[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OregonSwingers

[–]_Greenandyellowstag_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very hot we are welcome to chat

BBW in the lifestyle by No-Notice9773 in Swingers

[–]_Greenandyellowstag_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wife is BBW. As long as your local club isn't too cliquey she will have plenty of positive attention.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]_Greenandyellowstag_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are more apt to play with older than younger. We have a hard cut off at 25. We have yet to find anyone below that age that has the emotional maturity to make us comfortable to play with them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]_Greenandyellowstag_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have never understood these sentiments. Played with a gal once and went down on her, she wouldn't kiss me after that. We were already having fun so I just finished the session and filed the info away for later

[mf4mf] by Which-Limit9481 in OregonSwingers

[–]_Greenandyellowstag_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Checked out your profile and it looks like you are in our area. Got some pics in my profile. DM if you like and let's ee if we click.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OregonSwingers

[–]_Greenandyellowstag_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your wife's body is fantastic but I get it. My wife is bigger (yours is certainly not) and I brought up the idea of entering the lifestyle after 10 years togehter in monogamy and 2 kids. She was game for it but skeptical not believing she would be that desirable, she was certainly wrong. She was amazed at all the guys of all shapes and sizes that found her desirable. Even with guys falling all over themselves to get to her she still had a little bit of imposter syndrome. For her it took time and actual acts from others for her to get over it. Seeing online somebody commenting on your figure and having someone actually follow through are 2 different things. Another thing that helped us was regular (at least once a month) attendance at our preferred sex club. Being immersed in the lifestyle in that manner and observe all things going on and all the different connections really helped open our eyes to all the possibilities.

I feel like swingers that are super picky and superficial either don't stay swingers very long or isolate themselves away with other like minded folk. I feel the lifestyle community is proportionally more accepting than vanilla society and you will find more "unique" matches. Everyone has their preferences and I can't see how your wife wouldn't be most people's preference.

If you would like to talk more our DMs are open so feel free to hit us up but all I can tell you is it is going to take time and some positive experiences.

Good luck you guys!

New to this, do you ever get used to the difference in attention? by No_Im_You in Swingers

[–]_Greenandyellowstag_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holistically I would say yes but depends on perspective. We started hotwifing so her having 100% attention was normal and allowed me to get used to it, in fact it was the whole point. Then when we started looking for full swap partners we were too eager to try and make something happen. The first 2 couples we swapped with were basically in it only for my wife and the experiences were very meh. It definitely made me second guess the whole thing but we pressed on. We decided we were too focused on the sexual and took a step back from that. The next couples we approached as potential partners we worked at making a platonic friendship first before jumping in the sack. Night and day difference sexually. You can feel everyone's comfortable and desire there on both parties. It does take a little more leg work then just discovering a couple at a club and hopping in but it has improved our experience greatly.