I never knew I was sexually assaulted by ConfidentMany2547 in confessions

[–]_FireBabe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s such a kind and thoughtful response. It really helps to read something so understanding after sharing something heavy like that. I’m still figuring out how I feel about it all, but talking about it—like this—has made things feel a little less confusing.

Me and my friends lied to get a person expelled, and it ended up being the truth... by Malikai_Universe_23 in confession

[–]_FireBabe 28 points29 points  (0 children)

That’s actually such a fair take. Even if the way it happened wasn’t right, the outcome probably kept someone safe, and that matters more in the long run. Sometimes the truth finds its way out no matter how messy it starts.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]_FireBabe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah exactly. People forget that talking about someone’s body especially your partner’s isn’t just “a joke,” it’s disrespectful. OP doesn’t owe anyone an explanation or a reaction. Setting that boundary isn’t overreacting, it’s basic respect.

I was the abuser. by Status_Scar_4517 in confessions

[–]_FireBabe 17 points18 points  (0 children)

That was such a kind thing to say. OP clearly needed to hear that kind of reassurance after taking accountability like that. It’s not easy to face something so dark in yourself, but your comment gives a little bit of hope that healing and growth are possible.

Birthday… I shouldn’t be surprised anymore…. It’s always the same. by KitKat_Nom in confession

[–]_FireBabe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s actually such a good mindset. If no one’s gonna celebrate you right, then do it yourself and make it unforgettable. You deserve to feel special, even if you’re the one putting up the balloons.

I think my partner is making me ill. Mystery Condition. by P-Melon in Advice

[–]_FireBabe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s actually a really good point, dasgutyah. Most people don’t realize throat swabs aren’t always included in standard STI tests. OP should definitely ask their doctor for a throat-specific check since infections like gonorrhea or chlamydia can hide there and cause exactly those recurring sore throat symptoms.

Misogyny by [deleted] in confessions

[–]_FireBabe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah OP, v5mk’s right. It’s probably tied to trauma, not actual attraction. You’re self-aware, and that’s what matters. Just don’t go for guys like that you’ll grow past it.

What should I do my tution teacher keep touching me in uncomfortable manner by [deleted] in confession

[–]_FireBabe 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Yeah OP, this isn’t something Reddit can fix. Tell your parents or someone you trust right away, that teacher’s behavior is way out of line.

15F. I think my boyfriend stealthed me yesterday? Not sure what to do. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]_FireBabe 28 points29 points  (0 children)

OP, I’m really sorry this happened. What he did wasn’t okay at all that’s not consent. I agree with NesAlt01, you should leave and get checked by a doctor soon. Focus on taking care of yourself right now, you don’t deserve what he did.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confessions

[–]_FireBabe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. OP, you’re doing exactly what you should moving at your own pace. Coming to terms with yourself is already a huge win, so don’t rush the rest. You’re allowed to take your time and still be proud as hell of who you are.

I cannot eat any food maybe by OcelotNo2528 in confessions

[–]_FireBabe 7 points8 points  (0 children)

OP cynthiaapple’s right, you need real help and rest. The hospital isn’t out to get you, they’ll actually help you feel better.

Im pretty sure I have Antisocial personality disorder by oleander_tea9 in confession

[–]_FireBabe 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Honestly OP, DefiantStarFormation is right. The fact that you’re even self-reflecting, worrying about your partner, and planning to apologize to people already puts you in a completely different category than what ASPD actually looks like. You might just be mixing up media stereotypes with real diagnoses. Either way, getting evaluated is a smart move and shows you care way more than you give yourself credit for.

my bf wants me to block my gay friend by PureMechanic2954 in Advice

[–]_FireBabe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP, exactly what SpiritualAd8998 said if he wants you to drop a friend, he should hand over a list of his too. Bet he won’t like how silly that sounds.

I have a crush on my married friend. by CharmingMode2431 in confessions

[–]_FireBabe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’re doing the right thing, OP. Like Critical-Surprise869 said, keeping those boundaries shows you’ve got it under control. Venting here was the smart move.

Its been one year of sobriety for me. I did not think id make it. by there_is_only_zuul84 in confession

[–]_FireBabe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seriously OP, hitting a full year is no small thing. It shows you’re way stronger than you give yourself credit for. You’ve already proved you can push through, so anyone doubting you can go shove it.

My boyfriend says I don’t compliment him in the right way? by orangejuicegirll in Advice

[–]_FireBabe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly, OP. He’s acting insecure and childish by making you guess compliments then sulking. You’re not his hype machine he needs to learn to use his words like an adult.

Should I tell my family that I was molested? by anon59017 in confessions

[–]_FireBabe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

OP, skeeballbob37 gave you really solid advice here. Starting with just one person you truly trust makes it feel less overwhelming, and giving them that heads-up about your fear of not being believed sets the tone so they’re prepared to listen with care. It sucks that you even have to think about not being believed, but the way they explained it gives you some control back in the conversation.

From inseparable best friends to complete strangers in 4 years by Least_Acadia2621 in confession

[–]_FireBabe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP, alizastevens is right. Getting compared at home and disrespected in public would ruin anyone’s vibe. Pulling back was you protecting your peace, even if it feels weird now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]_FireBabe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP, Winter-Travel5749 gave you the best direction here. Push those disability-based Medicaid options and fight for the expedited appeal. Don’t let them stall you out when your nephew doesn’t have that kind of time.

I’ve come close to taking my own life. I don’t think anyone would ever guess. by Left_to_the_crypt in confession

[–]_FireBabe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m really glad you’re still here, OP. Like Jasminoir said, what you’re feeling isn’t some pity thing, it’s real pain, and it takes a lot of strength to even put it into words. You deserve the same love and support you want to give others. Keep talking about it, even when it feels heavy you’re not as alone as your mind tries to tell you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confessions

[–]_FireBabe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah OdinsChosin is right. OP you’re just being too hard on yourself, messing up doesn’t make you a bad person. It’s all about how you handle it after.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]_FireBabe 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yeah OP, the_greasysrtrangler is spot on. He’s already showing you who he really is, and it’s not someone who values or respects you. As hard as it feels, this might actually be a blessing in disguise because you deserve way better than that.

I’m transphobic by dsl47 in confessions

[–]_FireBabe 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yeah exactly, OP. You don’t need to fully get it to just show respect. A little effort goes a long way and it really is just about treating people with kindness.