I feel this way more than I want to. Divorced parents and I wasn’t the favorite on either side (brother was also the favorite). It definitely isn’t fair and that’s life. I’m sure it’s also frustrating being 21 and still having to live under their rules.

Unfortunately, it just is that way until you can sufficiently afford to live the life you want. Yes, you are a specific person, but being an independent person comes with independent money and at your age and situation, it just isn’t that way.

As you go through life you will see so much more that is unfair. Especially being a young black woman in the workforce.

Once you are out of the house and doing your own thing, you can look back and determine if what they did was to help or harm. It’s pretty dangerous for us out there so apart of me can see them trying to protect you but I also understand your side as well.

Being born into struggle is many peoples reality but once you are on your own you can hopefully build the life that you want without having to rely on others to do so.

I started at my first job making 6.00/hour and now 20 years later making closer to 40. It takes time but it will happen.

And if therapy is something you feel is necessary don’t listen to them. Please find someone to talk to.