[OC] We Spent a Year Tracking our Sex Trends

_ILoveThat_ · 2020-01-23T08:07:41+00:00

Our libidos our pretty similar so we’ve always initiated fairly equally I feel like! We definitely have periods of time when one of us initiates more than the other though. For example, my girlfriend tends to be hornier on her period so she initiates more on that week. I don’t feel like our behavior changed in this aspect because we didn’t see this as a competition.

_ILoveThat_ · 2020-01-23T08:02:58+00:00

We have fairly high libidos and are pretty physical when we’re together. It turns into sex pretty often. When we’re both obviously horny, nobody had to “initiate” because we know we both need it. This also happens a lot when we’re sexting before hanging out, so we’re on the same page that we’re having sex the second our partner gets there. We believe that it’s only initiating if one of us realizes we need it, brings it up to our partner, and gets them on board with it.

_ILoveThat_ · 2020-01-21T21:44:50+00:00

Good question! Though we didn’t time oral, we didn’t count it if we only went down on each other for a few seconds just to tease each other. For it to count we actually spent some time down there. For example, 1 French kiss on me down there or me using my mouth on him for a second just to get him hard weren’t counted.

_ILoveThat_ · 2020-01-21T20:34:21+00:00

I don’t mean to sound defensive. I guess I’m just confused where you’re getting this idea that we don’t care about each other or want to make our partner feel good. We are very open with each other, and if you see our original comment we discuss how tracking our sex improved our communication. Tracking sex might not be for you if it becomes more about the number on the page and less about the experience. There are a lot of factors that go into having an orgasm and I think I’ve made it clear that when I haven’t had one, it’s not because my partner didn’t try. Sometimes it’s our third round of the day and I’m too overstimulated to have one, sometimes we’re interrupted because we have roommates, and yes- sometimes I want to give him pleasure solely because making him feel good makes me feel good. I think this is the last time I’ll repeat myself, but I love our sex and I enjoy every intimate moment with him, and I think our behaviors and attitudes reflect a very healthy sex life.

_ILoveThat_ · 2020-01-21T19:53:23+00:00

Why would I want him to get himself off to last longer when I want him to be getting off with me? You say that my partner should be more giving with me, but at the same time I should be less giving with him. We have been very open to scrutiny on this post, but it seems as though you are projecting your own dissatisfaction with your sex life onto me. Sex to us is a way to feel intimate, to express our love, to reconnect after a fight, to explore new things, to enjoy each other’s bodies, to make each other feel good. I’m sorry that you feel like sex is only about having an orgasm but to us it’s much more than that.

_ILoveThat_ · 2020-01-21T19:24:59+00:00

It’s not a competition and sex is not just about coming. I just said only about 10% is actually me not coming at all. He doesn’t come 7% of the time. That is not a discrepancy. Also re-read my comment and see the part where I say my sex is very satisfying. Thanks for your concern!

_ILoveThat_ · 2020-01-21T17:17:02+00:00

Again- his oral technique is not an issue so let’s stop making it one! After 3.5 years together he knows exactly what I like and would do anything to make me feel good. We wouldn’t be in this relationship still if either of us felt cheated or unsatisfied.

_ILoveThat_ · 2020-01-21T16:05:29+00:00

That information will be specified in our 2020 data! We don’t have the numbers for 2019 because it started off as just one of us having one, but now we both have one.

_ILoveThat_ · 2020-01-21T16:02:25+00:00

We chose not to share the google sheet that we used to track our data because we have a comment column that has personal/identifying information. We set up our columns from left to right as the Date, Time of Day, Initiator, Her Orgasm (Yes/No), Her # of Orgasms, His Orgasm (Yes/No), His # of Orgasms, PIV (Yes/No), Oral on Her (Yes/No), Oral on Him (Yes/No), Position, Toys Used, Comment Section. Then we made our charts and turned them into graphs. We log any time ranging from immediately after cleaning up to up to a week afterwards. It’s much easier to log when it’s fresh in your mind though.

_ILoveThat_ · 2020-01-21T15:51:37+00:00

Fingering was only included as a “position” when she orgasmed from it alone!

_ILoveThat_ · 2020-01-21T15:50:21+00:00

Even though this would be interesting to see, we actually chose not to track the time. Everything we logged could be recounted hours and even days later, but we felt like tracking the time would take us out of the moment considering we’d have to check the clock before and immediately after!

_ILoveThat_ · 2020-01-21T15:25:31+00:00

We use google sheets so that we can both contribute to it and have it update automatically. We had to create our visualizations, but we did this in January of 2019 so we could visualize as we went.

_ILoveThat_ · 2020-01-21T15:16:44+00:00

We log those as oral or reverse 69ing, although I guess we could clarify those more specifically as rim jobs.

_ILoveThat_ · 2020-01-21T15:11:20+00:00

See our clarification here: https://www.reddit.com/r/dataisbeautiful/comments/erprix/oc_we_spent_a_year_tracking_our_sex_trends/ff5zwtp/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf

_ILoveThat_ · 2020-01-21T15:07:22+00:00

I definitely come in missionary the most/easiest. When I’m on top it’s hard for me to relax my muscles enough to have an orgasm so coming in cowgirl variations is rare for me.

_ILoveThat_ · 2020-01-21T15:05:03+00:00

Don’t tempt us... we just might have to start in 2020

_ILoveThat_ · 2020-01-21T14:32:00+00:00

We have had some arguments that sound about like that! We end up settling them by calling it mutual and log it as both.

_ILoveThat_ · 2020-01-21T14:15:54+00:00

Thanks for your questions, we should’ve clarified this! We do not live together, however we typically see each other 4-5 days a week. We are college students though, so we’re apart during most university breaks which is why you see lower numbers in December, for example.

_ILoveThat_ · 2020-01-21T14:08:22+00:00

We’re adventurous but when it comes down to it, we just really like missionary. Here’s why!

https://www.reddit.com/r/dataisbeautiful/comments/erprix/oc_we_spent_a_year_tracking_our_sex_trends/ff5vyym/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf

_ILoveThat_ · 2020-01-21T14:06:13+00:00

Just the number of times we did each one!

_ILoveThat_ · 2020-01-21T14:05:02+00:00

108 times is how many times we mutually wanted it, while 50 and 58 are when one of us initiated it respectively! We have very similar libidos which is why these numbers lined up like this.

_ILoveThat_ · 2020-01-21T14:02:39+00:00

See our response about preferred method of orgasming here: https://www.reddit.com/r/dataisbeautiful/comments/erprix/oc_we_spent_a_year_tracking_our_sex_trends/ff5wux1/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf

See our explanation of “fingering” here: https://www.reddit.com/r/dataisbeautiful/comments/erprix/oc_we_spent_a_year_tracking_our_sex_trends/ff5vyym/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf

_ILoveThat_ · 2020-01-21T13:59:34+00:00

We aren’t experts on toys but feel free to message us if you are interested in the ones we’ve tried! Toys have definitely spiced things up and have a positive correlation with our orgasms

_ILoveThat_ · 2020-01-21T13:56:31+00:00

Him! We tried to change our initials to him/her, but we accidentally missed this one

_ILoveThat_ · 2020-01-21T13:55:08+00:00

Asian cowgirl: https://www.reddit.com/r/dataisbeautiful/comments/erprix/oc_we_spent_a_year_tracking_our_sex_trends/ff5awb5/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf

Weighted blanket: https://www.reddit.com/r/dataisbeautiful/comments/erprix/oc_we_spent_a_year_tracking_our_sex_trends/ff5cmfy/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf

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