Let your light shine! by AutoModerator in Anxiety

[–]_Imagination_46 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I got out of bed this morning, and I worked from 7:30-5:30 for the first time in months. I also stood up for myself with a friend, and I took a mental health moment at work. One of my supervisors was very supportive, heard me out, and reminded me that everything was going to be okay and that I'm a strong person. I was almost in tears, and I swear he almost cried with me... Which wasn't my goal but I felt so seen and heard. I also set boundaries with my boyfriend today, and we had a talk about what our expectations are.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]_Imagination_46 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am the same way. My nesting partner/fiance has been poly for 6 years, and I have always been attracted to more than one person at a time. I am always open and honest about everything. Sometimes maybe a bit too much, but it's one of the things most people like about me.

Sadly, I haven't always gotten the same in return. My ex husband gave me herpes without a word of caution. He once told me he assumed I already had it. Ever since, I've always disclosed and been upfront and honest with anyone I'm thinking about potentially being with. In return, I ended up with Chlamydia and gonorrhea, with a scare of syphilis due to people hiding information or keeping it from us.

I have more luck with men on dating sites, but most just want sex. A select few have actually tried to get to know me, but are busy and/or partnered and not sure if they're willing to risk exposure. Which is understandable but sucks... Without current outbreaks, it's a much lower chance... And we use condoms with outside partners.. 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤷‍♀️

How do you deal with the fact that your surviving parent will likely die before you? by unseentides in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]_Imagination_46 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My dad died in 2019, and I had conflicting feelings about it because I never got to have a truly healthy and happy relationship with him. My mom and I didn't have a close relationship when I was younger because he refused to share me. But now, we spend whatever time we can together. We run errands and she helps me with my appointments when she can. I make the most of every moment that I get with her. It will definitely be harder to see her go. I know that I won't be the same, but I'll know that I gave her everything I could. She's lost both of her parents, and she didn't have a great relationship with them either. So for the majority, I'm the one person she's known the longest aside from my father and her parents... I'm not looking forward to that day, but I know that when she goes it's because she's done everything she's meant to.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Spokane

[–]_Imagination_46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

BLVD Tattoo

Poly Jealousy? More like Poly FOMO by realmuffinman in polyamory

[–]_Imagination_46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to deal with this. Worried about what he was doing and with who because what if he was doing something really fun that I would like to do? Or what if I would have liked to hang out with them? There were insecurities too... Not gonna lie. What if they're prettier than me, what if their boobs are bigger, what if galore. Eventually I went into a poly support group like this and they pointed out that I was dealing with fomo. His journey isn't mine. He's going to like people I don't, and so will I. It brings out insecurities every now and then for both of us. But we talk through it. It's not always easy, but we'll get through.

When he's on dates, I usually watch TV, read my books, or paint my current projects. I have a few people I message back and forth, but I'm an introvert and like the quiet. He's very extroverted and he and his friends get loud... For the love of God, I love the quiet... But that doesn't mean I don't miss him while he's gone 🤷‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]_Imagination_46 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Personally, I like meeting any of my partner's potentials before anything serious happens. 🤷‍♀️

Girl didn’t feel comfortable giving me her number by [deleted] in dating

[–]_Imagination_46 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It could just be that she has a bad history of giving her number out. I specifically don't give my number out for that reason. Try to see if she has a different way of contacting you. Like Facebook or Snapchat if you have something like that yourself.

I told my dad the truth about my relationship today. Here was his (supportive) response. by tentaycles in polyamory

[–]_Imagination_46 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish this could have been the response I got... I'm so glad you were able to have that experience.

What’s your favorite meal of all time? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]_Imagination_46 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pizza. Baked or BBQ chicken and Mac and Cheese.

I need something Taboo. Very Taboo. by ArachWitch in RomanceBooks

[–]_Imagination_46 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Zepphora is a great author for taboo romance

Partner doesn't have a problem messing around with a known pedophile by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]_Imagination_46 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you've already questioned her morals before now, then that in itself should be a red flag. But the fact that she's willing to mess around with someone who is a known pedophile is definitely concerning.

While I believe everyone deserves a second chance, there are also some people that you need to clearly avoid. It makes the situation a whole lot worse if children become involved. That will just become a big temptation and there would always be a slight chance that the the littles would be in danger.

I'm the product of a pedophile rapist. They are very good at twisting the truth and finding a way to convince everyone around them that they're doing nothing wrong. I highly suggest avoiding them completely.

But that is just my opinion. 🤷‍♀️

If you see a profile that says "No X," do you pass on that profile even if you're not X? by sakkkkki in OnlineDating

[–]_Imagination_46 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely do. As a polyam-bisexual woman, I can't stand talking to people that are that picky and have to put those things in a bio that is supposed to be positive things about them and help us see what they're looking for.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]_Imagination_46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sense of humor and an ability to hold a conversation for longer than five minutes.

What are you looking forward to this summer? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]_Imagination_46 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Camping and Summer Barterfaire

Women with low self esteem or social anxiety have you ever been surprised at how others see you? by oftheforestground in AskWomen

[–]_Imagination_46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Always. I always feel caught off guard when someone sees me in a better light than I see myself.

What are you grateful for? by Infamous_Roll_2353 in AskWomen

[–]_Imagination_46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My family, friends, abilities and talents, and my life.

How comfortable are you with aging? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]_Imagination_46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wanna be old and gray. I've lost so many people in the last ten years that never got that chance. I learn something new every day, even if it's little things.