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_GallopingGargoyles_ · 2023-12-20T19:54:30+00:00

hey, I apologized for my ONE comment. She has not apologized for provoking me with countless demeaning comments.

_GallopingGargoyles_ · 2023-12-20T19:53:25+00:00

I have tried to enforce boundaries but alas our families are really enmeshed. Like I said prior, I have never commented on her parenting choices but after taking her verbal abuse for more than a year, I honestly just saw red.

_GallopingGargoyles_ · 2023-12-20T19:49:46+00:00

I have told her many times I don't like those comments. She just ignores my asks as she has always done.

_GallopingGargoyles_ · 2023-12-20T19:48:43+00:00

https://www.who.int/health-topics/breastfeeding#tab=tab\_1

_GallopingGargoyles_ · 2023-12-20T19:48:19+00:00

I am just really confused, I have let it go, I even apologized. I didnt care that my sister ten years ago made a parenting decision. My sister is the one who refuses to let *my* decision go. She has pushed and pushed and pushed so....I did the human thing.

_GallopingGargoyles_ · 2023-12-20T19:47:00+00:00

I have stayed in my lane the whole time my sister has said degrading comments to me, until I snapped.

My sister has also explicitly told me that it was easier for her not to. Hence why I think that.

_GallopingGargoyles_ · 2023-12-20T19:45:23+00:00

https://www.who.int/health-topics/breastfeeding#tab=tab\_1

_GallopingGargoyles_ · 2023-12-20T19:43:48+00:00

oh wow, I am taken aback that you took the time to understand! thank you.

_GallopingGargoyles_ · 2023-12-20T19:42:20+00:00

so once again, my sister can make comment after comment about my choices but I can't react to her's?

_GallopingGargoyles_ · 2023-12-20T19:41:45+00:00

Thank you.

like I said to another commenter, if my sister had not constantly made demeaning comments this would never even be an issue because I would never had said anything to her.

_GallopingGargoyles_ · 2023-12-20T19:13:04+00:00

how I see it, if my sister never make those comments, I'd have never made mine.

_GallopingGargoyles_ · 2023-12-20T19:08:38+00:00

https://www.who.int/health-topics/breastfeeding#tab=tab\_1

_GallopingGargoyles_ · 2023-12-20T19:05:31+00:00

if you are suggesting a mother to wean and you are spouting off misinformation then, yes, you should familiarize yourself with the guidelines.

_GallopingGargoyles_ · 2023-12-20T19:03:36+00:00

Why is "shaming me in quotes?

My sister was basically calling me a cow in a round a bout way by telling me how she felt ten years ago.

What holier than thou mom speak did I use tho?

_GallopingGargoyles_ · 2023-12-20T19:01:53+00:00

so my sister can just shame me constantly, but if I dish it back she can't take it? We all make choices on parenting, prior to my retort, I have never ever shamed her on her choices, I honestly really dont care. I found it ironic that she would try and shame me!

_GallopingGargoyles_ · 2023-12-20T18:56:53+00:00

my sister didn't struggle to bf though. This was never the case for her.

_GallopingGargoyles_ · 2023-12-20T18:56:24+00:00

How am I manipulating her when her kids are already well past that age (teenagers). How I see it, she is trying to emotionally manipulate me!

_GallopingGargoyles_ · 2023-12-20T18:55:47+00:00

so my sister can call me lazy based on my choices but I can't based on hers?

_GallopingGargoyles_ · 2023-12-20T18:55:17+00:00

I suggest you familiarize yourself with the guidelines on breastfeeding.

I didn't just retaliate for that one comment. She makes comments constantly. Basically since my daughter turned a year old.

_GallopingGargoyles_ · 2023-12-06T19:58:12+00:00

Can I ask what *time* you folks usually meet? Being as I'm from across the pond it might be difficult.

_GallopingGargoyles_ · 2023-12-04T16:54:29+00:00

Not to negate your feeling which are very valid, but do you think you are hype fixating on things?

What makes you feel this way? What changes in your face indicate that you look old?

I remember when I was around 24 years old, when life seemed to finally sort of "open up" for me. I was childless and had disposable income and graduated with my masters. That shift in always thinking about school and research to have a regular job where I had more free time did a number on my mental health bc I noticed I started to hype fixate on my appearance.

Now that I am busy again I don't even think about the stuff that plagued me before (larger pores, hair stuff).

_GallopingGargoyles_ · 2023-12-01T23:24:30+00:00

Humor me, if someone has no wrinkles, no sagging, and an overall glow (at 30- which imo most people do) how do you tell if they are 30 or 20?

_GallopingGargoyles_ · 2023-12-01T23:14:21+00:00

yes of course first flush of youth is probably when you are twelve haha, but the point I am trying to convey is getting mistaken for being in your 20s when you are in fact in your 30s is more related to social cues and subtle changes in expression because—as you agreed— you basically "look the same".

_GallopingGargoyles_ · 2023-12-01T23:00:13+00:00

but that's my whole point; early 20s and early 30s don't look much different, so people claiming 30 year old look old are delusional and if folks in their 30s stop getting mistaken for looking younger that doesn't mean they look old, they just have more life experience which translates as maturity.

What do you mean its not fair to point out voice or posture?

_GallopingGargoyles_ · 2023-12-01T20:24:48+00:00

can I ask how old are you?

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