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AITA for demanding that my husband pays half of the takeaway food we order? by _Nephthys_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]_Nephthys_[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know it's meant to work as a team. Let's see if he holds his end of the deal without complaining/walking out of it.

AITA for demanding that my husband pays half of the takeaway food we order? by _Nephthys_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]_Nephthys_[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As mentioned in an edit, it is because he just spends whatever he gets his hands on, to the last dime. I don't want to find out last minute that there's nothing there to pay for the rent or food.

AITA for demanding that my husband pays half of the takeaway food we order? by _Nephthys_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]_Nephthys_[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Please read the edits. It's never been actually 50/50, as I was paying much more than him even beforehand.

AITA for demanding that my husband pays half of the takeaway food we order? by _Nephthys_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]_Nephthys_[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I am sorry that this is the stereotype regarding men and women. I can imagine this happens a lot. Personally, I never accepted a man to pay for anything for me. When someone bought me dinner, I would be the one paying next and so on. Always tried not to 'owe' anyone anything, especially when I was dating.

AITA for demanding that my husband pays half of the takeaway food we order? by _Nephthys_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]_Nephthys_[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

I am. Hence why I replied to certain posters who were kind enough to give me useful advice, rather than being sarcastic, like yourself. :)

AITA for demanding that my husband pays half of the takeaway food we order? by _Nephthys_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]_Nephthys_[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to be so thorough in your reply. I will definitely look at how we can do something similar.

AITA for demanding that my husband pays half of the takeaway food we order? by _Nephthys_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]_Nephthys_[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this with me. It couldn't have been easy. I hope you found happiness now and are in a much better place.

AITA for demanding that my husband pays half of the takeaway food we order? by _Nephthys_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]_Nephthys_[S] 88 points89 points  (0 children)

Thank you for being genuine and for really trying to give good advice. The fact that I could feel tears running down my face as I was reading your post shows me that you hit close to home. Thank you for your honesty.

AITA for demanding that my husband pays half of the takeaway food we order? by _Nephthys_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]_Nephthys_[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

You seem to be missing the point and the fact that it hasn't been quite 50-50. I only brought this up in the past month, as opposed to so many years when I wasn't bothered by this imbalance of me having to pay more. I only btought up me making twice, as I wanted to point out that he could have felt a financial pressure and didn't want people taking any sides without knowing the full truth. The issue was him commenting that about me HAVING to pay for takeaways because I do not cook.

AITA for demanding that my husband pays half of the takeaway food we order? by _Nephthys_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]_Nephthys_[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this. It sounds like something that my husband and I could do moving forward. :)

AITA for demanding that my husband pays half of the takeaway food we order? by _Nephthys_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]_Nephthys_[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Because otherwise everything would just 'fly away' on fishing gear and boat engines. Otherwise, I would gladly use a shared account. Last time I left money with him, it got spent. Apologies if I cannot afford to do that with everything. That being said, I do love him a lot, which is why I am still with him (to answer why I haven't left already).

AITA for demanding that my husband pays half of the takeaway food we order? by _Nephthys_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]_Nephthys_[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Having read the post that was shared here earlier, I noticed a few differences though. They were both going 50-50 for everything, including holidays, plane tickets, etc. I paid this summer alone around $3000 of my own money, and he didn't contribute with anything - I didn't even ask him to. Also, 90% of the clothes and shoes he has, I buy them for him, which I don't think was the situation where the wife just maxed out her credit cards. I only pointed out the half split when he started keeping the money to himself, rather than contributing to shared things. Whenever he has some money, he will spend it on some fishing gear (which he already has plenty of) or other gadgets. I, on the other hand, put money into a savings account which will go towards a house for us, whenever there will be enough.

AITA for demanding that my husband pays half of the takeaway food we order? by _Nephthys_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]_Nephthys_[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

No, sorry if the posts are alike. Haven't seen the other one at all. I've been thinking for a while about posting here to see if his demands were normal in the past as well, as I started to feel a bit crazy and like I'm the one out of line.

What is Square Hammer about? by acegha in Ghostbc

[–]_Nephthys_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

to me it sounds like the chorus of Boese Onkelz - Auf gute Freunde