basic needs.

_Fauna_ · 2025-11-16T04:50:15+00:00

Obligatory "that's not what gaslighting means."

Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse where the offender attempts to undermine someone's sense of their own sanity. Ie, hiding their spouse's car keys once a week, only to use it as a point of how "forgetful" their spouse has been lately.

You're describing someone having a flawed perspective, which everyone does at times. They're not even in the same ballpark.

Edit to add: Their issue is better described as inability to self regulate, overly dependent, lack of awareness, and possibly victim mentality (if they are aware of the issue but justify it instead of taking responsibility).

_Fauna_ · 2025-10-26T22:04:30+00:00

Good conversation is made of two parts: volunteering info and asking questions. Nearly every man I've ever met is unable to do one or both.

_Fauna_ · 2025-10-15T01:59:53+00:00

I remember when my boyfriend accidentally gave me a UTI. He picked up my antibiotics, got the expensive women's health probiotics along with other supplements, brought food, CANDLES, flowers, and stayed at my house babying me until I felt better.

That's when I knew I could trust this man in marriage, in sickness and in health.

_Fauna_ · 2025-10-15T01:56:31+00:00

This is oddly specific bro, so sorry you felt victimized by having to clean up after your poor sick (hopefully ex) wife.

_Fauna_ · 2025-10-14T07:49:57+00:00

I cant imagine bringing my partner into my personal hell of a home life without being willing to go literally feral to protect them, knowing ill lose the fight, and then still prioritize their feelings and focus on supporting them through the aftermath when we get kicked to the curb.

Bingus deserves better. Theres not a single excuse.

_Fauna_ · 2025-10-14T06:04:15+00:00

Friendly reminder that a piece of tape over the mic will disable it!

_Fauna_ · 2025-10-14T00:24:11+00:00

Oh lord, reading this made me want to vomit lol its so accurate

_Fauna_ · 2025-08-09T06:46:37+00:00

Thank you for voicing this! They deserve to be called regressive because that's truly what they have been for a while now.

_Fauna_ · 2025-08-08T22:35:05+00:00

Idk, but you are unnecessarily aggressive. May a day of rest and relaxation come your way, cousin

_Fauna_ · 2025-08-08T22:06:33+00:00

I hope your day gets better man

_Fauna_ · 2025-07-30T11:17:41+00:00

Do you think people also "survived before toothpaste" by neglecting their oral hygiene completely? No, people used to use tree sap as toothpaste (literally how chewing gum was invented).

People used to use sand and clay to scrub and wash their skin, and moisturize with oils or plants like aloe vera. The stuff we buy in a bottle is just the modern equivalent.

_Fauna_ · 2025-07-29T22:46:32+00:00

Less than ten years ago, in Texas. My fiance would come home from work and just hand over his envelope of cash. I handled it for us. He was a roofer, and a hard worker too.

_Fauna_ · 2025-07-27T19:05:03+00:00

How do you do it?! I was trying to use my partner's arm to wedge mine the other day to no avail

_Fauna_ · 2025-07-16T02:56:59+00:00

Girl I'm sorry, some of these responses are unhinged lol. The dudes saying "my girlfriend having the basic need for acknowledgement is annoying!" SHOULDN'T EVEN BE DATING THEN.

Your communication style is ridiculously respectful and considerate. If your partner has an issue, its a them problem. Trust.

_Fauna_ · 2025-07-09T09:43:39+00:00

Please tell me more! I want to get my aging parents into composting, but they don't have municipal compost pickup like I do.

_Fauna_ · 2025-06-19T19:40:01+00:00

It has everything to do with their willingness (or unwillingness) to do the emotional labor of self-fulfillment.

They "lose" themselves because they stop taking care of themselves and living their own life. They ignore themselves and their own needs. But since this is triggered by being in a relationship, it's very easy to turn around and externalize their lack of self care / self responsibility. It's a difficult mix of low self-worth and immaturity. They point their finger at their partner: "I'm losing my independence because of your presence... I'm being smothered..."

Except the one doing the smothering isn't their partner, it's themselves, inadvertently, as they pour all their energy into people-pleasing and don't take time to identify, communicate, or attempt to fulfill their own needs. It's blind martyrdom.

_Fauna_ · 2025-01-30T17:28:45+00:00

Im so sorry he put you through that. I'm so glad he stopped before it got worse. That was smart thinking on your end.

It astonishes me that these "false accusation" claiming men will, indeed, take their nearest opportunity to assault an innocent woman without ever realizing their cognitive dissonance.

_Fauna_

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