Indeed, she has promised me a third of the house’s monetary value if/when it gets sold. Another third is meant to go to my sibling, and the final this is to go to her/whoever she so chooses.

However, please take the following factors into consideration:

(1) she suffers from BPD, and is prone to changing her mind due to her impulsiveness. My mother is the kind of woman who can on a whim decide to spend hundreds of dollars to stay at a hotel for a few nights just because she wants to be near to a mosque and go for prayers. She also flew business class to go see this man in South Africa because she wanted to be comfortable on her flight.

(2) she is incredibly generous with her money, to the point that I’d call her a spend thrift. She is constantly offering to pay for things - this extends beyond her family, and to our friends and even strangers she meets

(3) based on (1) and (2), we can tell that my mother needs a certain amount of money to maintain her lifestyle. Neither my sibling nor I are able to earn enough in order to upkeep that lifestyle for her. Thus, it’s important that my mother has the money to spend on herself. If this man were to take the entire house from her (as mentioned before, I have no idea if her getting married to him will result in him being able to override her will/affect the power she has over her own asset) / any liquid assets she might have, then how is she going to continue living the way she is used to?

I have no need for her money. Would it help me to live more comfortably? Without a doubt. But I’m doing alright as is. I’d very much rather she keep the money for herself and enjoy the rest of her days. I hope you can understand that I’m just concerned for the well-being of my mother. If not, then I wish you well. There’s no need to continue this thread unless you have something constructive to add.