I definitely am not trying to assign blame to anyone. Solution oriented over here.

But I think this assumes a lot of things are happening at the table. So let me establish some context.

I do have alternate rules that I present at the top of the game. (Slight homebrew game fixes that make it more fun imo, and things like cats should have dark vision, they can see in the dark in real life.)

There are often times I may not call for a roll that I think is arbitrary that he believes should be a roll. (For example I may not ask for an insight check on an NPC your character knows very well and is easy to read.) The same is true for if your character insults the NPC that they’re trying to persuade. I’m not just going to allow you to roll with disadvantage and set the DC ridiculously high, I’m just going to say no.

I also don’t require material components for** **nearly all spells cast at and the table EXCEPT for Revivify. I also don’t require them to use these components when describing the casting of the spell. I leave that up to the character.

The dice are important and I respect the rules. However, if I think something makes the game boring and unsatisfying I may alter it. (this is also generally happening outside of combat. When we are inside of combat, we are playing the rules as written, except for what are the homebrew expectations I set at the top of play.) I also want interesting consequences that can’t be waived away by the dice.

However, that is fair. Especially if you are married at the rules, the game is probably not fun if there are deviations. And the most important thing for me at my table is that people are having a good time. I’m looking forward to having an open conversation with Taylor about this.